Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Top 10: Mistakes Women Make in Bed

Most women like to think of themselves as great in bed. That’s probably because the guy they’re with hasn’t complained about their performance. So what do guys find so awful they’d consider a woman a bad lay? Start with these 10 mistakes women make in bed.

1. She doesn't communicate

One of the main keys to having better intimacy is communication; however, many women don't focus on their own sexuality and assume that a man will come along to teach them everything they should know. Some women don’t show their emotions and fall victim to the idea that their partner will automatically know or sense what’s going on with her. The bottom line is that you will not know what she likes best if she never tells you.

2. She shows no enthusiasm
A woman's sexual enthusiasm also communicates her interest in you. She doesn't have to bounce off the walls, but she should at least be interested in sex and show a willingness to go out of her comfort zone and try new things sometimes.

3. She lets you do whatever

Most of us don’t like to have sex with a corpse. When a woman just just lies there, makes no noise and lets you do whatever you want in bed, it's a huge turnoff because you feel like you're more into it than she is.

4. She has poor hygiene

Most women care immensely about how they present themselves; however, there are some who do not and it carries over to the bedroom. Women with poor hygiene, i.e., not shaving anywhere, displaying unkempt hair, having bad breath and foul odor from their intimate areas are not desirable and are often seen as disgusting and very inconsiderate.

5. She pretends to be sick
Women are good at faking sickness or headache just to avoid having sex with their man. These same women fail to realize that too many excuses will send a man looking elsewhere for satisfaction.

6. She's not willing to learn or experiment

These women aren’t open to experimentation and aren’t creative enough in the bedroom. They don’t appear to be very adventurous and only want to have sex in the missionary position.

7. She 's not confident

Women need to understand that men rarely look at their flaws (stretch marks, a little jiggly belly) during sex. A woman who is overly concerned about her appearance and hides her body during sex, or refuses to enjoy certain sexual positions because she fears what a guy might think of her body can often dampen the mood.

8. She talks too much

Everyone knows that women like to talk a lot, but it’s not the best activity to do in bed. Conversation has its place, but no one, especially men, really wants to talk about the kids, grocery shopping, or what you did that day during intercourse. Talking during sex should be reserved only for dirty talk and whispering sweet nothings.

9. She stops doing what you like

She begins doing something you're into, your perfectly aroused and enjoying yourself and what does she do? She stops what she's doing and rushes off to the bathroom. Lots of women don't understand how this can totally destroy the mood.

10. She never initiates lovemaking

It's an old stereotype: men lead, women follow. Although most women like men to be dominant and take the lead sexually, it doesn’t have to be the guy who is dominant all the time. It's just as nice for guys to see their assertive side.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Blind Date Tips

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Blind dates can be quite exciting, but also a touch riskier than a first date with a person whom you've met previously. With the right attitude, your blind date can be an interesting adventure rather than a stressful ordeal.

While it is important to exercise caution in all types of dating, it’s even more important in blind dating. Odds are you are being set up on this date by a friend, but before you agree to a blind date you should try to get as much info as you can about your date. Ask for as many details about her as you can reasonably expect without pushing too much. If you can, get a general physical description as this is important not only to determine if she is your "type", but also to make her easier to spot when you meet.

When meeting new women for the first time, it's a good idea to use separate vehicles and to meet in a fairly crowded public place, particularly a coffee shop, a restaurant or a mall you usually shop at so you'll be able to exit quickly and easily if you need to. Keep it simple for the first date and plan to meet for a drink or a cup of coffee. Then, if you are both comfortable, you might want to stick around for a meal. On the other hand, if the chemistry is not there, you can end the date after a quick drink and avoid the pressure of a long, awkward evening.

Because a blind date deals with someone who does not know you, it’s important to give her a true sense of yourself. You also want to ensure that you make a good first impression and that you spend time getting to know her. It is important to arrive on time, be polite and show up for the date looking as though you have put a great deal of effort into your appearance.

Ask her open-ended questions to stimulate conversation and to see if there is a mutual interest between the two of you. Ask each other questions about likes and dislikes. Be a good listener to what she has to say and be friendly. Ask her about her interests, her job, where she's traveled, whatever it takes to keep the conversation flowing and don't get on the offensive or defensive side if you hear something you don't like. Yes or no questions will only create uncomfortable silences and leave you frustrated.

By the end of the date, if everything goes well and both of you find a mutual interest, tell her you had a great time and if you'd like to see her again, let her know. If you're clearly not right for each other, be upfront about it, thank her for coming, say goodbye and leave. Don't tell her you'll call her when you know you're not.

Remember, blind dates are touchy and need to be handled carefully. Be open-minded about your blind date and do not expect perfection. If you go into a blind date with the attitude that things won’t work out, you will most likely unconsciously put a damper on the date. Making an honest effort to have a good time can lead to a successful blind date and possibly a second one.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Top 10: Reasons Why She's Single

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It is not uncommon to look around and find strong, independent women who have chosen to stay single. However, there are many beautiful and successful women who stay single not by their own choice, but because of the behaviors they display that drive good men away. There are many factors that have lead to why these women are single, but the most significant ones are listed below.

1. She's seeking "Prince Charming"
The most probable reason why highly eligible women are still single is that they created a set of unrealistic and unattainable characteristics that their partners should have. These women often limit their dating prospects, set themselves up for disappointment and pass up a lot of great guys in their search for the perfect man to be their knight in shining armor.

2. She's a drama queen

This type of woman is constantly on some sort of emotional roller coaster and the good men they do attract are left exhausted with their never ending whirlwind of emergencies and problems.

3. She's commitment phobic
She will seemingly form what looks like a lasting commitment to one man, but the commitment is usually only superficial. This type of woman will enter each relationship with a how long will this one last? frame of mind.

4. She's a control freak

It’s her way, or the highway. These women are never wrong, and when in a relationship, everything is always the man's fault.

5. She's desperate

This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog--all on the first date.

6. She's a workaholic

She may be attractive and successful, and yet completely undateable because her life is all about work. If she is too busy to have any kind of social life outside of work, she's already married — to her job.

7. She's emotionally unstable

These women carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and take actions with no thought about consequences.

8. She has too many insecurities

A woman whose life experiences have been a series of watching people damage each other rather than love each other tends to create a wall of defense with her emotions. Women like this begin to believe that no matter who they deal with in life, no man can be trusted.

9. She doesn't take care of herself

Women with poor hygiene, unflattering clothes, unkempt hair, being over or under weight, having unsightly body hair, bad teeth, and too much or too little make-up have very slim chances of keeping a man.

10. She's too easy

These women have failed to realize the important role their sexuality plays in finding a long-term mate. The reality is that most men who are looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand do place great value on a woman's sexual restraint.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

5 Ways To Get Rejected By Women

So you worked up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start a conversation. But as soon as you opened your mouth, she found a reason to get away from you. There might be a specific reason why she rejected you. The simple point is that most guys cause rejection by what they’re doing. Here are five ways that men kill attraction and get rejected by women.

1. Having bad breath

Although the right words may be coming out of your mouth, bad breath may be what's turning the ladies off. Bad breath is one of the biggest turnoffs you can display to the opposite sex. If you have foul breath no matter how rich you are or drive a fancy sports car, women will avoid you at all times.

2. Being overly aggressive
Women don't like it when a man they have just met insists on touching her too often. There is no need to touch a woman if you just met her. Women mostly prefer cool, calm, gentle and well-mannered men. When you are too aggressive with a woman, you creep her out, get pushed away and you get rejected.

3. Using the wrong approach
Most men approach women in the wrong fashion. Most women are really tired of hearing played out, cheesy pick-up lines. Also, being an arrogant man who is always talking about himself and knows it all is sure to make the ladies run far, far away. Women like confident and not cocky.

4. Being needy or clingy
Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement from women. If you come across as the kind of guy that is going to have to be with her 24/7 and you do not have a life or interests of your own, you are probably going to face rejection from a woman.

5. Using the wrong body language

Your body language has a huge effect on attraction, and if you start talking to a woman and your posture is slumped and your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, you're probably not going to get a favorable response. Keep in mind that a man’s appearance actually means a lot to a woman when she first meets him. If you are dressed sloppy or you have your pants pulled up to your chest with your shirt tucked into them, a woman may not want to be seen with you.