Saturday, February 28, 2009

The Alpha Male

Male" is a term used to describe
to the guy who is confident, attractive, muscle-bound and wealthy with relatively high economic status who has a strong ability to get the most attractive women for mates. Alpha males are more about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine and tends to "lead the pack".

The fact is that a lot of women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of male. The alpha male in adult society is most likely to be most at ease with women. Being a bad boy playfully cocky with humor is a typical alpha male quality that can make women extremely attracted to you, and other men look up to and respect you more.

On the down side, questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates. Many of them tend to be prominent in society but have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.

At work, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence, but also may be demanding and difficult to work with. The alpha male is constantly attempting to retain his stature as alpha, or "number one." Being the top worker or the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.

Dating relationship statistics show that many alpha males seem to share many traits with Narcissists; however, a real alpha male doesn't have to be a jerk. True alpha males have no mystery method to attract women, exude male confidence and are simply men who have done the work to be good at interacting with women and expressing their romantic selves.

Friday, February 27, 2009

Should You Forgive a Cheating Girlfriend?

If you discover your girlfriend is cheating on you, you will naturally have some things to deal with in your mind, namely anger, low self-esteem, depression and feelings of betrayal. Before you forgive her and begin any attempts at saving the relationship, you need to know the ways to distinguish between an unfaithful woman who will do it again and a woman who is truly sorry.

First, you need to examine what was wrong with your relationship in the first place. There are many reasons why women cheat. Determine her reason for cheating and consider whether you have anything to work on in the relationship that may have led to her cheating, like possibly lowering her interest level. If you love her and you feel that she truly does love you then both of you can work through it, even with the use of couples counseling, if necessary.

There is a big difference between a one time mistake and a long term affair. Make sure you know everything. When you ask her questions about it look her straight in the eyes and see if she is looking back into yours. If she isn't then there may be more she is not telling you.

If a significant amount of time has past since the incident then weigh what has been built since with what you would lose if you went your separate ways. Consider your physical health and emotional well-being. Could she be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases? Can you deal with being one of many possible sexual partners that may be infected with something? Regardless if you can or not, consider getting an AIDS or other STD test.

You must also determine whether or not she came back to patch things up with you because she truly loves you or because things didn’t work out with the other guy she cheated with. If you decide to forgive her and take her back, make a list of "rules" never to be broken, go over them with your partner and tell her that she must do these things to remain in the relationship and regain your trust. If she agrees then this list will help in the following months.

As time passes images of the incident or thoughts of "is she cheating" could pop-up in your head. Consider whether you can actually continue in the relationship regardless of whether she will do it again or not and if so, separate yourselves from any bad influences or images that will remind you of the cheating and the bond of trust that was broken.

Remember that you are not the only one going through this, in fact you will come to find that many of your friends or family have been hurt by cheating. Take advice and listen carefully to your lady, but ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for yourself. Remember--it's how hard she is willing to work to regain your trust that really counts.

Monday, February 23, 2009

5 Romantic Ideas For Dates

Whether you just met someone or you have been with that special lady for several years, it is important to have some romantic ideas for your dates. The possibilities are endless, but here are 5 romantic date ideas that are sure to make her melt.

1. Dinner on the beach

Choose a romantic part of a beach with a nice sea breeze, preferably at night so the moonlight will illuminate her face and stars accompanying both of you. Then, set up your dinner and enjoy a glass of champagne together along with the picnic while watching the sun go down.

Picnic at the park
Having a romantic picnic at a park can be a wonderful way to bond with your significant other, if you plan it right. Start by packing a picnic basket with sandwiches and cool drinks and spend the afternoon in a secluded area of the park. Don't forget those little romantic details that will make the date more enjoyable and memorable, e.g., bringing a vase of flowers and a radio or making a mix CD of your favorite love songs to play.

3. The candlelight dinner

The traditional candlelight dinner is a great way to give your relationship a passionate energizer. To make it memorable, simply leave a note for her to find, inviting her to a special dinner for two. Prepare some of your favorite dishes that you both and eat them under the light of candles. Follow up by renting some movies and spend the evening watching them or just chill out while setting the mood with music that you both like and maybe even dance together.

4. Reserve a private dining room

Phone up the restaurant and ask them if they are willing to let you hire it for a meal. Then they can just clear the room, put a table for two in the middle of it and put some candles around the room for the two of you for an added romantic effect.

5. Go to an amusement park

Spending the day running around an amusement park is an excellent idea for couples who are still in the beginning stages of their relationship. The walks between rides and waits in line allow for plenty of time to get to know each other. Win her an over-size stuffed animal and there may be a kiss waiting for you at the top of the Ferris wheel.

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Staying connected to the one you love can be a challenge in any relationship. The problem is intensified in a long-distance relationship when days, weeks, or even months go by between visits. Although the distance that separates you from your significant other can make things difficult, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here are 4 tips you can use to keep your long distance relationship strong:

1. Trust your mate

In this type of relationship, you have to trust your mate the same way you would in a normal relationship. Just because you don't physically see her as often doesn't mean you should be quick to entertain ideas of mistrust. Remember, if there is no indication or evidence of cheating, it is probably not happening.

2. Visit her whenever you can

A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have are phone calls, e-mails and text messages. A trip to visit your significant other every once in a while shows her that you still care, and that she’s still very important to you no matter how far away she is.

3. Communicate in some way, everyday

The quality and quantity of communication with your woman will need to increase substantially when you embark on a long-distance relationship, so it's important to maintain an emotional connection through phone calls, e-mails, texts, letters, love greeting cards and other romantic messages to keep the pure romance burning.

4. Share small memories with each other

Give her a personal object of yours so in a time of need, when she misses you, she is able to hold on to something that once belonged to you. If you guys care about each other enough, a small reminder of you will be enough to keep her wanting more and keep working towards the two of you re-uniting for good.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Internet Dating Scams to Avoid

online-dating-scamsBefore you even think about single on-line dating, you must know about internet dating scams. Most people are on the dating sites for the same reasons you are, but even on the best internet dating sites there are some weirdos out there. It means you never know who is behind this pretty photo: a real beautiful woman or a con artist who downloaded a photo of an unknown model.

So, when you're looking to find love online, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet con artists using dating agencies, singles sites and online personals to reach their victims? Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online dating sites safe and secure:

1. The Prostitute Scam

First, when you view a profile, look out for things like sleazy screen names. Sincere women don't choose screen names like "girl gone wild", "nude women", "s e x woman" or "s e x y woman". Prostitutes are straightforward and place profiles with dating agencies and on dating sites to solicit business.

Their profiles contain steamy self-descriptions, sex pix, live web sex and girls with thongs and they don't waste time letting you know they are after horny matches. Any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting in bed or who talks about being a millionaire match online is most likely not for real.

2. The Phone Scam

This is the variation of the old phone scam where the woman asks you to call them, and when you do, you get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars (1-900 number).

3. The Travel Scam
Remember, a woman with gorgeous professional photos and a vague profile almost always mean trouble. This woman will list her location as being local and when you start talking to her, she will reveal that she is from overseas on somali chat rooms and will ask you to help her with travel expenses to visit you.

4. The Nigerian Postal Scam

The woman pretends to be a relative of a diseased or gravely ill government official who asks for your help in a financial transaction. Gold diggers that want to milk you for money will say something vague that can fit anybody.

These tips can help you avoid looking for online romance in the wrong places. If you get too deeply involved with these manipulative women, these internet dating scams can significantly hurt not only your heart, but your finances, too.

5 Keys to Successful Online Dating

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If you are new to meeting women online, using these tips for online dating can improve your chances of finding romance:

Be unique and create a strong online dating profile
When using online dating websites, lies or exaggeration might get you somewhere at first, but in the end they will only get you in trouble. When you find a match that seems interesting, preferably local single women, send her a quick message and start by talking about something she mentioned in her profile. That shows that you took the time to read about her. That alone will make you stand out.

2. Be honest

You don’t want to spend time with someone unless they like you for who you really are, so let her know who you are from the start. At the very least you want to see her picture before you meet. Make sure that the photo seems like it is a real person, is consistent with her description and not a female celebrity photo. Ideally, you would like to see several of her pictures in different settings so you can get a better feeling about her. If she keeps coming up with excuses to avoid providing a photo then you dealing with one of the many internet dating scams.

3. Don't get discouraged

When doing on line dating, you will probably send lots of messages that won’t receive a response and have exchanges that will end after just a message or two. Don’t let that bother you. It doesn’t mean that women don't find you attractive. Most often, it just means the women have too many messages to respond to or they are too busy. Just keep trying. If you are both patient and persistent you will eventually have some success with single online dating.

4. Don't scare her off

When dating on line, you are trying to get to know someone, so don’t give her a reason to run away. Stay away from topics like sex, politics or anything else controversial when you are first getting to know each other. Remember to be casual. Nothing will run a woman off faster than a man who quickly seems to be obsessed with her.

5. Be safe
If you have made a good connection with someone online and you think there might be some sparks, exchange phone numbers and speak on the phone. When you do finally decide to meet, do it somewhere where there are lots of people and little pressure just in case something goes wrong on your date.

Monday, February 9, 2009

How to be a Nice Guy (And Not Finish Last!)

When a single woman is asked what she wants in a man, she will usually claim that she wants a nice and caring man who they can talk to about anything; however, the same woman will then date a guy who is the the exact opposite--an egotistical, self-serving jerk who treats her like crap.

Because of this kind of treatment, many good men consider giving up being a nice guy after repeated rejections from these women. So if nice guys are what women really want, then why is it that most nice guys are single?

First, you have to realize that when a woman refers to a "nice guy" she is NOT referring to the type of man who is nervous and always says "yes", tells women that he has feelings for them too early, becomes a doormat for women and never takes the lead on dates and in relationships.

Women perceive guys like this as desperate, needy and eager to please and they never feel attraction for them, let alone chase him. These behaviors and actions listed above will absolutely DESTROY the attraction a woman feels for you and leave her headed straight into the arms of that jerk who will furnish her with tons of roller coaster emotions and dump her once he has sex with her.

In order remain a nice guy and not finish last, you have to know exactly what a woman's version of a nice guy is. That means being a guy who is confident around women and other guys, expresses what he wants, refuses to be a pushover, makes conversation in an interesting way with women, knows how to amuse and excite her and takes on the masculine role in relationships and knows how to continuously be a challenge women.

These tips can help transform you from a nervous nice guy type into the kind of man that all women are desperately looking for. Come across as the guy who has a lot going on in his life and couldn’t care less if he gets women and you’re on the fast track to drawing women to you instead of having to do all the work or becoming an absolute jerk.

Remember, nice guys don't have to finish last with women if they have the right type of confidence and approach that allows them to feel natural attraction.

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5 Traits of a Great Girlfriend

Playing the field and keeping you options open may be a whole lot of fun for some guys. But as maturity sets in, very few things can surpass the joys of being in a serious relationship with a great girlfriend. So how do you know if she really is a "keeper?" If she possesses the following 5 traits, you better hold on to her for dear life before some other guy comes along and steals her away.

1. Intelligence

Let's face it--being with a woman that’s beautiful but dumb gets old pretty fast. On the other hand, a great girlfriend can meet you at an intellectual level, constantly surprise you, keep you on your toes and deepen your attraction past the physical realm. An intelligent woman with a good sense of humor won't let you get bored of her because you'll always find yourself trying to figure out what she's really thinking.

2. Independence

Dealing with a woman that can't seem to function without you will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating in the relationship and have you headed for the nearest exit. A real man should enjoy having a girlfriend who displays confidence, has a real life of her own, can stand on her own both financially and emotionally and is happily going in her own positive direction. An upside of dating this Alpha Female is knowing that she is confident, she won’t rely on you for everything and she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems.

3. Loyalty
A great girlfriend loves her man…flaws and all, and takes the time to show him how much she appreciates him every day. This type of woman is ready to go to war with you and take on whatever obstacle life presents. She's not the type that will be checking out other guys, but will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life. She's a genuine person who considers you in every situation and will be on your side no matter what.

Whether or not she's up for first prize in a beauty contest, a great girlfriend is beautiful on the inside and the outside. She will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. This doesn't mean that she has to look like Halle Berry, but she should be so well put together that you'll be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light.

She makes you want to be a better man
A great girlfriend inspires you to improve yourself without even saying anything. Just being around her makes you want to better yourself. She'll make you want to do things like getting your finances in order and keeping yourself up on the regular. She will lift you up when you need it and provide constructive criticism to make you a better man.

On the other side of the coin, check out our article on The Top 10 Signs You're With the Wrong Woman.

5 First Date Questions to Ask

Going on a first date can be pretty intimidating for some people. What you need is to shake the conversation up with some unique questions instead of the regular lackluster ones that get served on first dates. Here are five interesting first date questions that could put you in a better position to decide if this first encounter could possibly lead to a second date and beyond.

1. What are the qualities of your ideal relationship?

She can reveal what she's looking for in life and what kind of a relationship she expects out of a partner.

2. What do you like to do for fun?

This will let you know if you can share leisure activities.

3. What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why?

Most experts agree this is the most important question you can ask on a first date because once it's asked, you should know what you are getting into.

4. What do you look for in a guy?

Her answer can reveal her romantic aspirations.

5. What's the most annoying thing a person can do to you?

Her answer will reveal her likes and dislikes better.

Top 10: Qualities Women Want in a Man

If you want to be the kind of guy women are naturally attracted to, then you need to let yourself mature into the masculine man you were born to be. Women will LOVE you for it. Here are the top 10 qualities that women want in a man:

1. Respect
A good man who accepts them for who they are and respects their feelings while having your own respected in return.

2. Confidence
A good man who is confident in every way, stands by what he believes and maintains his values. Nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all of the time.

3. Strength
A good man who is strong and possesses the strength to overcome his negative thoughts.

4. Chivalry
A good man who knows how to treat a lady well, but isn't a pushover.

5. Independence
A man who is capable and independent, able to make his own decisions, pay his rent, and cook dinner for himself.

6. Looks

A man who tries to keep himself well-groomed, wears clothes that fit and at least makes an effort to keep himself in shape

7. Communication
A man who can express himself and who is at least willing to listen to them when they talk about their concerns, hopes and desires

8. Intelligence
A man with a high sociable I.Q. and can carry on a decent conversation with her friends and family.

9. Passion
A man who can show a woman he’s passionate about things in life, from his job to the bedroom.

10. Humor
A man with a good sense of humor who understands the importance of making women laugh.

Single Dads and Dating

Most single fathers crave for the companionship of female company even more than single guys and having someone to share with, to laugh with, and to trust again. Although there's a void in your heart now that aches to be filled, prepare yourself and your kids before you become a dating single parent with the following steps:

1. Make taking care of yourself a priority

Doing this shows self-respect and it's a reflection of your personal boundaries.

2. Widen Your Circle of Friends

Make an effort to establish deeper friendships. Deeper relationships can enrich your life, and new friends will also introduce you to their friends, who might become great companions.

. Get out of the house regularly
When your children are accustomed to your going out occasionally, and being a dating single parent won't seem like such a shock to them.

Be observant of relationships around you
As a dating single parent, you must pay attention to the relationships around you. Doing so can help you identify not only the type of woman you are looking for-but also the type of woman you're not.

Talk with your kids about dating
Take time to talk with your kids about your desire to date. Be honest with their questions and clue them in to your intentions. Make sure they know that you are looking for the right woman for you, not a replacement mother for your children.