Wednesday, September 30, 2009

5 Signs She's Not Into You

So you've been chasing that certain woman for while. She flirts with other men in front of you and rarely calls you, but you continue to hope for the one day when you'll get out of the FRIENDZONE and she'll see the light and fall into your arms. But after some time passes,
how do you know when to continue your pursuit and to walk away with your dignity intact? If she displays the signs listed below, you can be pretty certain that she's not into you.

1. She always cancels plans with you

It is certainly fair to occasionally cancel plans for a legitimate reason, but if she bails consistently, it not only shows that she's not interested, but that she holds little respect for you at all and that you're just the guy she looks too just in case she doesn't have anything better to do. If she does this, move on and do it quickly.

2. Her "perfect man" is nothing like you

She tells you she wants a bad boy who is exciting and dangerous. You are a sensitive guy who listens and has manners and class. Take this as a kind hint that you are not her perfect man. Most likely, though, you are in the "friend zone" which means that you are just like one of her girlfriends that she shares her thoughts with and nothing further. Although she may eventually fall in love with that sensitive guy--it won't be with you.

3. She tries to hook you up with other women

For whatever reason, she doesn't see you as relationship material for her. If she's actually trying to hook you up with other women, the message should be clear: She definitely doesn't want you for herself.

4. She avoids eye contact and physical proximity

Don't think you can disregard a woman's feelings of attraction and gradually sell her with your inner beauty. If she constantly avoids making eye contact with you and keeps you at arm's length at all times, take it as a sign that you're not her type. If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you and make eye contact.

5. She tells you she's not ready for a relationship

When a woman says this to you, what she really means is that she does not want to be in a relationship with you! Women often use this one when they feel cornered by someone they are not interested in. For a woman, saying this to a man leaves no room for a counterargument.

Dealing With The Drama Queen

It's no secret that women need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth in a relationship; however, drama queens have low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. To counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the center of attention.

Drama queens make the worst kind of girlfriends for a lot of reasons. Drama queens have the emotional age of a young child and will often exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation. These manipulative women often come from dysfunctional families and will exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. One of the most obvious warning signs that you're with a drama queen is when you're constantly being told things like "look at me."

Drama queens suddenly develop mysterious illnesses at the most inconvenient times, like just before you and your buddies are about to go watch the big game or have a guys night out. They are master manipulators and somehow always manage to get their way, whether it’s by guilt-tripping (emotional-bullying), sabotage, or just cold-hearted calculation.

These women like it when other people fail, particularly your family and friends. They may also exploit your relationship with family members and friends, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions and will cause you to suffer emotional injuries. Every incident or opportunity with this type of woman, no matter how insignificant, is exaggerated, distorted and elevated to dramatic, crisis proportions.

The longer a man is in this situation, the more he will grow accustomed to these behaviors and stay in the relationship far longer than he should. Don’t expect to be able to live any kind of normal life outside of your relationship with a drama queen. Ask yourself if your woman displays any of these red flags. If you answered yes, you may want to consider the fact that she’s nuts!

5 Ways to Ruin a Good Relationship

The dating world can be harsh and finding somebody worthy of your time can be difficult. Once you’ve found the right woman and
developed a serious relationship with her, you should find new ways to make your woman feel special, not run her off. If there’s anything a woman hates, it’s being taken for granted. If she’s worth keeping, avoid the behaviors listed below.

1. Cheating
What most women consider being unfaithful goes far beyond having sex with someone else.If you are kissing, caressing, going down or having sex with another woman while you're in a monogamous relationship--you're cheating. Furthermore, if you are committing more time to another female and actually enjoying spending quality time with her more than your girlfriend, there is a problem. Your girlfriend doesn't want to be second best and wants to feel like she can trust and confide in you.

2. Developing an unkempt appearance
Going from the sophisticated GQ style to beer-belly and wife-beaters as soon as you’re comfortable with her tells her that you were just putting on a show to initially attract her and that your really don't care what you look like to her. Keeping yourself up is very important in a relationship. If she was attracted to you when you were wearing nice suits, chances are that’s what she likes, and she may stop being attracted to you if you get too comfortable and downgrade to dingy t-shirts and faded jeans.

3. Being a controlling man
Although women have a reputation for being clingy, they also enjoy their independence. Being jealous and overly-critical of her friends, telling her where and when to do things is a sure fire way to run her off. There are situations in which she may want your input or advice, but otherwise, don’t be pushy with advice or demands. Don't be a pushover, but you have to give her space and let her make her own decisions.

4. Not making enough time for her
Although you may want to do all of the things you did when you were single, you also have to make time for your woman. It may be tough at times, but sometimes you will have to give up the video games and time with pals in order to spend time together.

5. Taking her for granted
Once you become serious in a relationship, your woman will expect to be wooed the same way she was when you first won her over. If you stop complimenting her or stop taking her out, she will feel neglected. Doing the little things like asking her about what's going on in her life, telling her she's beautiful or calling or texting her in the middle of the day just to tell her you're thinking about her will make her feel special. Remember,if you don’t pay attention to her, a lot of other men will.

Friday, September 25, 2009

5 First Date Mistakes Men Make

Women always notice the little details, and when it comes to first dates, most men don't know when they're messing up. Remember, the first date with a woman is crucial, and performing any of these 5 mistakes below may destroy your chances of ever getting a second date.

1. Being poorly groomed

Poor grooming includes body odor, having bad breath, botching your shave job, and wearing wrinkled clothes. Don't forget the basics. Always check yourself in the mirror for a last minute touch up before approaching her.

2. Having weird habits

Avoid displaying nervous ticks, picking scabs, constantly licking your lips or displaying any other little tics that make you look nervous. Before you start talking to her, take a deep breath and focus.

3. Staring at her breasts

One of the worst things you can do when talking to a woman is to seem more interested in her breasts than in her face. Men who stare at cleavage and talk to women like their objects are unlikely to get many dates.

4. Looking at other women

When you're caught staring at other women, you can expect to be constantly accused of things like lying and cheating. You must give her your undivided attention. Keep your attention on her the whole time and when you're talking to her, don't let your eyes roam around the room, checking out other beautiful girls.

. Being stuck on yourself
Talking too much about yourself could make you look narcissistic and lower her interest level. When you talk to her, keep the conversation focused on things like her career, family and her likes and dislikes and avoid talking about sex, politics and religion until you know her better.

Friday, September 18, 2009

How To Awaken Her Sexuality

Many women don’t have enjoyable sexual interaction. In fact, many women have had so little good sex that they’ve actually become sexually dormant. Women seem to develop this natural response when they’re at a time in their lives when they don’t have enjoyable sexual interaction and they seem to accept it and simply live with it.

Too often women get into a routine where they have sex at the same time, at the same place. Some women, especially those with kids, often get so wrapped up in the day-to-day routine that they forget about pleasure all together. Stop and think about what types of sex that you and your partner are missing out on and experiment with some new methods and locations.

So how do you become the guy that makes her forget everything outside, and feel and experience things inside that she’s always wanted? The first thing to do is to effectively communicate about sex with her. Be attentive, ask questions and encourage her to tell you what she likes, what she imagines you doing to her, etc.. Let her know that all her fantasies are acceptable.

Also, try treating your woman to some hot lingerie, draw her a long sensual baths or light some candles in order to reacquaint your woman with her sensual side. Also, learn to touch and kiss her in many ways (light, slow,intense, etc..) Touching releases powerful chemicals in a woman's body that she can literally feel and allows sexual tension to build and build.

Awakening her sexuality with care and skill will allow you to find the direct path to those intense, throbbing passions deep inside her. Making a woman feel mind-blowing pleasure can be fantastic and very enjoyable, but remember-once her sexuality has awoken, be prepared to deal with it!

Friday, September 11, 2009

Meeting New Women

A great deal of men don't approach women because feel like they're not prepared to talk to them. When it comes to social communication with women, most guys use submissive, apologetic body language and voice tones and they look as if they're pleading with a woman to give them approval, and they come across as weak. Most women will think that you are weak, assume that you will always act like that and will avoid you.

The guys who are great at talking to women never use played out pickup lines and stick with simple language and conversation starters such as "Hi, are you from around here?" They use an appropriate smile, ask open-ended questions and use their body language to communicate that they are comfortable and confident. They pay attention to the situation and approach women when they're not likely to feel rudely interrupted. They approach women and begin conversations like they would with an old friend, showing no signs of insecurity because they are trying to find out if the woman meets their standards!

If your hitting the night clubs or bars, it's also a good idea to use a good"wingman" or good friend to help you get started meeting women. Your wingman can be used for moral support and should be able to read your body language, signs and codes, and act accordingly to help you interact with women. Just make sure that your friend can handle himself when talking to women and is not the type of guy who will make things worse and scare women away from you. Remember, once a woman thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to think of you in that way for a long time.

There is no perfect formula that will suit or impress every woman. Take time to analyze some possible problems with your current approach with women. Think about common situations where you see women you'd like to meet, come up with some different ways to start a conversation with them. Also, plan how you're going to physically and emotionally respond to a woman who just isn't interested in talking to you. The more you mentally rehearse your conversations and techniques, the more comfortable and confident you'll become around women and you'll notice the difference in how women respond to you.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Answering Your Phone on a Date

Guys, regularly answering cell phone calls (especially from other women) while you are out together with your lady is a big no-no. A woman wants to feel that she's the full focus of your attention and will feel insulted and disrespected that you would take these calls right in front of her--especially if she already has told you that it bothers her. Your outside communications during a date should be limited only to emergencies.

If and when you get her back to your place at the end of your date, do not under any circumstances stop a make-out session to answer the your phone--in fact, just turn your phone off! Interruptions like this can really bring a potential evening of romance to a screeching halt.

Setting the Mood With Music

When trying to find the right music to set a romantic mood, choose the genre and songs very carefully. When it comes to better intimacy, women are unconsciously led in certain directions by sound. It is well known that the type of music you choose can relay a message about where the night is headed, whether you choose faster selections for a more boom-boom session or slower selections when the mood calls for a slower, more tender vibe.

Remember that you’re going to all this effort because you want her to feel special; you’re designing the entire date around her so stick to the type of music she likes. Avoid overly girly music and if it's your first date or you haven't dated long, definitely avoid songs with sexual clich├ęs, for example, "Let’s Get It On" or "Sexual Healing." While rock music can make sex exciting, it does not do well for setting a passionate mood.

Keep any music you choose in the background--never make it a focus. As you experiment with different tunes, keep in mind that music without lyrics can really get the both of you lost in the moment. Playing some instrumental music in the background can be very effective for getting her in the mood. If you don't know what music to play, put on her favorite CD. You may also want to make an investment in some smooth jazz music as it is a surefire way to get the romance flowing.

Remember, bad music can put her on edge just as much as good tunes can relax her. As always, be a gentleman and read and accommodate her signs.

Monday, September 7, 2009

Love in the Shower

There are few things more romantic than loving each other under the showers. Making love in the shower can be a great experience given that your shower isn't the size of a toilet. And when you both get inside, you can go at her from all angles. Before beginning the love act, give a quick bath to each other. Then you can begin teasing your woman's senses with warm touches on her erogenous zones. Make her yearn for more with every touch.

After rinsing away the soap from her body, begin making love to her using the various kissing techniques and experimenting with new sexual positions. You may want to experiment a little by introducing a burning scented candles in the bathroom or placing a stool underneath the shower for a more tantalizing act.

Although shower sex can be quite pleasurable, there are precautions you have to consider.
Water will dry up natural lubrication from a woman’s body, which can lead to unpleasurable sex. Be sure that you are prepared with lubrication that is not water-soluble and will make penetration a lot more comfortable for both of you. If you plan on using a condom, know that water and condoms do not mix.

Hot water and chemicals, namely chlorine, can affect a condom’s durability. You also have to consider that there is an increased chance of the condom slipping off in the water. Footing is also an issue. You need proper footing to give thrust, so you might want to invest in adhesive grips for the bottom of the tub. As long as your safe, shower sex should be fun and make for better intimacy between the two of you.

Sensual Baths

Giving your woman a sensual bath can be a heavenly experience if you know what you're doing. Keep in mind this type of bath is not intended to cleanse her body; it's to help her feel relaxed, sexy and spoiled.

Some essential ingredients necessary to make such an evening perfect are some small candles to light the room. Choose a scented one, preferably vanilla, cinnamon or cherry. Buy some of her favorite romantic foods for her to nibble on like chocolate, strawberries, etc.. Purchase some roses or her favorite flowers. Get her favorite champagne or her favorite wines. Get some bath gels, wash cloths and big, fluffy towels for drying off and provide a comfortable robe for her. You can also mix some of her favorite songs to help set the mood.

Draw the bath with bubbles or oils and ensure that it's a comfortable temperature. While the tub is filling, set up the music, the towels, the candles, the drinks and the food so they're easily accessible without getting wet or knocked over. Put the candles on the corners of the tub, the sink and the floor. Take the petals from the roses or her favorite flowers and put them into the water.

When the bath is ready, cover her eyes, bring your woman to the bathroom and open the door to present the scene. Ensure that you have already cleansed your body beforehand, because this type of bath is all about her. Get her naked, put her in the tub and take the water in your hands. Have her lean against you and give her a few sips of champagne. Then, hand-feed her a few bites of the fruits you brought for her. Squeeze the bath gel onto the bath sponge and lather each part of your her body. Take your time, lathering each part slowly.

You can also use your hands to explore her body and play around by rubbing the inside of her thighs, her clitoris with your clean fingers, rubbing the back of her neck, and even massaging her breasts. Continue massaging her skin as you pour the water all over her, rinsing her off while enjoying the feel of her skin while engaging all of her senses during the bath until she can no longer take it. When she is ready to come out, use one large towel to cover her body and the other to cover her hair. Gently towel dry her body, lay her on the bed and apply her favorite lotion to her body.

Although sex will likely follow, the goal is to take the time to spoil your woman silly by making her feel special and giving her an evening that she will tell all her girlfriends about.

How To Get Her Number

For most men, there is nothing more intimidating than approaching a woman and closing the deal (a.k.a. getting her phone number). Getting a woman's number is crucial in order to move the interaction forward. After all, even if you had a great conversation with a woman, you will probably never see her again if she doesn't give you her number or some other method of communication.

Before you ask for numbers, you have to understand what factors will influence a woman to give you her "real" number, or give you the old " I'd love to give you my number, but I just moved and still don't have my new number " excuse. A lot of guys think that they can approach a woman and ask for her number just seconds after meeting her. It simply doesn't work that way.

In reality, the only way a woman will consider giving her number out is if she feels comfortable around you and enough attraction has been created. The last thing she wants is to hand over an invitation for a stalker or some guy who is emotionally cold and seems to be only interested in having sex with her.

To improve your chances of getting the digits of a woman you are interested in talking to, ensure that you are well groomed and dressed stylishly. Approach her in a calm and composed manner and avoid stuttering or speaking so softly that she has trouble understanding you. When talking to her, make her feel comfortable by engaging her in an intellectual and exciting conversation and try to make your conversation last for at least 3- 5 minutes.

Remember the importance of eye contact and don’t talk too fast or too much. Don’t do nervous gestures like weird laughs or ticks and avoid sexual innuendos. Refrain from giving her generic compliments because they will make her think that you're trying too hard to get something out of her.

If you are talking and you see her smiling, becoming more and more interested in your stories, directing her body towards you and touching her hair, you've piqued her interest in you and have established a bond. The only thing left for you to do is close the deal. At this point, tell her how interesting she was to talk to. Then look directly into her eyes and tell her that you would love for her to have your number and how much you would love to have hers as well, so that the two of you can have an opportunity to speak again.

Women like spontaneous men who act in the spur of the moment, so discreetly ask someone for a pen and use available props such as a matchbook or napkin and give her the opportunity to write it her number down for you. As soon as you get the number, leave her presence so you'll leave her wanting more.

No matter how good of a conversationalist you are, sometimes a woman just won't give you her number, even if she thinks you're a great guy. This is usually because she already has a boyfriend, is married, or she was in a hurry or in a bad mood. So, if instead of giving you her number, she begins to make an excuse, don't wait for her to finish. Simply interrupt her with, "It was nice meeting you," look confident and walk away with your head held up high and go find someone else.

You should get into the habit of asking for numbers every time you approach a woman -- even if you don't plan on calling her. Now that you know the sequence, practice your skills over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response when approaching women. The more you do this, the more it will become second nature to you and you'll have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

When She Won't Return Your Calls

So you met this attractive woman at the bar. The two of you chatted, she reciprocated all your flirts and by the end of the night you had her digits. However, a few days passed by and you consistently called her only to talk with her voice mail. So why didn't she return any of your calls?

A lot of women have been taught that the way to “hook” a man and keep him wanting more is to play hard to get. And not returning your calls right away (or at all) is one of the techniques some women use. On the other hand, it is often much easier for them to play nice and give you their number instead of shaking their heads and saying: “Sorry, I’m just not interested.”

Think hard about your interaction with her and the way you carried yourself and ask yourself some questions like: Were you interesting or boring and predictable to her? Were you a challenge or were you overly sensitive in front of her? Did you say or do something offensive or did you kiss up to her too much? Did she discover something about you that made her rethink her decision to answer your calls?

Wait it out for a few days to a week. If you still haven’t heard from her by then, you need to realize she's showing you one of the biggest signs that she's not into you and it's time to move on. Whatever you do, do not go and visit her without her consent. Showing up suddenly might seem like the ideal solution to getting some communication going, but showing up at her door will not only only upset her, but also make her think she now has a stalker as well.