Tuesday, December 29, 2009
So you’ve pulled out all your best moves and have made progress with the beautiful woman been dating. When you finally get to the point when you feel your relationship is going to the next level, she smiles and says: "I'm married." That information would have been nice to have known at the beginning of the relationship.
Most married women who cheat on their husbands claim that they do it because their husband has either been unfaithful, controlling since they've been married or use the excuse that she just hasn't been happy in years. While some of these statements may be true, most married women often have affairs due to purely selfish desire and sheer boredom.
In the very beginning of this type of relationship, you will see a lot of your new lover. Secret dates will be established and the excitement along with some short term dramatic and passionate sex will make you feel alive. While this may sound good for a little while, you have to realize that when you're dating a married woman, you are not a couple-- so don't fool yourself. Sure you may act like a couple when you are together, but you aren't.
At some point you'll get tired of having to sneak a kiss or a hug, ducking and dodging, having to meet somewhere secretly to be together and spending all your money on a woman who's not yours and who still sleeps with her husband. This type of manipulative woman will constantly tell you lies and fill your head with promises that she'll leave her husband when the time is right so the two of you can get married and "live happily ever after." However, in most cases, that time will never come.
So, what should you do if you find yourself approached with this situation? You should move on with your life and find a woman who is not already taken. Never fool yourself here--if you're looking for a strong, committed relationship, dating a married woman is a complete waste of time.
Consider the impact having an affair with a married person will have on your self-image. Besides wrecking other people's lives, being the "other man" will sap your dignity and self-worth despite what approach you may take. If you really value and understand yourself and you truly believe that there are some single, high-quality women out there, why would you waste your time dating a woman who's already taken?
Sunday, December 27, 2009
What happens when you are stuck in a bad relationship with a woman and you're on the verge of breaking up with her, but she's willing to whatever it takes to keep you in her life and make sure you take care of her --even getting pregnant on purpose?
Everybody knows that unless a woman decides to artificially inseminate herself, conceiving a child takes is a two person act and if you decide to have unprotected sex with a woman, then you should be man enough to accept the consequences. However, there are some desperate women out there who feel that their relationship is so bad that they need to trap the man and get pregnant just so he'll stay with her and hopefully marry her.
These women insist on having unprotected sex and usually use lines like "I can't feel it with the condom on--just take it off" and attempt to use guilt trips on you, i.e., "If you love me, why do you need a condom?" These women will intentionally stop using their birth control without the man knowing and will even go as far as tampering with condoms prior to intercourse, i.e., putting a pin through their boyfriend's condom package without the guy ever suspecting it.
These manipulative women who perform these awful acts of immaturity have tunnel vision for their lives and in a way feel that they have to "fight for their man." This type of woman wants the man she's with to be with her for the rest of her life only because she doesn't think it's possible to find someone else to love her. They think that being with a man is the key to their happiness, suffer with low self esteem, think very poorly of themselves and feel that "If you have a baby with him, he is yours forever."
The main reason why these women are willing to get pregnant on purpose in order to keep a man is how they were raised thinking about life, men, and marriage. These women are raised to be gold diggers and to depend on men as much as possible--not in how to take care of and support themselves. Many of them have been taught that when they get pregnant by a guy, he is suppose to take care of her and the baby and that even if he goes off and dates another woman, he would eventually always have to come back to her. They fail to realize that a child is not going to fix it as it is well-known that a great percentage of men who become daddies don't marry their "Baby's Mamas."
Ensure that you utilize your own protection and keep it on your person until it's time to utilize it. Avoid accepting condoms from a woman (especially a desperate one) and never, ever take her word that she's on birth control. A woman who insists on having unprotected sex prior to marriage is usually one to avoid.
If you don't want to continue the relationship with her now, think about how you'll always have a bond with her for the rest of her life by sharing a child together. If you want to avoid the fighting, drama and chaos that comes with dealing with a baby's mama, it would be wise to end all sexual relations with a woman that you're ready to break up with any way and move on while you still can without any attachments!
Saturday, December 26, 2009
You have to realize that not all lingerie is romantic, for example, something like, say, crotchless panties and baby doll tops could be seen as slutty and more of a gift for you takes the romance right out of it. When it comes to this gift, you have to think sensuous and you need to know what sort of lingerie your your woman would like.
Take a look at the lingerie she already owns and see if she wears lacy thongs, camis and baby dolls or if she tends to stick with silk, satin and lace robes, slip dresses and simple bra tops with matching panties. Remember that part of your woman feeling sexy is feeling comfortable. If the item you buy her is too tight, falls off of her or is made of cheap material that irritates her skin, it defeats the purpose. If you don’t know her size, include the gift receipt so that she can exchange it.
When she's wearing the lingerie you selected for her, tell her how beautiful you think she is and how good she looks in it. Expressing how much you like her body in her new items may encourage her to be happier with her self image, awaken her sexuality and could be even more fun for you when she wears them!
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Baldness, when embraced rather than artificially covered up, promotes an aura of rugged masculinity and confidence. To most women, male confidence is hot regardless of the amount of hair a guy has or doesn't have. The majority of women do not care if you are bald and actually feel that a bald man is more free-spirited and low maintenance. Most women would probably choose a bald man with self-confidence over a Fabio with self-esteem issues who clutters the medicine cabinet with male beauty products.
Women have preferences just like men, so let's face it--not all women will love you as a bald man. The bald look is going to look good on some guys and downright goofy on others. On the other hand, any woman who is focused on your hair is ignoring your better qualities anyway.
Monday, December 21, 2009
You ask a woman out, you pay. That’s how it goes. But what happens when you've taken a woman out on several expensive dates at some really nice places and she hasn’t once even offered to put a dime into the evenings?
Not so long ago, the answer to the "who should pay?" question was a fairly easy one, but that's not the case anymore. These days, men should think critically about this and question it. The ideal dating scenario consists of both sides working together to make things works. Although with the traditional etiquette of a gentleman, guys have always been taught that it's the right thing to do, there does come a time when the financial load should be shared.
While many women feel that they should never pay for a date until they're in a committed relationship, it doesn't hurt for a woman to at least offer to pick up the tab or even offer to help pay the tab every now and then.
First couple of dates aside, though, men shouldn't expect to pay for every date during the first couple of months. If she initiates the date, allowing her to pay when shows that she has respect to you and it makes a statement of equality for her. If you've been together for a while and she just continues to push that check across the table for you to take care of, that should be your sign that she's just using you.
Friday, December 18, 2009
While most women will admit that they like a man who is a challenge, most guys will ignore this and make mistakes that run women off, i.e., bombarding her with phone calls and text messages, making themselves too available, being overly nice and agreeable ( a wuss) and expressing their feelings early on.
When a man is too available and says yes all the time, there is a good chance a woman won’t like it and see it as a sign of weakness or lack of confidence. If a woman thinks she has you figured out and can get you too easily, she will get bored. By learning to keep mystery in your dating, you'll create a challenge for women and really engage their mind's and emotions.
Creating a challenge for a woman means making yourself important in her eyes by not being too accessible and keeping her waiting--but not too long, or someone else might beat you to her! Feed her a little bit, but keep her curiosity growing and her interest in you will do the same. By doing that you will always keep a woman guessing which is good, because you will always be on her mind.
Have you ever heard the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it's true. You have to give her a chance to miss you, and the anticipation alone of meeting you again will make the next meeting between the two of you that much more exciting.
So let her wonder where you are, whom you're with and where you're going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think. Remember the laws of attraction. Women don't feel attraction for men that are predictable--they feel attraction for men who are a challenge.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Women have a desire to be loved and cared for, yet there are some things that desperate women do that can actually mess up their dating lives and cause men to become distant and aloof. Here's a list of 5 warning signs to help you determine if a woman is desperate for a date or relationship.
1. She wants everything you want
At first, having a woman who wants whatever you want, thinks whatever you think seems great. Soon enough, you'll get tired of dating someone without opinions, without interests and without an identity.
2. She has no particular type of guy
A desperate woman is not looking for that certain someone so much as she's looking for that certain anyone. She's a persistent serial dater and her past is a continuous series of relationships--and all of her boyfriends are very different from each other.
3. She's on a self-imposed timeline
A desperate woman wants to get married as soon as possible and will have everything planned for the sucker that falls into her trap. After just a couple of dates, she'll want you to meet her parents, and after a few more weeks, she'll be telling "I love you." The next week, she'll be picking out the color of her bridesmaids’ dresses and the names of her future children.
4. She's constantly fishing for compliments
The desperate woman has emotional baggage, low self-esteem, a poor self-image and needs to constantly hear how great she is and be assured of things. It won't take long for you to get tired of constantly stroking her ego.
5. She will overly call, email, and text you
The desperate woman makes the fatal mistake of overly calling, emailing or sending you text messages early in a relationship, even when you haven't returned any of her messages. What these women don't realize is that guys find it annoying when they're having their phone blown up with excessive calls, text messages and emails more than several times a day.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
For guys, one of the benefits of being in a long-term relationship is that you have a woman that you can depend on for regular sex. Some women have sex with a guy in the beginning of the relationship to "land him," but once they have him where they want him, they don't feel that they need to have sex with him anymore.
While some manipulative women make a habit of withholding sex from their partners, others avoid sexual contact under very specific circumstances. Here are some of the top excuses women use to get out of sex with their men and see what each one means.
1. "I'm too tired"
Maybe your woman isn't interested in sex because she is just overwhelmed with obligations lately, i.e. work, workouts, classes, cleaning the apartment and cooking you dinner. It may also be a case of you wanting to do it more often than she does, and she just can’t keep up. Other life demands might be stressing her out and keeping her busy too, making her too worn out to enjoy sex as often as you’d like. Although she may be tired from all these activities, this line could also be translated as "You're not worth staying awake for".
2. "I'm not in the mood"
Could be a good reason, especially if she's sick, irritated or just simply having a bad day. On the other hand could also be translated as "You don't get me off anymore". If your girlfriend refuses to have sex with you, it could be that she's tired of the same routine every time and simply has lost interest in sex with you. So instead of telling you what’s wrong, she might just close up shop.
3. "I've got a headache"
Having a headache once in awhile is okay, that means it's a real reason; however, having that same headache every time you initiate turns in to excuse and translates into her simply withholding sex from you.
4. "I'm mad at you"
The last thing a woman wants to do when she’s mad, sad, frustrated, annoyed is get busy between the sheets. Probably the most common reason that women withhold sex, most women cannot be intimate with a man they're angry with. When your girlfriend is mad at you, the solution is to find out why she’s upset and try to fix it. Sometimes simply acknowledging that you’ve done something wrong is enough to make her calm down.
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Sunday, December 6, 2009
If you've been with your girlfriend for a while, you probably know some things about her father already; however, if you don't, ask your girlfriend about some basic things about him, i.e., his line of work, whether he's serious or has a sense of humor, etc.. Finding out as much as you can about her father will show her that you are interested in her family life, especially if you two are making the transition to the serious stage.
When meeting her dad for the first time, remember that you will be judged by everything, especially your appearance matters. Going to meet her dad in shorts filled with holes or acid-washed jeans, a wife-beater and flip-flops is not a good idea. On the other hand, you don't have to wear a suit and tie either-- just be presentable. Dress smart but casual, get a fresh haircut and trim your nails. Make sure everything is clean and neat, nothing too baggy.
Most men, especially older ones, judge another man by the way he shakes hands, so give the him a firm handshake. You must also be able to carry on a conversation, so when you meet him anticipate the most difficult questions, i.e., your plans for your future, your background, your ability to take care of yourself (and his daughter) and mainly your commitment to his daughter. Avoid heavy or controversial subjects; this is not the time to air views on politics. But if you are asked for your opinion, be honest, but don't be 'Yes' man.
Although you should be considerate of your girlfriend at all times, be extra polite and considerate of her in her father's presence. Pull back her chair for her at dinner, open doors for her, etc.. Her dad should see you treating his daughter like the princess that he believes she is, not the hottie you believe her to be.
When it's time to leave, you must close the deal and leave her dad with a good impression. Remain confident, let him know that you had a great time, and give him another firm exit handshake--the kind that says " I can take care of your daughter". If your a younger couple and he says something like, “Have her home by midnight,” let him know that you will have her home earlier than that curfew.
Impressing her mom is one thing, but fathers will always have a harder time accepting any new man in their daughter's life. Her dad will always be an obstacle, but if tackled properly, you can get on his good side and stay there.
Saturday, December 5, 2009
First off, take it slow and realize that this is no doubt a very confusing and difficult time for her. Women with emotional baggage can be very vulnerable at this point, so give her time to heal and sort through her emotions. If you want the relationship to move forward , take this opportunity to learn more about her and avoid rushing into things and become too attached. You also have to recognize that because of at least one bad experience with a man, this, she may be a bit careful and more protective of her emotions, no matter how well you treat her.
After being with someone for a long period of time, it can be extremely difficult to be alone, so make sure that she's not just jumping into a relationship with you just because she's lonely. Another issue is that she could still have feelings for her ex, and it's always a possibility that if her ex tries to come back into her life, she may take him back.
Check to see if she still wears her wedding ring. If she does, that could be a sign that she isn't quite ready to start dating yet. Is it marriage she wants or is it just a casual fling that she is pursuing? Talk with her to see where she sees this relationship going and make sure that you're not just the fall guy.
If she's a divorced mother, you must understand that the relationship is a package deal. Being faced with the scope of her parenting responsibilities may take away from the romance between the two of you. Remember, when dating a single mom, make every effort to make a good impression on her kids and no matter how you feel about her ex, NEVER badmouth him in front of their children. This will cause your date's children to resent you and that will greatly lower the odds of your relationship working out and progressing.
It is indeed possible to have a great and fulfilling relationship with a divorced woman, just remember to take it slow, evaluate what you really want and see what happens from there.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
The state of your hands tells a lot about your general cleanliness and hygiene. A woman loves a well-groomed man, and you can bet that she'll be checking out your hands and fingernails before she lets you rub them all over her body. No woman wants to be touched with rough, jagged-edged fingernails and the last thing you want to do is cut or scratch your lady.
Most guys think that caring for their hands is for the metrosexual man; however, manicures have become more accepted as part of a man's overall grooming. A big part of keeping yourself up includes maintaining healthy hands and fingernails because do so portrays confidence and most importantly, cleanliness. You don't have to be the "Metrosexual Man" or even necessarily need to get weekly manicures to keep your hands in good shape, but you at least need to use a nail clipper to trim them and a nail file to make sure there are no blunt edges.
The recommended length for a man's fingernails is generally 1 to 2 millimeters. Any more than that is not very aesthetically pleasing. If you enjoy exploring your lady's secret garden, you must realize that if your hands aren't clean, she won't let you anywhere near her soft spot and risk giving her an infection. The vagina is fleshy and dirt may cause infection while jagged fingernails may cause internal bodily harm to your woman.
Naturally, if you cleaned yourself well in the shower, there likely won't be any dirt in your fingernails. But if there is, dig it out! Remember, you can be smart, funny, and handsome, but if you can't take care of basic hygiene-- forget it.
When starting a relationship, sometimes it takes days, weeks or even months before you discover a woman's true intentions. It's difficult to spot a gold digger from the first encounter because they can hide their true selves much deeper than their outer skin. Here are some ways to spot a gold digger.
The female gold digger is usually an attractive woman who has a large pool of potential mates to choose from. Gold digger women tend to talk a lot and usually give themselves away during the first few minutes of a date. Most gold diggers dress like high-class call girls, but talk like college professors.
Gold diggers are very manipulative women who mainly prey on men that have nice, exotic cars and plenty of income to spend on them and support their lifestyle. They focus conversations on your assets, such as the house you live in, the car you drive or the business you own. Gold diggers pretend to be interested in you by asking questions about your occupation so they can discover your job title and measure your earnings' potential.
The life of a gold digger is usually spent trying to get all they can out of a man so they don't have to work themselves. The average gold digger doesn't seem to have any income and cannot or will not hold a job. When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking-- she is nowhere to be found. No matter how much you spend, it's never enough and they always want more. Other signs of a gold digger are traits like having a lack sincerity, honesty and responsibility.
Gold diggers normally come on strong and leave no doubt that they are interested in your financial status and possessions and they like to move relationships forward
Although you may be looking for the opportunity to boost your ego by dating extremely beautiful and high maintenance women, you need to listen to your intuition. Does your woman have a steady job? Is she up to her neck in debt and/or refuses to answer direct questions about money? If something is telling you that things aren't right and that she may be a gold digger, she probably is. Don't sacrifice happiness to be with a beautiful gold digger, or you may end up crying the rest of your life.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
If you ever find yourself falling for a beautiful tomboy, don't be in a rush to make rash generalizations about them. Although they may enjoy more masculine traits, they can also be very beautiful and have a girly side. The tomboy may not wear short skirts, dresses and a lot of jewelry, but she can still look very attractive.
Most tomboys are athletic, would rather hang out with guys and play sports rather than go shopping with girls. Very much like you, she's into sports, computers and has more guy friends than girlfriends. Their wardrobe mainly consists of sweatpants, t-shirts, shorts and sneakers. They resist conventional feminine standards--avoiding pink clothes, lipstick, and nail polish--and often excel in sports.
A large number of guys find tomboys attractive;however, a big mistake men make when dealing with tomboys is assuming that they have no interest in romance and passion. Although she may not be a high maintenance woman who's into getting her nails done, lots of jewelry or does not follow the latest fashion trends, being a tomboy doesn’t stop her from being a woman and wanting to be treated with respect and sensitivity.
Tomboys can be sexy in their own right and way and often get mislabeled as bi-sexual or lesbians just because they're different from the average "girly-girl". Most of the time a tomboy will be friends with a guy before she starts liking him and once they do become romantically interested, they tend to get more uptight around guys they like because they want you to think of them as women.
Remember, a tomboy might have a hard shell, but she is a woman after all. When dating a tomboy, she might take time to open up, but she is also loving and compassionate like other girls. If you show you’re willing to treat her like the lady she is, you will score big points for seeing past the whole tomboy image.
Monday, November 30, 2009
Openness and honesty are very important in a relationship. But as certain topics begin to creep into your conversations with your current girlfriend, remember that there are just some things that she doesn't need to know--ever! Here are 5 things your girlfriend shouldn't know about.
1. You're ex-girlfriends
Your current girlfriend shouldn't know about your ex-girlfriends and the good memories you have of them. Talking about your ex with your current girlfriend can lead to resentment and unfair comparisons.
2. Your friends' bad habits
It's a bad idea to share all the dirty little secrets about your friends, especially those you hang out with on a regular basis. Chances are she won't be cool with you grabbing drinks with your pal who always cheats on his wife? Telling her all of your friends dirty secrets will just cause her to not like them, not trust them, and will make hanging out with them an impossible task.
3. How many women you've slept with
It's one thing to brag to friends, but this isn't something to tell your current girlfriend about, and Even if your girlfriend asks you to tell her, just don't. She's not going to like any answer you give her. If you tell her "1," she's going to wonder why it's not more and think you are lying to her. If you tell her"50", she's going to think you're a jigalo. To keep the peace in your current relationship, it's best if you keep these stories in the past and also encourage her to keep some of her stories there as well.
4. Cheating in past relationships
You may have made mistakes in the past, but now you have the chance to make a clean slate. Don't let her know about past indiscretions. Remember, when you get caught cheating, a woman will think "once a cheater, always a cheater" and always be second-guessing you and accusing you of messing around even when you are completely innocent.
5. How your money is spent
When your dating, your finances are separate. So until you take that walk down the aisle, she doesn’t need to know where your extra cash goes each month or how much you spend on activities like hanging out with friends, new gadgets or weekend trips.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
1. Men want their women to be supportive
Women who understand their men do not put them down. Men want women to listen to them, treat them with respect, support them in their work and boost their confidence. How your woman represents you when you're apart is very important . If she goes out with the girls and drags you down endlessly, that's disaffection.
2. Men want their women to look great and stay in shape.
Looking great does not mean that she looks like a movie star. Sure, women wearing a size 3 tend to attract some men easier than women without that ratio, but not all men are the same. Most men know what they like and they want their women to look the very best you can for your size, type, and built--then carry it with confidence. A woman should do her best to look great, stay in shape, dress attractively, and display a confident and sexy attitude.
3. Men want consistent and hot sex.
Men get turned on by different things that a woman does and we bond through being physically connected. The act of release during sex is how we feel connected to women the most, and better intimacy it is that feeling of being connected most men seek most in a relationship. A woman that delivers in the bedroom will, more often than not, get what she wants from her man -- a dedicated lover.
A dating slump is something all single guys go through from time to time, but the main thing to remember is that the dating slump is just a temporary stage. A dating slump can be characterized as being burned out on meeting new women, not meeting enough or too many women or a feeling of disgust and frustration with the quality of women that are available to you. So what can you do when you're faced with a temporary slump?
For some people, the answer to the personal slump is to stop dating altogether, but you have to remember that being turned down is part of the dating game. Instead of sitting around having your own pity party, take advantage of the time away from dating to work on yourself a bit. Examine things like the locations that you're meeting women at, your appearance, the way you converse with women, if they send out mixed signals, etc....
If you are continually getting rejected, you need to examine your approach and figure out which traits women like so that you can enhance those traits in yourself. Then reflect on what type of woman you truly want and compare it to the type of women you've been chasing to see if they match. Then you should be able to determine whether you've just been imagining that the object of your affection was really into you when she actually wasn't.
After you've examined yourself and decided to get back out there and give dating another chance, remember that having self-confidence and enthusiasm are two of the main qualities that will make you much more attractive and approachable to women.
Just because you have intellect, sexual appeal, and a good sense of humor, it doesn't mean that you're automatically a chick magnet, especially if you do not have any confidence in yourself. If you lack self-confidence, in most cases women will walk past you. Women want men who have a passion for something, whether it be a hobby, your career, education, whatever... Single women are more attracted to men who have clear interests.
If you have been out of the loop for a while, it may not be easy to start dating again. However, with a few changes, before you know it, you’ll be cuddling up at the movies with someone awesome.
Monday, November 23, 2009
When you first start dating a woman and it's going well, you start to get comfortable with each other. But what happens when that sweet girl you were dating begins exhibiting female manipulation tricks to get her way?
Girls learn female manipulation tricks early in life, and any woman you're involved with is going to have a pretty good idea of what pushes your buttons and grabs your interest. Whether she's looking for forgiveness or a favor, you can bet that a manipulative woman will try every trick in the book to get her way to include using seduction, flattery, bribery and deception along with irrational, emotional means of persuasion.
Manipulative women who want you to go along with their requests or demands may come at you with the promise of tickets to a sporting event you've been talking about, a luxury item you've been eying, or even sexual bargaining, e.g., extra foreplay, provocative lingerie, etc... They use these methods to delve deep inside your head and persuade you to give into their demands, even to the point you'll find yourself changing your clothing, hairstyle and car according to their demands. When all else fails, manipulative women will use the oldest trick in the book-- tears. All women know that the easiest way to make a man uncomfortable is to cry because they know that if they display a few well-placed tears with some pouty sniffles and streaming eyes, most guys will do anything to make the waterworks stop.
There's a simple way to deal with these controlling women--stop letting them get away with their behaviors and start setting limits! Learn to ignore a manipulative woman when she begins one of her tantrums and remove yourself from the situation if you feel any doubt about her sincerity. Refuse to be manipulated, expose her tricks and tell her to grow up. Remember, dating should be about partnership, honesty and equality, not about a woman taking advantage of you to get what she wants.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
One of the many challenges that men face when it comes to dating is dealing with the mixed signals that a woman sends or seems to be sending. For example, one minute, she acts as if she wants to be with you. The next minute she acts as if she barely knows you. So, what’s really behind the mixed signals? The 5 tips listed below should help with how mixed signals should be taken from women:
1. Make sure you just aren't missing the point
There are many times when the signal is very clear, but you are trying to read more into it than what is really there. If a woman smiles at you, don’t assume that she's into you or that she wants you to ask her out on a date. People smile at one another all the time. Be sure you know whether it’s just her personality showing through or if there is actually a message being given.
2. Maybe she's just extremely nice
There are some women who are just extremely polite and pay lots of compliments to those around them. Some guys read this as flirting and then wonder why nothing ever came out of it. Pay attention to how she behaves around other people. She might be this polite to everyone, not just you. And maybe you are mistaking her being nice as one of the signs that she's interested in you.
3. She doesn't want a serious relationship
A woman who is interested in you might be very friendly to you at one point, touch you while talking to you and begin coming onto you pretty strong and just when you think everything is perfect, she fizzles out. What does it mean? What did you do wrong? Nothing! She was probably just not interested in a serious relationship.
4. She's confused
It’s very hard to know how to read women’s mixed signals when they are just as confused as you are. Sometimes a woman is confused about what she wants; but as a man, how long do you wait around for her to figure it out? It’s a thin line between a woman being confused and her stringing you along, so make it your business to find out early on, which is which. Your feelings will thank you in the long run.
5. Some women do it just for attention
Some women send mixed signals because they enjoy the attention they get from men when they flirt, play with her hair or do other things that make them look approachable and suggest that they might be interested in a guy, even if they are not. This gives them reassurance that they are attractive, wanted, and can get any guy if they want to.
There are many do's and don’ts that apply to all men in every romantic relationship you'll start. Stick to these 5 basic rules for men in the beginning stages of any relationship and you won't go wrong.
1. Don't seem too enthusiastic around her
If you feel yourself falling hard for a woman, remember to give her room to breathe. Don't make the mistake of bombarding her with phone calls and unexpected visits. Give her time to miss you and want to be around you more. This, too, is one of the most important timeless dating rules. You have to increase her desire for youAs a general rule, don't initiate contact more than two times in a row; let her come to you once in a while. Most women like dating a nice guy, but no one likes a stalker!
2. Compliment her, but don't place her on a pedestal
Take the time to make her feel good about herself with occasional compliments, but part of being in a lasting relationship with a woman is getting to know and accept her faults and shortcomings also. Don't get me wrong--if your lady looks beautiful, tell her, just don't begin treating her like a goddess until the relationship has matured and she has earned that kind of treatment. Overly complimenting women early in a relationship comes across as desperate and overbearing.
3. Don't rush things
A good way to run a woman off is to tell her you love her on the first date or doing things like planning a wedding the first week of dating. As silly as these things sound, guys make these mistakes all the time. Allow the relationship develop at its own pace.
4. Don't discuss other women around her
Even if it's still early in your relationship and things aren't serious just yet, you can be respectful and let her know if you're dating others, but don't go into the explicit details under no circumstances should you check out other women in front of her.
5. Don't let yourself go
It's normal to start feeling comfortable around a woman after you've been with her for a while; however, you'll should not forget about keeping yourself up. You should be able to relax around your lady, but you should avoid wearing the stained t-shirts and becoming a real slob around her and focus on maintaining the same qualities that attracted her to you in the first place.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
It's important for men to understand that when things begin to get serious, women tend to expect the two of you to become exclusive and start planning a future together. However, if you always find reasons to back away and sabotage a good relationship once your partner begins asking for a little more, it's a safe bet that you suffer from commitment-phobia and a deep fear of intimacy. Here are 5 signs that you're a commitment-phobe.
1. You're only respond to contact that is sexual
You regularly ignore texts, calls and emails from your girlfriend suggesting dinner, a movie night, or time with her family and friends, yet you quickly reply reliably and consistently to anything sexual i.e., hints towards sleeping together, dirty text messages, etc...This behavior shows women that the only thing on your mind is having fun with no-strings-attached sex.
2. You constantly flirt with other women
Constantly flirting with other women and/or constantly getting caught staring at other women when you're in a relationship is a big sign that you're not ready for a commitment. Guys like this usually have a history of infidelity.
3. You become distant for no reason
You begin spending less and less time with your girlfriend (and don't really mind the time apart) although nothing is wrong in your relationship.This might be a sign that you're drifting away due to your fear of commitment.
4. You look down on serious or married couples
You often find yourself talking badly about men who are married, or who are taking care of children. Being turned off by the idea of family is a pretty good sign that you don’t care much for a deep commitment with a woman and would rather be alone.
5. You lose interest when things get serious
You love the chase but not the capture and often use the excuse that you haven't found the right woman yet. You have a history of brief, passionate relationships that end fairly quickly and you're quick to blame the former girlfriends for the breakups.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the 5 Signs She's Not Ready To Commit.
You've been dating your girlfriend for a while now. She's had some pretty bad past relationships, one of which was a physically abusive one. You believe she has put it behind her, but you can still see the pain at times when she is thinking about it. How can you help her through it?
First, you have to allow her to see that you are here to support her and are in no way like her former abusive boyfriend. In order to do that, you have to first understand some of the signs of a victim in an abusive relationship. You have to realize that she has been kicked, hit, shoved, or had things thrown at her by her former boyfriend when he was angry.Most women who have been abused feel as if they have to walk on eggshells to keep a man from getting angry, are constantly apologizing and are easily frightened by a man's temper. She may also even be afraid to tell you about her worries and feelings due to ridicule and belittlement from her past lover.
You can express your concern about her past relationships and whether they may still be affecting her and ask if she wants to talk about it. If she does, you can ask her what she needs and wants from you. But if she doesn't want to talk about it (yet), respect her wishes. If you push her to do something against her wishes, you'd be violating her boundaries and you'd run the risk of being perceived as abusive yourself. Try to be aware if any way of your behaviors that you might be accidentally be doing that might be triggering her into thinking of past abuse.
The best way to help a woman with emotional baggage see that you are in no way like her past boyfriends is to make sure you're in no way like her past boyfriends--at least, not where physical and emotional abuse are concerned.
It is a widely held assumption that women are always the victims and men are always the perpetrators; however, there is a great majority of men who suffer in silence in the face of physical abuse from their women. These men feel shame, fear, and choose to ignore the abuse and live with it. Although we live in a society where the abuse of men is not a mainstream concern, abuse is abuse and if people combat it when the victim is a woman, the same compassion should be offered to men.
Although men are usually raised with the idea that hitting women is a major no-no, there are some very cruel and abusive women in relationships who feel it’s perfectly fine to slap, push, throw objects, force or slam doors and even use weapons against their man when he says or does something they don't like. These women with emotional baggage who are abusive toward men usually have unrealistic expectations. These women make unrealistic demands of men and feel like they can inflict any kind physical pain on their men without fear of repercussion due to the man's fear of criminal charges, losing his job, etc...
So what type of women are most likely to abuse their men? Women who abuse men are frequently alcoholics. Many other manipulative women that display this type of behavior suffer from certain psychological problems. At least half of all domestic abuse and violence against men is associated with women who suffer from borderline personality disorder--a diagnosis that is found almost exclusively with women. These women will typically experience repeated episodes of depression, anxiety and irritability which they attribute to a man's behavior when in fact, their mental and emotional state is the result of their own insecurities, emotional problems, trauma during childhood or even withdrawal from alcohol. These women would rather blame their men for their problems rather than take responsibility for how they live their lives and typically refuse to treatment and may even insist that the man needs treatment.
So why do we know so little of domestic violence against men? First of all, violence against men statistics are so low that it is hard to get reliable estimates. Secondly, in the minds of abusive women in relationships, a man is less likely to tell someone about suffering physical violence at the hands of his woman if he believes he’ll be thought of as weak and pathetic wuss. Even when men do report domestic abuse and violence, most people are so astonished men usually end up feeling like nobody believes them.
There needs to be more support for abused men and fathers. For those men who are unfortunate enough to be in an abusive relationship remember--there is nothing to be ashamed of in reporting abuse or asking for help and it is definitely wrong to walk away from a woman who is abusing you instead of hitting her back. Doing this is an admirable trait. Hopefully, you will soon be able to walk away, along with your children, to a better future.
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Thursday, November 19, 2009
At some level, all men know that cheating is wrong, yet some still do it. Cheating might feel like a quick escape from relationship problems and an easy alternative to the burden of an inevitable breakup, but in reality, it is not a long-term solution and is usually a symptom of a bigger problem. Here are 5 reasons why some guys opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their women.
1. She doesn't turn you on anymore
A lot of women in long-term relationships with men become lazy and no longer concern themselves with staying as fit and attractive as they once were. You may still think that your lady is beautiful, but may simply feel that having sex with her has become boring and is not as exciting as it once was.
2. She's a nag
Cheating with another woman is a common escape from constant nagging and fighting with the girlfriend who thrives on making her man feel like crap.
3. She won't put out
Long-term relationships seem to drain the sex drive out of many women, leaving some men gasping for fulfillment. It could be that the sex has become boring, she doesn't want to try new things in bed, etc...With the need for more sex and better intimacy, some guys will start looking for it elsewhere.
4. It's challenging and exciting
Nothing lifts a man's self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire him sexually. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the chase and the conquest. It's a fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly approached with sexual offers, sometimes opportunities with women seemingly as sexy as superstar Halle Berry present themselves. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that may never be available again.
5. Revenge for her cheating
For many men, the only way to relieve their anger and get back at their unfaithful girlfriends is by cheating to even the score.
Ask 100 single ladies what type of man they want and they'll tell you that they want a nice guy with a sense of humor who will treat her right. But then the same women will turn around and fall all over themselves trying to date bad boys who will use and abuse them. So what is a nice supposed to do to attract women? How can you get attention like the jerks women run to so much?
The secret is to learn to take the following typical bad boy traits and actually spin them in a positive direction to make them work for you -- in other words, the following tips will show you how to use the typical bad boy traits that women love without really giving up your gentleman status and turning into a jerk.
1. Become more independent
Bad boys are extremely independent, make their own decisions and run their lives by their own rules. So begin getting involved in your own life and your own interests and make plenty of time for male stuff you enjoy. Never change who you are to please a woman. Act as if you could care less about getting women and never let them know what you're thinking.
2. Keep your confidence high
Even if you don't look like a young Brad Pitt or Shemar Moore , you can still attract lots of women simply by displaying strong male confidence. Don't be the usual insecure guy who acts weak all the time, caters to women and agrees with everything they say. Instead, be decisive, don't hesitate when talking and voice your opinion without worrying about offending others.
3. Don't be afraid to be sexual
Don't be afraid to expose your natural masculine sexuality to women. Bad Boys are all about showing their natural sexuality and women appreciate confident lovers. This doesn't mean that you should go around looking at female chests and butts all day, but you should be comfortable and confident enough about being a man to let women know you're attracted to them without being disrespectful.
4. Become more exciting
Women are turned on by guys who live exciting lives and aren't afraid to take risks and have adventures. That doesn't mean you should be leading safaris through Africa or start BASE jumping off large buildings. Instead you should have interesting stories to tell and have a few hobbies that make you stand out from other men.
5. Make women chase you
Women always want what they can't have, so make yourself busy and scarce and never allow yourself to be desperately hanging around women, hoping one of them will talk to you. Guys who are too available are boring, so learn to become a challenge to women and let them do some work to get you. Bad Boys are independent, involved in their own life and their own interests. Remember, always be a challenge and let her do work to get you.
Once you learn to utilize the 5 tips discussed in this article, you'll unlock the perfect 'bad boy' attitude and transform yourself into the guy women secretly desire.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Although there is nothing wrong with a woman who sets high standards for herself, most high maintenance women have certain traits that men should avoid by all accounts.
High maintenance women are those who need many things to be happy, namely lots of money, material goods, affection and a great deal of attention. These women put great effort into looking like a million bucks at all times and are obsessed with all aspects of their personal appearance and grooming in general.
These "girly girls" tend to be perfectionists, overachievers and self-centered. They have an almost obsessive attention to detail and enjoy lots of attention, compliments along fancy dinners at the most expensive restaurants. These women show almost all the signs of a gold digger and demand the best of all things and will let you know when she's not pleased. They will keep you on your toes, refusing any response from you other than absolute respect and demanding perfection from you also.
Although they may make you look very hot, the worst pitfall to dating high maintenance women is dealing with their vanity. Other negative traits accompany vanity, such as being overly critical of her appearance and constantly finding faults in all your best efforts. These women also have a undeserved princess mentality along with having tendencies to blow huge amounts of money (particularly your money) on things like manicures and tans in order to keep up with every new trend to impress others.
She may also take herself too seriously and not be able to withstand even the slightest teasing about her personal appearance. Most of these women feel that they are above certain tasks and are not very good partners for men wanting a stable, long term relationship.
For men who like to be challenged on a daily basis, a high maintenance woman is a good choice; however, you must realize that no matter how fine they look, most of these women do not make for good equal partners in a relationship.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Guys who maintain an active lifestyle simply make better first impressions; therefore, remaining slim and trim should be of the utmost importance to any man who wants to look more attractive to women. Instead of living on fast food and frozen dinners, expand your horizons by actively seeking new food experiences and keeping an eye on your caloric intake. Being in good shape shows women that you respect yourself and that you have discipline, motivation and ambition--traits that are very appealing in the eyes of most ladies. It will also make you feel confident, which is one of the sexiest traits a man can possess and is a big part of attracting high quality women.
So hit the gym and get the kind of body women will swoon over.
Meeting someone when you’re a single parent is tough, but telling your child that you have met a new woman can be even harder. Along with your child’s fear of being replaced, you’ll also have to deal with his/her fear of potentially having an evil stepmother.
Such fears are, from an adult’s perspective, unfounded, but to your child, they are completely legitimate and need to be addressed. So, how do you tell your child that you’ve met someone? Here are some suggestions.
When it comes to single parents and dating, the best thing is to be honest with your children upfront. Being a single father, the best time to tell them that you have met a new woman would ideally be after sufficient time has passed and you feel that they’ve completely adjusted to you not being with their mother.
During the conversation, ask your child how he/she feels about you dating as a single dad and the fact you’ve met a new woman. Telling your child how you actually met your new woman and some of her characteristics upfront will prepare your child and make it emotionally easier for the time when they do meet the new woman in your life.
Once you have their blessing, remember--the most important step for a single father dating again is to remind your child that he/she is, and will always be, the most important person in your life and that no woman is going to come into your life and take you away from them. Give them that respect and chances are they will be happy for you.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
When choosing a woman to love, finding a strong single woman that you are compatible with and who really cares about you should be your first priority, not race. Probably the best reason for dating outside your race is attraction. Some of the benefits of interracial dating include learning about another culture or religion first hand, giving you the chance to get to know someone different from yourself, definitely increasing your dating pool, allowing you to become stronger in what you believe and gives you the opportunity to set aside preconceived notions about race, religion and color.
A couple embarking on an interracial partnership must also prepare themselves for the challenges that couples of the same race don't have, i.e., cultural differences, family issues, curious stares and racist comments, having people within your community not accepting your relationship, being stared at, people shaking their heads as you walk by or enter a restaurant or your partner not being acknowledged at functions or get togethers. Even with these challenges, a strong-minded couple that works hard-enough and focuses on each other can be very successful.
Before starting a relationship with someone from a different race, color or ethnicity, carefully consider the pros and cons of interracial dating, but remember that when meeting new women, love doesn’t have any particular color and can be found anywhere with anyone.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
One of the hardest things for any man is letting go of a relationship that’s not meant to be. Men in bad relationships are often attached to the illusion that this particular woman is “the One” for us, and that if we don’t have him or her, we’ll never find somebody new or no other woman will ever want us.
Many men remain in disappointing, hurtful relationships for months, even years with the false beliefs that "all women act like this"or "this is as good as it's going to get." If you ever expect to have real happiness and experience true love, you first have to learn to love yourself, stop expecting other people to give you the love and acceptance you deserve and let go of unhealthy attachments to bad women and bad situations. Wasting precious time with the wrong woman will only leave you bitter, and that bitterness will poison relationships with your family, children and any potential relationships you may have with actual good women in the future.
It is not selfish to meet your own needs--in fact, when you finally build up the courage to let go of painful relationships with the manipulative women, you will begin to feel freedom and contentment and begin taking better care of yourself. Having an optimistic outlook, positive attitude and belief that the best is yet to come can help you bounce back from the worst of relationships.
If you just got out of a relationship but are harboring a lot of resentment against your ex or against women in general, NOW is not the time to start dating again! If you're in this situation you first have to examine what patterns you keep repeating in your relationships and why you have tendencies to be with life sucking women with a ton of emotional baggage who mean you no good. Learn to identify your patterns, and the unhealthy beliefs that are causing them.
Don't beat yourself up over all the time you “wasted” with the wrong woman and realize that it didn't work because it was not meant to be. Learning from the bad experiences and moving on from a relationship will allow you to progress to the next level in your new relationships as you find the right woman. Remember, you have to lighten your load and heal your pain before you can begin meeting new women.
Monday, November 2, 2009
Any woman you choose to date as a single father will impact your child in some way, so when you make the jump back into the dating scene as a single father, you have to carefully consider the qualities to look for in the woman who may one day be part of your child’s life.
Any woman that wants to be a part of your life has to understand that when you are an active single father, your kids have to be your priority. When dating as a single dad, the best woman for you has to have the ability to be a sufficient female role model for your children. She should also be fun to be with, flexible and child-friendly. Remember, you are looking for a woman who is caring and treats your kids with a lot of love, so finding out early on how a woman feels about kids will help you weed out the ones who have very little interest and/ or dislike children altogether.
The woman you're dating should be patient and understand that as a single dad, you always have to be prepared for the unexpected regardless of your child’s age, like those nights when you'll have to cancel that intimate date and rush your little one to the emergency room. A good woman will automatically understand that you have enough love in you to share with her as well. If she isn't flexible and throws tantrums when your kids dare to take your time away from her, you should stop seeing her.
Juggling between drama-queen girlfriends and your kids just does not work out. As stated earlier, any woman you choose to date as a single father will impact your child in some way, so trust your instincts and avoid any woman who gives you any wrong vibes. Chances are if your gut says no, this woman probably isn’t right for you or your children.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
It’s not a big secret that women talk, but you need to understand the role of your woman's friends in her life and the life of your relationship. A woman's friends play the roles of sister, therapist and sometimes even a mother. What women tell or don’t tell their friends depends on their mood and how much they are into you. Among her girlfriends, happiness is shared jubilantly; however, dissatisfaction will be dissected.
A lack of communication in a relationship can be a source of frustration and women will turn to their friends when they need an outlet. When girl talk turns bawdy, many guys fall under immense scrutiny because unlike men, women talk about their problems, normally disclose intimate details and get relationship ideas from one another. The more you make your woman feel special, the more positive her conversations about you will be with her girlfriends. As long as you treat your woman good, you won’t have to worry about any possible embarrassment down the road.
Monday, October 19, 2009
So you've got that first date with a hot girl. You pick up your date, hand her a dozen red roses and you’ve even offered to pick the restaurant--but which one do you choose?
Certain types of venues are just not appropriate for dates. When considering good dating ideas, the key here is to be a little imaginative and thoughtful. When it comes to a dinner date, women want something that’s not too cheap, but also not too expensive--a place that falls in between fancy and cheap, so that it doesn’t look like you’re trying too hard or that you’re not trying hard enough.
Taking your date out to a fast food joint tells her that you’re cheap and that you really don't care to impress her. On the other hand, taking her to the most expensive restaurant in town could make her think that you’re just a show off and a fake. Find a place to dine that’s not too cheap and not too expensive, but just right.
If your goal is to have a more fun and casual date, venues such as amusement parks, sports events, and picnics are great for first dates. Don't give your date the wrong impression by bringing her to a place where there are very little to no people. You do want to scare her by doing that, so stay in public places so your date will feel safe.
Follow these tips when choosing a venue for your dates and you will be glad when your dating partner wants to see you for many more.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
You have a hot girlfriend, a solid relationship and she would never cheat on you... right? Wrong. You should never underestimate a woman's willingness to stray because women can be just as unfaithful as men in relationships--especially if you're not taking care of your business at home. Here are some reasons why women cheat.
1. Lack of intimacy
The one thing women want most in a relationship is intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship--it’s things like touching, kissing and communicating. Women crave intimacy it, and they could seek it elsewhere if they're not getting it at home. To achieve better intimacy and give your woman a sense of closeness, spend quality time with her and do special things like massaging her feet, preparing a romantic dinner for two, etc... Routine sex in the same position and the same setting can become very boring, but an affair could add adventure and get her adrenalin flowing. Doing unexpected things like surprising her with a weekend getaway and having date nights can add that same kind of excitement to your relationship.
2. She Feels neglected and ignored
Women want to feel wanted; however, if they feel more like servants instead of your girlfriend, they could stray. Also, spending all your time at work or out with the fellas when you are off gives her even more reason to seek attention elsewhere. Women are emotional beings and they need their men to be present in the relationship and provide emotional support to them. Once you start neglecting and ignoring your relationship-- cheating is inevitable.
3. Revenge for your cheating
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, you broke her trust (and, possibly her heart) and she wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. You can’t undo your indiscretions, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and suggest relationship counseling to help the two of you. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry--you'll have to show her with actions.