Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Have you ever suspected your girlfriend to be cheating on you at one point in your relationship? The thought of having a cheating girlfriend is a concern that haunts many guys in relationships. Women can be just as unfaithful as men, so if you think that your girlfriend is doing something unusual, try looking at these 5 signs on how to tell if she is cheating on you.
1. She's engages in secretive behavior
Do you find strange numbers on her cell phone? Does she receive strange phone calls that are always "the wrong number?" Does she suddenly keep getting called into work at odd hours and often has to be away on business? If your answer is yes to these, then consider them as indicators that something is really going on. Other examples of secretive behaviors that indicate your girlfriend may be cheating are things like her no longer sharing her daily events with you, her suddenly deleting text messages from her cell phone and coming home with her hair messy, make-up smeared and clothes wrinkled followed by pausing and looking away when you ask where she's been.
2. Sudden changes in her appearance
Although there are girls who suddenly become interested with clothes, if you notice a sudden change in your girlfriend's appearance, e.g., a drastically different hair style or a sudden desire to lose weight and get in shape or a sudden need to buy new, sexier items of clothing, the reason behind it could be to create a new look and feel more attractive to the man she is seeing behind your back.
3. She shows loss of interest
When she is with you, does it appear her thoughts are on someone else? Does she avoid talking to about the future of your relationship. Does she keep forgetting important dates, or other things about your relationship, that she used to think were "important" to both of you? The reason for this lapse in memory could be due to the fact she already has that someone else on her mind. If she used to be needy of your attention but suddenly doesn't need your company, constantly discusses some guy she works with or met endlessly with admiration and begins avoiding you, your calls, your texts, etc... there's a good chance your girlfriend is cheating.
4. She checks out other guys in public
Cheating girlfriends sometimes tend to flirt excessively with other men. Girls will typically only check out other guys for fun or to test you; however, if your girl has never been a “flirter” before, and now she suddenly is on a constant basis, it may be a bad sign for your relationship. If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and keeping deep eye contact with them while you're right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she might actually be shopping around for another man.
5. Physical contact with you decreases
This one should be obvious. If a woman isn't sleeping with you, in all likelihood, she's sleeping with someone else. So if your girlfriend begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you when you initiate physical contact regularly without an obvious reason , this is one of the major signs that she wants to break up.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
When it comes to grooming issues, men can be a little lazy. Whether you are going on a date or an important business meeting, you never get a second chance to make a great first impression. Taking note of the 5 common grooming mistakes men make will allow you to avoid dating slumps and help you look and feel your personal best.
1. Wearing too much cologne
While teasing a woman's sense of smell with cologne could double your dating, too much of a good thing can spell disaster. Find a cologne fragrance that meets your body chemistry and use two or three sprays on the wrists and behind the ears to keep you going all day and night.
2. Having unkempt nails
The state of your hands says a lot about your general cleanliness and hygiene. A woman loves a well-groomed man, and you can bet that she'll be checking out your hands and fingernails before she lets you rub them all over her body. Keeping your hands well-groomed doesn't mean that you have to get weekly manicures, but you should at least use a nail clipper to trim your nails and file them to make sure there are no blunt edges. Forgoing regular nail care can lead to uneven nail growth, unsightly fungal infections and many dateless nights.
3. Having Bad Skin
Many men lack a dedicated skin care routine. Consequently, neglecting basic skin care can cause faster aging and can be a real turnoff to women. You need to spend just a few minutes a day using a cleanser that's specifically formulated for your skin type (dry, oily or combo) in order to minimize any signs of aging and to maintain clearer, softer looking skin. Protect yourself from the sun by using a sunscreen that covers both UVA and UVB rays. Also, one should apply only high-quality razors and choose professional shaving foams/gels/creams to minimize unsightly irritation.
4. Having Bad Teeth
Bad teeth will lose you more women and sex than you’ll ever know. Bad teeth drastically change your appearance, and it's not very pretty. Get your teeth cleaned regularly by a dentist and invest in home whitening kits. If you have missing or broken teeth, get them fixed. Consider it an investment in your sex life.
5. Combing over thinning hair
We all know that losing your hair can be a killer for your confidence; however, it can be even worse if you try try to hide it. In the early phases of hair loss, a good hair stylist can help you minimize the appearance of bald spots; however, once you reach the point of no return, don't give into conventional wisdom and participate in the comb-over. Just shave it clean or go with what you have (with confidence).
Sunday, November 21, 2010
All relationships need a little pick-me-up sometimes--even the best of them. If you feel like your relationship isn’t quite what it used to be, here are some things you can do to improve it and keep your fire burning.
2. Take responsibility for your own happiness
3. Show her gratitude instead of complaining
Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Constant complaining creates more stress in a relationship, while gratitude creates emotional, spiritual and physical health.
4. Laugh together
6. Give her some space
When you love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible; however, it’s equally important to have some space and to spend some time apart every once in a while. Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but it will also allow the two of you to miss each other and is an ideal way to keep your relationship interesting.
7. Be spontaneous
You can ensure that romance never goes out of your relationship by doing things like sending her flowers for no reason, writing her a love note, or preparing her favorite meal for her when she least expects it. Being spontaneous also means trying new things out of the ordinary together to keep the relationship interesting.
8. Improve your sex life
If you really want to give your relationship staying power, give a little extra effort in the bedroom. There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. There is always something that you haven’t tried, so don't be afraid to mix things up in bed and awaken her sexuality.
Monday, November 8, 2010
There is a huge difference between the guys who get girls on a consistent basis and the one's who just can't seem to get attention from the opposite sex no matter how hard they try. If your love life is on the skids, it’s safe to assume that you are probably guilty of one of these 5 blunders.
1. You’re too needy
If you want to run a woman off quickly, one of the best ways to do it is to be overly needy, i.e., excessively calling, emailing or sending text messages early in a relationship, always being available and doing everything she wants. Furthermore, women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement.
2. You don’t know how to build attraction
Many men fail in this area because they don’t know how to talk to women in a way that makes them more interested as time goes on. You need to learn the trigger points in women, i.e., how they think, react, and speak. You also have to know how to project your best qualities and use these to build attraction.
3. You're looking in the wrong places
Trying to meet women in bars and clubs is a waste of time! Many women do not like meeting men at bars and have a natural resistance to men who approach them in these settings. Some of the best places to meet single women are shopping centers, coffee shops, concerts and gyms. Women KNOW that guys who are in bars and clubs are looking for one-night stands, but they don't expect to be hit on in the above scenarios (element of surprise).
4. You don’t have confidence
Women are attracted to men with self-confidence, period. Nobody wants a guy who acts unsure of himself. A sexually confident man who is secure about his sexuality and is comfortable being who he is will always attract more women.
5. You’re not persistent
Second to not even trying, giving up too early is the most common mistake guys make. You may need to get rejected a few dozen times before you come across a girl that likes you. Remember, meeting women is about numbers, so continue to go out and meet as many women as possible to improve your chances.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Most women like to think of themselves as great in bed. That’s probably because the guy they’re with hasn’t complained about their performance. So what do guys find so awful they’d consider a woman a bad lay? Start with these 10 mistakes women make in bed.
2. She shows no enthusiasm
A woman's sexual enthusiasm also communicates her interest in you. She doesn't have to bounce off the walls, but she should at least be interested in sex and show a willingness to go out of her comfort zone and try new things sometimes.
3. She lets you do whatever
Most of us don’t like to have sex with a corpse. When a woman just just lies there, makes no noise and lets you do whatever you want in bed, it's a huge turnoff because you feel like you're more into it than she is.
4. She has poor hygiene
Most women care immensely about how they present themselves; however, there are some who do not and it carries over to the bedroom. Women with poor hygiene, i.e., not shaving anywhere, displaying unkempt hair, having bad breath and foul odor from their intimate areas are not desirable and are often seen as disgusting and very inconsiderate.
5. She pretends to be sick
Women are good at faking sickness or headache just to avoid having sex with their man. These same women fail to realize that too many excuses will send a man looking elsewhere for satisfaction.
6. She's not willing to learn or experiment
These women aren’t open to experimentation and aren’t creative enough in the bedroom. They don’t appear to be very adventurous and only want to have sex in the missionary position.
7. She 's not confident
Women need to understand that men rarely look at their flaws (stretch marks, a little jiggly belly) during sex. A woman who is overly concerned about her appearance and hides her body during sex, or refuses to enjoy certain sexual positions because she fears what a guy might think of her body can often dampen the mood.
8. She talks too much
Everyone knows that women like to talk a lot, but it’s not the best activity to do in bed. Conversation has its place, but no one, especially men, really wants to talk about the kids, grocery shopping, or what you did that day during intercourse. Talking during sex should be reserved only for dirty talk and whispering sweet nothings.
9. She stops doing what you like
She begins doing something you're into, your perfectly aroused and enjoying yourself and what does she do? She stops what she's doing and rushes off to the bathroom. Lots of women don't understand how this can totally destroy the mood.
10. She never initiates lovemaking
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Blind dates can be quite exciting, but also a touch riskier than a first date with a person whom you've met previously. With the right attitude, your blind date can be an interesting adventure rather than a stressful ordeal.
While it is important to exercise caution in all types of dating, it’s even more important in blind dating. Odds are you are being set up on this date by a friend, but before you agree to a blind date you should try to get as much info as you can about your date. Ask for as many details about her as you can reasonably expect without pushing too much. If you can, get a general physical description as this is important not only to determine if she is your "type", but also to make her easier to spot when you meet.
When meeting new women for the first time, it's a good idea to use separate vehicles and to meet in a fairly crowded public place, particularly a coffee shop, a restaurant or a mall you usually shop at so you'll be able to exit quickly and easily if you need to. Keep it simple for the first date and plan to meet for a drink or a cup of coffee. Then, if you are both comfortable, you might want to stick around for a meal. On the other hand, if the chemistry is not there, you can end the date after a quick drink and avoid the pressure of a long, awkward evening.
Because a blind date deals with someone who does not know you, it’s important to give her a true sense of yourself. You also want to ensure that you make a good first impression and that you spend time getting to know her. It is important to arrive on time, be polite and show up for the date looking as though you have put a great deal of effort into your appearance.
Ask her open-ended questions to stimulate conversation and to see if there is a mutual interest between the two of you. Ask each other questions about likes and dislikes. Be a good listener to what she has to say and be friendly. Ask her about her interests, her job, where she's traveled, whatever it takes to keep the conversation flowing and don't get on the offensive or defensive side if you hear something you don't like. Yes or no questions will only create uncomfortable silences and leave you frustrated.
By the end of the date, if everything goes well and both of you find a mutual interest, tell her you had a great time and if you'd like to see her again, let her know. If you're clearly not right for each other, be upfront about it, thank her for coming, say goodbye and leave. Don't tell her you'll call her when you know you're not.
Remember, blind dates are touchy and need to be handled carefully. Be open-minded about your blind date and do not expect perfection. If you go into a blind date with the attitude that things won’t work out, you will most likely unconsciously put a damper on the date. Making an honest effort to have a good time can lead to a successful blind date and possibly a second one.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
It is not uncommon to look around and find strong, independent women who have chosen to stay single. However, there are many beautiful and successful women who stay single not by their own choice, but because of the behaviors they display that drive good men away. There are many factors that have lead to why these women are single, but the most significant ones are listed below.
The most probable reason why highly eligible women are still single is that they created a set of unrealistic and unattainable characteristics that their partners should have. These women often limit their dating prospects, set themselves up for disappointment and pass up a lot of great guys in their search for the perfect man to be their knight in shining armor.
3. She's commitment phobic
She will seemingly form what looks like a lasting commitment to one man, but the commitment is usually only superficial. This type of woman will enter each relationship with a how long will this one last? frame of mind.
4. She's a control freak
It’s her way, or the highway. These women are never wrong, and when in a relationship, everything is always the man's fault.
5. She's desperate
This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog--all on the first date.
6. She's a workaholic
She may be attractive and successful, and yet completely undateable because her life is all about work. If she is too busy to have any kind of social life outside of work, she's already married — to her job.
7. She's emotionally unstable
These women carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and take actions with no thought about consequences.
8. She has too many insecurities
A woman whose life experiences have been a series of watching people damage each other rather than love each other tends to create a wall of defense with her emotions. Women like this begin to believe that no matter who they deal with in life, no man can be trusted.
9. She doesn't take care of herself
Women with poor hygiene, unflattering clothes, unkempt hair, being over or under weight, having unsightly body hair, bad teeth, and too much or too little make-up have very slim chances of keeping a man.
10. She's too easy
These women have failed to realize the important role their sexuality plays in finding a long-term mate. The reality is that most men who are looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand do place great value on a woman's sexual restraint.
Saturday, October 2, 2010
So you worked up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start a conversation. But as soon as you opened your mouth, she found a reason to get away from you. There might be a specific reason why she rejected you. The simple point is that most guys cause rejection by what they’re doing. Here are five ways that men kill attraction and get rejected by women.
1. Having bad breath
Although the right words may be coming out of your mouth, bad breath may be what's turning the ladies off. Bad breath is one of the biggest turnoffs you can display to the opposite sex. If you have foul breath no matter how rich you are or drive a fancy sports car, women will avoid you at all times.
2. Being overly aggressive
Women don't like it when a man they have just met insists on touching her too often. There is no need to touch a woman if you just met her. Women mostly prefer cool, calm, gentle and well-mannered men. When you are too aggressive with a woman, you creep her out, get pushed away and you get rejected.
3. Using the wrong approach
Most men approach women in the wrong fashion. Most women are really tired of hearing played out, cheesy pick-up lines. Also, being an arrogant man who is always talking about himself and knows it all is sure to make the ladies run far, far away. Women like confident and not cocky.
4. Being needy or clingy
Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement from women. If you come across as the kind of guy that is going to have to be with her 24/7 and you do not have a life or interests of your own, you are probably going to face rejection from a woman.
5. Using the wrong body language
Your body language has a huge effect on attraction, and if you start talking to a woman and your posture is slumped and your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, you're probably not going to get a favorable response. Keep in mind that a man’s appearance actually means a lot to a woman when she first meets him. If you are dressed sloppy or you have your pants pulled up to your chest with your shirt tucked into them, a woman may not want to be seen with you.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Although there are aggressive women out there, most women women shy away from being the initiators in dating. Most women like to put men up to the challenge of approaching them by not making the first move and allowing the man to step up to the plate. Women want to be pursued and desired by men, so ultimately you must have enough courage to make the first move.
The key to making the first move on a girl is getting in the mindset first. You want the first move to appear comfortable yet spontaneous, and with the right preparation you can! You cannot make a move on a girl from five feet away, so get your confidence up, move closer and wait for a comfortable break in the conversation with her. How do you know she’s ready? You can’t be 100 percent sure, but you can get pretty close if you just pay attention. A woman will let you know she is open to being pursued, and if she doesn't say it out loud, she might just say it by simply using body language. She will be flirting more with you and will do things like moving closer to you and leaning toward you as you speak, showing some skin, playing with her hair or touching you both accidentally and on purpose.
If she likes you, she’ll ultimately create the moment. When you are reasonably sure she’s ready, put on the moves by wrapping your arm around her shoulders. Talk about nice thoughts with her while you do this and keep her calm. If she is talking to you intimately for a while and the two of you cuddle, take her hands in yours, draw her close to you and gently kiss her on the lips.
Some women will let you take charge when they're ready. You can start by kissing her neck and gently nibbling on her lower lip. Explore her neck and face with yours and note her reactions. Let things move along slowly and build at their own pace and don't go for the goods until you've spent some time earning them! Remember, the confident man who has a proper build-up and uses good form will probably sweep her off her feet; however, the guy who is rude during conversation and immediately pulls out a condom will probably go home alone. Women control the speed of the relationship, and in most cases they decide after meeting a guy how far they are willing to go with him. So if she asks you to go some place more private (like your place) make sure you're ready.
Each woman is different, so I recommend that you carefully observe your date's actions and body language to make sure she'll be receptive to your advances. Even though you may feel sure she is sending all the signals, the last thing you want to do is scare her away by coming on too aggressively (e.g., shoving your tongue down her throat.)
If she tells you that she has an early-morning meeting, or has some relatives staying at her place, she is probably telling you that this isn’t the right time. If she is not ready and backs away, don’t get upset and let the night turn to waste. Just continue to have fun and try to make that first move again at another time.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Many marriages have ended in divorce because guys believed they were ready without having ever really considered what marriage entails. Most of these same men ignored their inner voice and walked down the aisle even when they sensed their relationship was doomed, only later to painfully discover that they made a terrible mistake. Marriage isn't something to be taken lightly, and a lot of guys walk into it for all the wrong reasons. The reasons below are some of the worst you can possibly use to get married.
1. Unplanned pregnancy
Getting married only because your girlfriend is pregnant is bad for everyone concerned, including the baby. If you want to be an active part of your child's life, you don't have to be in a loveless, unsuitable marriage of convenience to do it. Kids do not make marriages work.
2. Financial reasons
A marriage built solely on money and materialism is like building a house on sand. When the wind blows, your marriage will crumble. If money is the motivating force in a marriage it is certain to be an empty, cold relationship without affection.
4. Family pressure
When family gets involved, whether it is pushing you to marry a certain girl or you are expected to marry a girl within a certain race or social status, there is a problem. Pressure from your family to finally tie the knot, provide grandchildren or someone to carry on the family name are never good reasons to get hitched. Determining if a woman is "wife material" should not be a group decision.
5. You're tired of being single
It is certainly better to be single than settling for a woman you don't truly love and being miserable. Being the only unwed guy in the group may feel a bit awkward, but it's nothing compared to the agony you'll feel by getting hitched just to ensure that you're not the odd man out.
6. It seems like the next logical step
Although the logical sequence of a man's life usually includes starting a great career, buying a nice car and having a nice house, marriage doesn't have to be one of the steps. Everyone takes different paths in life, and it's possible that yours doesn't necessarily include a walk down the aisle.
7. You owe it to her
Just because you’ve been with a woman for a long time, doesn’t mean that she is the one for you. In fact, some studies show quite clearly that the longer people date before marriage, the more likely they’ll get divorced.
8. Thinking you can make it work
There is a misconception that being married solidifies a broken relationship. On the contrary, it can actually emphasize what is wrong and create more problems in the partnership. When a man marries a woman because he wants to "fix", or "improve" her, there is going to be major problems.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Knowing what turns a woman on is one of the most important keys to a establishing and maintaining a good relationship. Unfortunately, most men do not know the true art of turning a woman on and fail when it comes to doing it the right way. The following is a list of the most wanted male traits that can turn a woman on and get her going.
1. Being able to make her feel like a woman
The majority of women are searching for an appealing man who recognizes how to treat his lady the right way. A man who respects a woman and appreciates her for who she is has the power to make her weak in the knees. Make her feel special, and she’ll go to the ends of the earth for you.
2. Being able to take charge
3. Being able to say "I'm sorry"
Being able to say "I'm sorry" when you are clearly at fault is a definite turn on for women. A simple apology when deserved expresses a deep kind of respect for her and shows that you are emotionally fair and considerate.
4. Knowing how to touch her
This is a HUGE part of turning a girl on. Most guys fail to realize the places women want to be touched. A majority of women prefer soft, tender touches and strokes all over their body until they get fully aroused. So learn some good massage techniques and gently try a few on her head, neck and shoulders to increase her sexual responsiveness.
5. Being able to hold your own
Women (especially successful ones) look for men who won't take them for granted, so financial stability is a huge turn-on for them. Women feel comfortable with a man who is ambitious and passionate about life and can support himself. Being self-sufficient reassures a woman that she will not have to handle everything in a relationship.
6. Being well groomed
9. Being intelligent with a sense of humor
Women love to be with men who are smart and can make them smile and laugh. Laughter is really important in a woman's life and when you can hold an intelligent conversation and make her laugh, you give the impression that you are a sociable, attractive and humorous man. Most women want to be stimulated by someone who can tell a good joke and can challenge them intellectually.
10. Being a great kisser
Passionate kisses are love magnets that linger in a woman’s mind. Keep your kisses exciting by being spontaneous and by varying their intensity and duration. For most women, this deepens the connection in a relationship and supercharges their sex drive.
Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Female Turn Offs.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Every guy wants to date hot women. The problem is that most men are intimidated by beautiful women and have no clue what it really takes to attract them. Hot women get hit on all the time and have a ton of options, so in order to succeed with them, you have to find a way to stand out from the crowd. However, don’t think this is about money, fame or good looks. It’s about being different.
Hot women are attracted to masculinity and confidence, and if you don’t possess these traits, then quite honestly, your chances of attracting the hot women you want are minimal. Average guys are everywhere, and they don’t get noticed. Hot women don’t want needy, insecure and weak men. They feel attraction to men who are in control, strong in their own reality and make decisions without needing approval from others. Beautiful women don’t need to ask guys out because they have men coming at them from every direction, all the time. So if you want any hope of attracting these women, you have to take action and talk to them.
If a woman is hot, chances are she already knows it and she will move on quickly from a guy who doesn’t have the guts to approach, hold eye contact and have a normal conversation with her. So instead of falling all over yourself and being in awe when you're around a hot woman, completely ignore the fact that she is extremely good looking and treat her like any other person you might meet. This technique not only makes you seem “normal” to her, it also makes you seem mysterious and will spark her interest. She will then subconsciously think that you have a lot of options. You'll then create the impression that you are hard to get, and hot women find that kind of challenge irresistible.
Most women care more about the way a man carries himself than his looks. Hot women will pursue an "average" looking guy who is articulate, makes them laugh and knows how to have a good time much quicker than a man that may be a little better on the eyes, but is wearing a frown and looks uptight and unfriendly. Showing a woman that you have the etiquette of a gentleman is also a powerful way to stand out from the crowd, and small gestures from opening a door for her to pulling out her chair will set you apart from most of the other guys.
One of the biggest mistakes men make with women is being completely predictable. Being predictable instantly kills the main two things that all hot women are desperately searching for: excitement and anticipation. Women are naturally attracted to a man's personality more than anything else he can offer, so in order to attract hot women, be original, spontaneous and keep them guessing. Be creative and offer up fun things to do that they don’t keep hearing from other guys. Be a man with a plan and make your move.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Keeping a girl interested is something that can be a challenge to a regular guy. No matter how good-looking or funny you are, if you allow complacency to creep into your relationship, she’ll dump you without the slightest hesitation as soon as someone a little more interesting comes along. So how can you keep your girl interested in you and make sure she never leaves you? Here are some suggestions.
1. Be spontaneous
One of the best ways to maintain your girl's interest is to be spontaneous. Being spontaneous is a requirement for maintaining a good relationship because once things become predictable, things become boring--and once things become boring, the relationship is essentially over. Planning things like date nights and fun activities that both of you enjoy will help to keep things fresh and interesting for your girlfriend while giving the two of you an opportunity to create a deeper bond.
2. Keep yourself up
It is vital that you maintain high standards of grooming. While many men think that they only need to look their best at the beginning of a relationship, what they fail to realize is that the person she was attracted to was that well-groomed individual she first met. For this reason, if you let your standards slip, she will lose interest in you.
3. Be a good kisser
Another important way to maintain her interest is to make sure you are a good kisser. The art of kissing is very important in any relationship. In fact, many women put a lot of stock in a man’s kissing ability and some even claim that a first kiss is a solid early indicator of how the relationship will turn out.
4. Have a distinct scent
Smelling good is an important way to keep a woman interested. Having a distinct scent can make her feel safe, happy or excited and can create a series of positive associations with you.
5. Don't be clingy
The moment a man starts getting too clingy in a relationship, a woman will run for the hills. Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement from women. Women want to feel like you need them... but only if you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.
6. Let her talk
Just because you've been dating for a while doesn't mean that her thoughts and feelings should be a lower priority for you.Ask your girl interesting questions to keep her interested in conversations and let her know how important she is to you by listening to her and being there for her when she needs you.
7. Make her laugh
Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. Do not be too serious and do not be afraid to throw a joke in your interactions with her. If you and the woman you are dating can laugh together, you'll be creating good memories that will linger in her mind forever.
8. Be mysterious
The mystery behind a man is one of the key elements to keeping a woman attracted to him. Offering a woman too much information upfront is the equivalent of revealing all your cards, without giving her the chance to develop an attraction for you. Keep some aspects of your life a secret and reveal yourself gradually as the two of you continue dating and become more comfortable with each other. This way you’ll always leave her wanting more.
All women have things they need in a relationship. Women want a man to be someone they can rely on, depend on and confide in along with making her feel happy, secure and loved. However, when things like insensitive remarks, little hurts and frustration pile up in a long term relationship, she might get to the point where she simply says "enough is enough" and leaves.
It's a general rule that when your girlfriend decides to leave you, you've done something wrong. Chances are, you've done a lot of things wrong and depending on your situation, she probably left you for reasons you didn't think. Here are some reasons why women leave men.
1. Lack of Attention
Women love it when their men notice things about them and actually talks and listens to them. If there is a lack of communication and she notices, she’s likely to feel unsatisfied in the relationship even if everything else is going well. Listen to her when she talks. If she doesn’t feel like she’s receiving love and attention from you, she'll eventually find someone who will treat her right.
2. Lack of Appreciation
Women do a lot more than men tend to give them for, so appreciate the little things you girlfriend does for you. Be sure you compliment her on her attire or how good she does on things. Let her know that you do appreciate her doing things for you.
When you cheat, you acknowledge that something isn’t right in your relationship. However, instead of dealing with it, you decide that having an affair is the best way to handle it. When you get caught cheating, the fragile bridge of trust is broken. A stable relationship is based on trust, and if that is broken, it would be very difficult to heal. If there is a problem within the relationship, talk with her about your concerns. After all, how would you feel if she did it to you?
4. Lack of emotional support
Women are unique creatures and they require a lot of emotional support. They need to feel loved, needed and emotionally connected to their men. Women want their emotions met which means if they are supportive of you, they would like you to be supportive of them. If you cannot meet her emotionally needs, it is most likely she will turn elsewhere for companionship.
5. Lack of Intimacy
Women do not want to feel as if you only want them for sex. They want true intimacy, which means physical contact without sex sometimes. If you only come around her when you want sex, she will be become dissatisfied and will not even want to be touched by you.
6. Lack of Ambition
Women who are ambitious will seek out a partner that is also ambitious.Women like to date men whom they can move forward with and they like to look ahead and see a bright future. Women want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable lifestyle and showing no signs of maturity can make a woman leave you quickly.
7. You were too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe--but they don't want a dictator. Women do not want their boyfriends to tell them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to, or what to wear. Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and this will cause them to end the relationship.
8. You were too abusive
Abuse is not only physical. It can also take a verbal form. Being deceitful, having a short fuse, being overly-critical and belittling someone to make them feel worthless is also a type of abuse. Displaying these negative behaviors will cause her to leave you. Nobody wants to be with someone who is abusive.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. Although every relationship goes through its sexual ups and downs along with work and bills, it's easy to see how intimacy can slip off your relationship radar. Whatever your situation, you must remember that physical intimacy is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship because it unites partners physically, emotionally and spiritually. So if you feel like you and your partner may be in a sexual rut, here are some key components needed to spark that awesome sex life you have always desired.
1. Create Passion
Men and women alike need to feel the passion and raw emotion that comes with incredible sexual experiences. But to keep the passion, you must be willing to put out the effort. Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore your partner and make sure that you are connecting on a more intimate level. Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Tell her what you want to do with each section of her exposed skin. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time, explore her body and use different types of foreplay. Take the time to explore and play with her body to find out what kind of touch sends her down the road into incredible sex.
2. Be Spontaneous
There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Furthermore, there is no rule that says that you have to have sex at 8:00pm every Wednesday--so, change up your normal routine. There is nothing that can turn a woman on more than taking sex out of the bedroom and into other areas, and simply changing locations can dramatically improve your love life.
The same old place leads to the same old patterns, so explore some new erogenous areas like the kitchen, living room, etc... Also, don't be afraid of new positions or trying out a new toy. To spice things up further, stepping out of the role of being "yourself" and role playing can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently. This may be awkward at first, but give it an honest try. You might just like it.
3. Be Open About Your Needs
After being in a relationship for a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is rarely true. If you or your partner's needs aren't being met between the sheets, it's time to have a conversation about it. There is always something you haven't tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently. Being open and honest with each other about your fantasies and desires can bring the passion to a whole new level. If you don't communicate, you'll never know or be able to get her "there."
4. Be Responsible
Practicing safe and responsible sex is also a key to happy sex life. Letting your partner know that you are prepared for the occasion, wherever it should arise, can also create the element of excitement and evoke thoughts of desire. This also shows that you love and respect your partner enough to make sure she stays healthy.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Men and women are very distinct creatures. While men have a tendency to be straightforward, women are often not so simple. Unlike men, women often uses hints and insinuations to steer you in their direction, and when trying to understand what they really mean, you are sometimes better off reading between the lines. The following cheat sheet will help you learn how to listen to your woman and bridge the gap between what she says and what she means.
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right.
2. "Just give me five minutes."
If she is getting dressed, this means 30 minutes.
3. "Where is our relationship going?"
What she means is that she would like for you to suggest the idea of the two of you to graduating to a more serious and exclusive relationship.
This word ALWAYS means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "Nothing" usually end with "Fine."
5. "Go ahead."
This is not permission--it's a dare. Whatever it is, do it at your own risk!
6. "Loud sigh."
This is a non-verbal statement that means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time arguing with you about nothing.
7. "That’s okay."
This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. It means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
8. "A guy was flirting with me."
She wants you to know that other men are interested in her and that you should appreciate what you have.
9. "You know me so well."
It means that she's starting to feel the L-word, but she doesn't want to be the first one to say it.
10. "Don’t Worry About It, I Got It."
Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a she has asked you to do several times, but is now doing it herself since you've neglected it. This will later result in you asking “What's wrong?”
So you met a woman who seemed like that "special" lady who constantly flirted with you. You started developing feelings for her and considered that maybe she was "the one". However, when you decided to pursue something further with her, something changed. She suddenly withdrew from you and didn't seem the least bit interested in any kind of romantic relationship with you, saying "Oh, I thought we were just friends." Face it--you fell victim to the Tease.
The Tease is a master of manipulation. Some of the reasons these manipulative women engage in this ‘teasing‘ behavior is because it gives them wanted attention, an ego boost by impressing other women and assurance that they could in fact have certain men if they wanted.
Others use teasing as a means of filling a void of some kind, getting another guy's attention or to even get revenge on a guy who scorned them.Whatever the reason, these devious women are experts at spotting male vulnerabilities and will flaunt their femininity and their sexuality to get what they want from men and have no intention of being with them.
No man wants to play the fool. Here are the top 10 signs that she's just a tease so you can recognize this from the get go and walk-away:
1. She has many male friends who call her frequently. She keeps many unsuspecting men by her side, and they all cater to her every whim.
2. She has generally no or very few female friends as other women are competition to her.
3. She doesn’t talk about her personal life and constantly makes herself unavailable.
4. She never comments on how attractive you are. She’s not sincerely attracted to you, she’s just entertaining herself.
5. She keeps conversations constricted to things going on in the moment and will not give you any clues that she wants to be more (e.g., asking you out to dinner or to the movies.)
6. She takes your number instead of giving you hers – She’s doesn’t want you calling her, and has no intentions on calling you.
7. She is not open to being touched. She pulls away when you make attempts at physical contact.
8. She has a hard time focusing on you and plays lots of mind games. Her eyes usually wonder when another guy passes by.
9 . She craves attention and is usually wrapped in shape-revealing clothing with lots of cleavage showing.
10. She is an extremely high maintenance woman, both financially and emotionally, needs many things to be happy, namely lots of money and material goods.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
If you find that the women you date always turn out to be annoying or weird in some way, maybe you're just choosing the wrong type of woman. Although dating is not about putting people into categories, there are some personalities that just make a guy want to turn and run. If you steer clear of these 10 types of women, you'll avoid some major headaches in the future.
1. The Chatterbox
This is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seemingly only concerned about what is going on in her life, she always has to make a comment about everything and dominates conversations.
2. The Desperate Chick
This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog--right after the first date! When a woman advances WAY faster than normal, watch out. She NEEDS a man so bad that she's willing to put anybody in that slot, even the homeless guy on the corner.
3. The Overly-Critical Woman
Anything you do for this type of woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards. Anything that is said by anyone will be quickly taken out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world. This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage and will make you an angry and bitter person as there will be nothing but misery with her.
4. The Bimbo
This type of woman can't obtain a GED but has managed to secure a PhD in the science of the bedroom. This is an intellectually challenged woman who looks great but, in all honesty, shouldn’t open her mouth. Her skills are unquestionably only rooted in the physical realm and unless you're just after one-night stands, you do not want to bring a stupid girl home to meet Mom and Dad.
5. The High Maintenance Chick
If this type of woman breaks a nail, she expects you to drop everything you're doing to drive her to the salon immediately. Her daddy always told her she was a princess and she expects to be treated like one at all times. She has expensive taste and expects you to shower her with only the best things and take her out to posh places on a regular basis.
6. The Clingy Girl
This woman is a nuisance who can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She'll adopt your interests, calls 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. This type of woman will smother any chance of you missing her by insisting that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.
7. The Baby's Mama
This woman has a great physique, great personality and her toes are pretty too! There’s only one problem--she’s got a pretty large amount of children with assorted "baby-daddy's", and when women like this get desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be “daddy.” This woman got knocked up by somebody that she was supposedly in love with, and not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guys that are "jerks" now are the same guys she once thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.
8. The Gold Digger
The Gold-Digger will compliment you on your expensive watch, ask you what kind of car you drive, what you do for a living, where you live and so on. Like the High Maintenance woman, the Gold Digger is basically looking for a sugar daddy, she'll size you up within the first five minutes and drop you just as quickly if your cash flow runs out and you can't take her shopping anymore. These types of women will just suck your wallet dry and leave you emasculated. Fortunately,you can usually see this type coming from a mile away.
9. The Club Girl
Club girls are nothing more than fantasy women who have been practically living in bars and clubs since they hit the legal drinking age. They have beautiful faces with full lips, big doe eyes, great legs, and all the curves you could ever ask for. The problem in dating these women is that they love to wear clothes that show off their great assets not just to you, but to every Tom, Dick and Harry on the street. A woman like this maybe carefree and wild; however, once you take a closer look, you'll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car.
10. The Feminist
This type of woman can never be pleased by a man and she believes that men are the cause of all the pains and suffering of society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things "the right way". You don't want to waste any time with this type of woman because anything that you do will always be negative to her.
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Dating is exciting. You’re getting to know each other and all seems well, then out of nowhere she asks you the most dangerous relationship question of all--Do I look fat in these honey? Now the trap is laid and you have to answer. Talk about frustrating.
Make no mistake about it --this question is notorious for a reason: it's very difficult to answer without getting yourself into trouble. This is a test, and your chances of getting laid again depend entirely on how you perform. A quick "no" means you didn't even look and she'll have a reason to feel annoyed. Giving a slow "no" will inevitably prompt a response like, "You had to think about it?" which is then accompanied by crying, yelling, heated discussion of arguments you had long forgotten about, etc. Say "yes" and you're as good as single.
Answering women's questions can always be difficult, but exactly what is the right answer to this question? There is really no good answer to the “do I look fat?” question. The reason is that the wrong answer (and to be honest, that could be any answer or, no answer at all) can bring the wrath of the cast iron skillet across your head. However, if you hope to stand a chance, you have to be able to decode the message sent when she asks you and know what she wants to hear, even if it means seriously stretching the truth.
Most of the time, women ask this question to test their mate to make sure they give the right answer and are usually seeking reassurance that they look as hot as they feel and not real honesty. However, there are some women who honestly want to know if they look a little plump or fat in a particular outfit so they can change into something else that their man would be attracted to. A good portion of ladies think about their looks all the time and are self-conscious about their bodies in the same way that men are self-conscious about sex and they want to feel better about themselves.
One good trick to handling this question the right way is to give the slightest pause, as if you're checking her out for the first time with a quick head-to-toe followed by a crisp "no!" If you're not sure where she's coming from or how to respond right away, you're free answer this difficult question by asking another question right back. For example, say something like "No, I don't think that you look fat, but why do you ask?" Then look utterly shocked and follow that with a loud 'can you be serious?' kind of tone: DON'T BE CRAZY! Whether she shares more with you or not, take her hands, look deep into her eyes with all the supreme male confidence you can muster and tell her she's the most desirable, beautiful woman you've ever seen.
Another way the question could be answered is with a joke. For example, if she asks you "do I look fat in these jeans?", you could attack it with "I'd like them better crumpled on the floor" or "you're the type of woman who looks better naked". If you feel you have to say something negative, comment on the clothes, rather than on your girlfriend. You don't want to lie to her and watch her go out in something that is truly unflattering, so to avoid hurting her feelings (and keep you out of the doghouse) simply saying "Honey, you know I love your body, but those jeans are awful" is a lot better than "yes, those jeans make your ass look huge."
Remember, it is important to have a relationship where you tell the truth, but sometimes it is critical that you tell a little white lie. The general rule is, women ask a question and men search for the “right” answer, or at least for one that will result in as little trouble as possible.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
It's no secret that certain guys have been proven over and over to be completely irresistible to women -- and it's not simply because of their good looks or six-pack abs or the type of car they drive. The truth is that women tend to be attracted to certain personality traits and so, naturally, they flock to the men who possess them. Here are some tips that you need to know to become irresistible to women.
1. Smell great
The scent of a man is really important to women, and they are very repelled by men who smell not so good. Wear cologne that smells really good--just make sure that you do not use too much. A little bit is good but over-applying it will make a girl want to run away holding her nose.
2. Be unpredictable
Women are drawn to men they can’t control or predict. In fact, they absolutely obsess over guys who tease and mess with them in ways they didn't expect or haven't seen before. Avoid predictable routines and above all, never act like every other guy.
3. Be funny
Humor is the fastest, most powerful way to become irresistible to women--even the ones you might consider "out of your league." Make a woman laugh with a clever sense of humor, and I don't care how hot or unattainable she seems, you'll trigger positive feelings in her that she just can't ignore.
4. Be romantic
A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. Using romantic gestures to show her that you're thinking about her will allow her to feel free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.
5. Be confident
Nobody wants a guy who acts unsure of himself. A confident man is totally secure and sure of himself and doesn't seek approval from women--and this makes them want him even more. Women find adventurous, exciting, and spontaneous men irresistible. Having male confidence is great--just don't become so full of yourself that you come across as cocky or arrogant.
6. Be attentive to her
A very powerful way to become irresistible to women is to show genuine interest in her likes, hobbies or interest. Doing this will allow you to create a connection with her.
7. Maintain eye contact
The importance of eye contact cannot be underestimated as this is one of the most effective ways to get a connection with a woman. Men can become irresistible to women just on the way he looks at her. Establishing eye contact with her gives a signal that you're interested in her.
8. Unleash your smile
Women are irresistibly drawn to smiling guys because smiling says that you’re a positive, optimistic person who has fun and enjoys life. Most importantly, smiling makes you more physically attractive to women and reveals your positive personality.
Monday, August 9, 2010
The only purpose of a pickup line should be to initiate a conversation with a girl, and while most guys have the best intentions in mind when using them, most women don't like them and the only things you can be assured of using these bad one-offs is making a bad first impression, a slap in the face and a drink on your shirt. Here are the 10 worst pickup lines you absolutely want to avoid using.
1. " I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package!"
The general reaction to this line is a swift kick to the groin.
2. "I hope you know CPR, because you just took my breath away."
A quick jab to the stomach after delivering this pick up line may take your breath away.
3. "Your daddy must have been a baker, 'cause you've got a nice set of buns."
A girl will most likely call you a pervert and tell you to get away.
4. "I seem to have lost my phone number, can I have yours?"
Nine times out of ten, the girl will dismiss you as an unoriginal creep and leave you standing there--alone.
5. “Baby, you've got great legs, what time do they open?”
This bad pickup line is just insulting. Anytime you imply that a good-looking girl is easy, you’re certainly not going to get anywhere her. Yes, women want to feel sexy and attractive, but they don't want to feel like a hooker.
6. “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk past again?”
This type of bad pickup line crosses the line into arrogance and almost guarantees that you won’t be having much luck with the ladies. Arrogance is good--to a certain extent. Besides, you never invite a girl to tell you to leave as doing this will be just setting yourself up for failure.Not near as tired as when she gets through running away from you. This one has been around for longer than most of us would like to remember and is just plain terrible.
8. "What's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?"
This classic line is time-tested, but you could run the risk of being the tenth person to use it that evening. Plus, you're telling her that she has bad taste.
9. "Do you have a license? Because you’re driving me crazy."
Using this line will surely drive her away in the opposite direction you were heading with her eyes rolling.
10. "Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?"
No, but it will probably hurt when she punches you in the face for being lame. Most women take this as just another meaningless compliment.
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Sunday, August 8, 2010
Most of us have been on a date that hasn't gone well, and some of us have even been on dates where part of you wanted to escape through the back door of the restaurant or out the bathroom window. Maybe the girl you were with didn't exactly fit the picture on her profile, maybe she was self-obsessed, or maybe the two of you simply were not compatible. Whatever the reason may be, this guide will help you get out of any bad date the right way and allow you put an end to your nightmare.
There is no reason you should remain in an uncomfortable situation for the sake of someone you barely know, so if the date is not working out, use the direct approach and simply tell her. If the date isn't going well for you, she may not exactly be having a blast either; however, just because you think it's a bad date, don’t just automatically assume that she feels the same way.
It's a good idea to be honest about your feelings in such a way that your date doesn't feel offended or hurt and tell her something like "We don't seem to have much in common and I don't feel the date is going well" or "I just don't see this as a good match and I don't want to waste anymore of your time, so I'm going to cut this short." Mention to her that you appreciate her time and company to soften the blow.