Monday, September 7, 2009
How To Get Her Number
For most men, there is nothing more intimidating than approaching a woman and closing the deal (a.k.a. getting her phone number). Getting a woman's number is crucial in order to move the interaction forward. After all, even if you had a great conversation with a woman, you will probably never see her again if she doesn't give you her number or some other method of communication.
Before you ask for numbers, you have to understand what factors will influence a woman to give you her "real" number, or give you the old " I'd love to give you my number, but I just moved and still don't have my new number " excuse. A lot of guys think that they can approach a woman and ask for her number just seconds after meeting her. It simply doesn't work that way.
In reality, the only way a woman will consider giving her number out is if she feels comfortable around you and enough attraction has been created. The last thing she wants is to hand over an invitation for a stalker or some guy who is emotionally cold and seems to be only interested in having sex with her.
To improve your chances of getting the digits of a woman you are interested in talking to, ensure that you are well groomed and dressed stylishly. Approach her in a calm and composed manner and avoid stuttering or speaking so softly that she has trouble understanding you. When talking to her, make her feel comfortable by engaging her in an intellectual and exciting conversation and try to make your conversation last for at least 3- 5 minutes.
Remember the importance of eye contact and don’t talk too fast or too much. Don’t do nervous gestures like weird laughs or ticks and avoid sexual innuendos. Refrain from giving her generic compliments because they will make her think that you're trying too hard to get something out of her.
If you are talking and you see her smiling, becoming more and more interested in your stories, directing her body towards you and touching her hair, you've piqued her interest in you and have established a bond. The only thing left for you to do is close the deal. At this point, tell her how interesting she was to talk to. Then look directly into her eyes and tell her that you would love for her to have your number and how much you would love to have hers as well, so that the two of you can have an opportunity to speak again.
Women like spontaneous men who act in the spur of the moment, so discreetly ask someone for a pen and use available props such as a matchbook or napkin and give her the opportunity to write it her number down for you. As soon as you get the number, leave her presence so you'll leave her wanting more.
No matter how good of a conversationalist you are, sometimes a woman just won't give you her number, even if she thinks you're a great guy. This is usually because she already has a boyfriend, is married, or she was in a hurry or in a bad mood. So, if instead of giving you her number, she begins to make an excuse, don't wait for her to finish. Simply interrupt her with, "It was nice meeting you," look confident and walk away with your head held up high and go find someone else.
You should get into the habit of asking for numbers every time you approach a woman -- even if you don't plan on calling her. Now that you know the sequence, practice your skills over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response when approaching women. The more you do this, the more it will become second nature to you and you'll have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.