Friday, April 30, 2010

When She's Never Wrong

So you and your girlfriend have been dating for about two years. For the most part, you enjoy her and have a good time, but whenever you have an argument like all couples do, she always seems to have the upper hand. Although you will usually admit when you are wrong, in her mind she’s never wrong and she will never admit it if she is. So how can you get your woman to admit her faults and treat you as an equal?

The reality is that she is probably set in her ways and is not likely to change her way of thinking. A "Drama queen" like this has self-esteem problems and her ego simply cannot deal with the admission of being wrong. Her behavior may come from her deep-rooted insecurities, her upbringing, etc..

For women like this, to admit a defect is an impossibility in their view and they will do whatever is necessary, including insulting and even hurting people around them, to keep from seeing their own flaws or limitations. It is very sad for them and for the people around them. Women like this have psychological problems and unless they're in complete control, they will never be happy.

If you love her and really want the relationship to continue, you can attempt to sit her down and talk to her about the fact that your disagreements and fights shouldn't be about winning or not backing down, but about coming to a peaceful resolution. After talking with her about the problem, if it's apparent that she's not going to give in, you need to realize that she will never change and ask yourself the tough question: Do I actually want to marry a woman who will never admit that she’s wrong?

No matter how appealing her other qualities are, move on. You should be able to live a life filled with love, harmony and great communication with a high-quality woman who will respect and treat you as an equal.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Approaching Attractive Women

Attractive women are approached in one way or another all day long, and you can almost guarantee that even a moderately attractive woman has heard plenty of lines from different men. While some guys just don't have the confidence to approach attractive women, others are just intimidated by their beauty and literally become immobilized when they see one they'd like to meet.

Most of the anxiety involved in approaching attractive women comes from the fear of the unknown and the fear of embarrassment or rejection. In order to approach and be successful with attractive women, you need to have total confidence in yourself and teach your mind and body not to be afraid of them. By acting as if you have no confidence in yourself, you eliminate yourself from a woman's list of potential dates.

Make it a point to approach an attractive woman as if you didn't go out of your way--because if it looks like you made an effort to speak to her, you'll seem desperate and turn her off before you even get started talking.

Relax, introduce yourself, ask her name and try to give the impression that you are interested in her and could see the two of you hitting it off, while keeping in mind not to treat her as if she's some queen that you should praise and lower yourself to. Always speak intelligently, be direct and show her that you're an honest guy that has the courage to come and talk to her without any desperate openers.

Engage in a conversation with her by talking to her as if she is an average woman. Don't introduce yourself by mentioning her looks or by eying her up and down. If she shows interest and talks to you, listen to her in order to determine if she is suited for you. Ask her questions about herself and listen to what she tells you and respond to her with further conversation based on the information she provided. Then you can lead the conversation to getting her number, etc.

If she says no or seems uninterested, do not pursue it any further. Walk away and don't take it personally. If she isn't interested and you're turned down, realize that it's a part of life and that not every kind of person mixes well together.

Overcoming rejection may be hard to do, but realize that you may have to go through a lot to find a good woman who is accepting of you. Who knows--the next attractive woman that you see may actually want to get to know you and could be waiting on you to approach her, but you will never know if you don't overcome your fear and make the first move.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

5 Signs She's Not Ready To Commit

Most women want to be with a man who is ready for commitment; however, there are some women among out there who are dating guys and have no intention of committing. While these nice guys take them out, treat them well and show nothing but devotion and kindness, they get treated like a revolving door and are subjected to nothing but mind games, inconsistency and drama in return. Women are best judged by their actions, so here are some of the top signs that the woman you're dating is not ready to commit to you.

1. She spends more time with her girlfriends than you
If you find that the woman you are dating seems to enjoy hanging out with her girlfriends way more than she enjoys hanging out with you and you can’t get her to come out for some one-on-one time, there’s obviously something wrong.

She doesn't return your phone calls
Don’t assume that she lost your number. If she won't return your calls, it is a very clear sign that she has a low interest in you. Maybe her story about a busy schedule is true, but a woman is going to find a way to return a call with a guy she’s serious about. If she can't return a simple phone call, it should be clear that you are not a priority.

She won't share her feelings
Women love to talk about their feelings; but, when asked how she feels about you and the relationship, if she can't quite seem to answer the question, there is a big problem. If she gives off mixed signals and never gives you the opportunity to get close, she’s probably happy with the distance between you. These vague and non-committal women usually tell you things like "I think you’re okay" and "Why don’t we just see how things go." Statements like these mean that she’s handing you what’s called false hope. It’s a complete waste of time and energy and women like this will not be with you for the long haul.

She constantly talks about her past relationships
She talks so often about how all of the multiple men she has dated have mistreated her, you may start to wonder whether she is racking up a list of your offenses so she can tell her next boyfriend about them. If you are dating a woman who cannot seem to realize that she has met a brand new guy who deserves a chance, she is not even remotely ready to be in a serious relationship with you.

She is only interested in what you can do for her
If she sees you as a meal ticket or, even worse, as a rent check, a down payment for a car, here’s the truth: your girlfriend is a gold-digger. She is very interested in what you have; however, she is not interested in you.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the 5 Signs You're a Commitment-Phobe.

Saturday, April 24, 2010

5 First Date Conversation Starters

The conversation on a first date can be difficult to start, and
when meeting a woman for the first time, there is nothing worse than that awkward silence after the initial greeting. The object of a first date is to get a sense of the person to determine whether or not you have enough in common to continue dating. Even if you’re quiet and shy, talking with your date can be much easier with these 5 first date conversation starters.
Talking about careers and goals
A person’s career can say a lot about their personality, and discovering what your date does for a living is a great way to learn about her and help you understand her better
. Also, when you’re making small talk, remember to let your date questions, give her enough time to answer yours and follow up on what she is saying. Your date wants to get to know you as much as you want to get to know her, and if you only talk about your interests all night, you may appear boring and self-centered.

2. Discuss current events

Making small talk about the news, sports or your community
can help you understand her knowledge and interests in a variety of topics; however, do exercise caution and keep the conversation positive. Never bring up negative things like death and try to avoid highly controversial issues like politics and religion until you get to know your date better unless you know that your faith is something the two of you share in common.

3. Recall your past conversations

If you find yourself at a loss for words, talking about what you discussed on the phone, email or text prior to the date can actually carry you into a second and third date
. Talking about what she likes to do--and being genuinely interested--is bound to get her to open up and allow both of you relax.

4. Ask open-ended questions that require an explanation

Asking questions is a great way to learn more about another person
and what their aim is in life. Generic questions like “How are you?” are not. First date questions like "What do you do in your free time?" or "If you could live anywhere, where would it be?" are very good and can allow the two of you to find a common bond.

5. Ask about her family

If there is one subject that invokes a passionate response from people it is their families. Ask your date about their friends and if they have any siblings, etc... You don't need to know her entire family history, but by asking general questions about them, you're bound to learn about her and find other details that have influenced her behaviors and habits.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

How To Keep Her Interested On The Phone

If you want to talk your way into a woman's heart, you'll need to do some of that talking over the phone.

Learning to skillfully handle phone conversations with women can make the difference between hearing things like "I just want to be friends" and developing a fantastic relationship.

Whether your trying to ask a woman out for the first time, you're already in the dating phase of a relationship or just simply thanking her for a good time after a date, it's important to know how to open and keep a good phone conversation and create some interest.

One of the most important things you can do is mentally prepare to talk to women on the phone and make sure that you have something significant to say. Crappy phone skills can ruin a woman's impression of you, so in order to work the phone well, you must have confidence in your verbal abilities.

If you've just acquired a woman's number, wait at least a couple of days before calling as calling too soon will make her think you have no real life of your own and that your just desperate. However, if you wait too long, she may get upset with you, or worse, forget who you are. Try calling her when you're in a great mood, relaxed and most like your true self and as far as the time of day, call her later in the evening for best results.

When she picks up and the two of you begin talking on the phone, be assertive and bold. Don't stumble over your words or use the same old boring lines like "what'cha been up to?" Instead, engage in a successful and interesting phone conversation by asking her open-ended questions. They are essential for making the conversation flow and shows that you are interested in her.

Listen to her answers and ask follow-up questions. Getting her to talk about her interests and hobbies moves the conversation in the right direction. Keep her on her toes--play with her, tease her and always display your male confidence. Humor is always good, but don't overdo it or you’ll come across as a clown and she won't take you seriously.

Nothing is too personal for women to talk about over the phone, and women can spend hours discussing their deepest and most intimate secrets, so to avoid this you need to stay in control of the conversation and steer it away from any deep, emotional drop-offs. Don’t take the bait and get roped into an hour-long conversation where you’re telling each other your life stories.

You’re a busy guy and the purpose of the phone call should be to lock down the next time you’re going to see her in person. If your phone time starts to consist of discussing her darkest fears, childhood traumas, and other emotional baggage, there's a danger of you drifting into the dreaded FRIENDZONE!

All conversations must come to an end, so when the conversation starts to wind down and you both run out of things to say -- it's time to sign off. The whole conversation should last no more than about 15-20 minutes. Try to be the one who ends the conversation and get off the phone.

Using sincere statements that let her know that you enjoyed the conversation will leave her thinking "What a nice guy. He's actually interested in me." End on a high point, be somewhat humorous, always leave her with a positive impression about you and never get into the ”You hang up,” “No, you hang up" game.

Remember the purpose of the call is to get her excited to meet you and being a challenge to women is a good thing. By always leave her wanting more, you will ensure that the two of you will still have plenty to talk about when you're face-to-face again.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Being Stood Up

Being stood up

So you met this girl and the two of you really hit it off well and she agreed to meet you on Saturday night; however, when Saturday night comes,
you're left standing at the bar for a while desperately hoping that she'll show up. The bartender has refilled your glass several times over and other patrons have been looking at you with sympathy. As much as you don’t want to admit it--the truth is you are being stood up.

Being stood up can be devastating, especially after all of the time it takes to get ready and the time spent anticipating the first date; however, in a situation like this, try to understand what happened and give her the benefit of the doubt before jumping too conclusions.

Check the time and place of the date to make sure you didn't make a mistake. Maybe your date forgot about your plans. She may have made an honest mistake, or she may have had an emergency. After about thirty minutes, give her a call and leave a voice mail message or a text if you have to.
If she had an emergency or work issues, think about rescheduling the date if she contacts you before the end of the night, is apologetic and has a good excuse.

If your date doesn’t respond to your initial phone call or text, forget about her. There is no sense stalking her or being too needy and seeming desperate just to find out why you were stood up. Act with dignity and keep your self-respect intact. If you find that your date indeed stood you up on purpose, there is no point in sitting around in your nice clothes for nothing. Remember to have a good time and make the most of the situation by spending some time by yoursel
f or even having fun with a good friend.

When meeting new women, take being stood up as a sign that things wouldn't have worked out anyway. A woman with a high interest level wouldn't forget a date with a man she's truly interested in. A woman who truly possesses class and consideration would have either kept her commitment to meet with you, or at least let you know she wasn't interested upfront. A person never gets a second chance to make a first impression, especially after standing you up on the very first date.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

5 Things You Shouldn't Reveal on the First Date

Everyone has a past and e
ventually, a new girl is going to start asking questions about your history. Although trust and honesty is important for any relationship, the first date is not show and tell time. Some of your past is straightforward and can be discussed right there and then; however, you'll have to be selective about which details to reveal and which should stay in the closet because anything you say can and will be used against you -- at a future date! Here are some things you shouldn't disclose on the first date.

1. The number of women you've been with

The one question most women will push is how many other women you've slept with. It's also one question you should avoid answering . If you’ve slept with too few, she'll think you're inexperienced; however, if you’ve slept with too many, she’ll assume you're just a player just looking to add some notches to your bedpost. You can give her a rough estimate, but she doesn’t need to know about one-night stands or booty calls. Similarly, don't express any interest in her number.

2. Your past relationships

Many women ask questions about a man’s past relationships to try and figure out what kind of future boyfriend he'll be. Talking about your ex with your dates is never a good move. You don’t need to go into details about each and every past relationship you’ve ever had. She also doesn’t need to know exact names, dates or all the gross details about you and your ex's sex life.

3. Your emotional problems

At some point in the past, you may have cracked and suffered from a breakdown, depression or some sort of anxiety; however, there are many misconceptions about mental and emotional conditions and you don't need to reveal this information on the first date unless you want her to assume that you're crazy and run. On the other hand, if the two of you hit it off, tell her before it gets too serious, that way it is not such a big deal if she can't handle it.

4. Your friends' shortcomings

Do you think that your date will be OK with you going out to the bar for drinks with your pal who is cheating on his wife? Don’t let her examine the skeletons in your friends’ closets. It will just cause her to not like them, not trust them, and will make hanging out with them an impossible task if you form a relationship with her.

5. How you spend your money

If you end up getting married you'll probably share a bank account together; however, until that time comes, your finances are separate. It's fine if she knows your approximate salary and a few of your monthly bills but she doesn’t need to know where your extra funds go every month.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

5 Signs Your Being Needy

Women love dating men who are confident and real. They want to feel like you need them... but only if you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals. The moment a man becomes too clingy in a relationship, a woman will run for the hills. Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement.

Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. Below are 5 signs that you are being needy, so if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to stop those actions immediately.

1. You call, email, and text too much

You start calling and texting a woman you just began dating several times a day. You are over-texting her. You don’t need to be checking in every two hours. If you want to run a woman off quickly, this is one of the best ways to do it.

2. You are overly-emotional
You share all of your feelings with women right away, you always doubt yourself and you need constant reassurance about your relationship, work and friendships. Most women look for a strong partner they can lean on. So if you are always leaning on her, she might doubt your ability to do this. Remember, women want a man who is confident and independent--not insecure and dependent.

3. You are always available

You are too available. Women don’t want men who are always available because it makes them think that you don't have a life of your own, making you far less desirable. Being a challenge to women makes you more desirable. When you meet a woman you like, show interest in her, but ensure that you keep your regular schedule and don't be available every single day.

4. You do whatever she wants

You let a woman walk all over you and then continue to be a doormat and allow it over and over, giving up things you really value in an effort to align your life with her wishes. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. They are looking for confident men someone who can stimulate their minds and not bore them.

5. You need constant reassurance
You constantly need to hear how great you are and you constantly need a woman to stroke your ego. This is a sign that you have low-self esteem and a poor self-image of himself. This behavior can become tiresome to most women because they don't want to deal with a guy that needs constant assurance.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs Of A Needy Woman.

Monday, April 5, 2010

5 Ways to Lose Your Girlfriend

Most guys get dumped because over time they develop bad relationship habits and find themselves stuck in a cycle of bad decisions that simply drives women away. If you're currently in a relationship and fall into terrible mistakes as the 5 presented below, you may just be watching your girlfriend walk away very soon.

1. Not paying her enough attention

There is nothing that a woman hates more than lack of attention from her man. If you are not paying her enough attention or never show jealousy, she will get upset. Trust me, if you don’t give your woman the attention that she wants, she is going to find it from another man.

2. Showing no motivation

Women want men who have motivation to succeed in life and who have dreams of doing something rather than just being content where they now. A woman who truly loves you shouldn't hold your job against you; however, if you are happy with your fast food job and you don’t have any dreams of moving up on the job ladder, you may just have to say goodbye to your woman.

3. Being a habitual liar

If you keep lying to a woman, you will surely lose her. All women appreciate a man who presents himself as honest and trustworthy. Displaying behaviors like exiting the room when you get a phone call, not returning her calls, not answering random phone calls, emails and text messages in front of her and giving no legitimate reason any about any of these behaviors is a sure way to make a woman leave you.

4. Being preoccupied with sex

Women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them, and they definitely aren't impressed by how many other women you've slept with, or how much your last girlfriend liked your techniques.

5. Not taking care of yourself

If you stop taking care of yourself and being the man that attracted her to you in the first place, her romantic respect and attraction to you will drop over time. Being a challenge to a woman in a relationship will keep the attraction high and she won’t leave you.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

When She Needs a Break

It's difficult when the woman you love tells you that she isn't sure she wants to continue her relationship with you. Many women say they need to take a break because they just want to break up. She may have been thinking about things for a while now, but hasn't figured out a way to approach you to resolve them. On the other hand, she may not be entirely sure of what she wants to do.

If your girlfriend has asked that the two of you take a break from your relationship, it probably came from out of nowhere. Sometimes when a woman asks for a break it's because she wants to date other guys or she may have already been seeing another man and has been cheating on you behind your back.

There's also the possibility that she's bored, feels neglected or is just unhappy with the way you've been treating her. Getting to the point where she actually tells you what's wrong isn't always easy, which is why you need to be very careful with how you handle the situation when your girlfriend wants a break.

The fact that your girlfriend wants a break and not a complete breakup right off the bat means that she still values your relationship to some degree. Begging, pleading, or invading her space trying to talk her out of her decision is absolutely the wrong thing to do and will drive her away even faster. You can get her back by showing her that you respect what she wants. The key to getting her back is to stay strong. If you love her, give her exactly what she wants and show her that you respect what she wants, no matter how hard it may be for you.

Let her have the time and space she needs and don't give her a reason to completely cut ties with you. As hard as it may be, avoid calling, emailing and texting her completely. By you not initiating any contact for a while, your girlfriend will start to miss you and she'll be the one calling you. Even if your girlfriend has given you the thumbs up to see other people, don’t sleep with any other women until you are sure the relationship is completely over. Making the wrong moves while your relationship is already in jeopardy could cost you any chance of reconciliation.

When she is ready to contact you, let her know that you're willing to listen to her and allow her to open up and reveal to you exactly why she wanted the separation in the first place. If she repeatedly gives you random, unimportant complaints or no answer at all, realize that these are all signs she wants to break up with you altogether and leave the situation with your dignity intact. However, if she gives you an honest, direct answer about the relationship, perhaps you can fix it and save the relationship. Try to agree to make a pact to work through any problems rather than take a break.

By making a genuine effort to fix the problems that drove her away, you can not only stop the break up from happening--you can actually strengthen the future of your relationship together.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

The Right Way to Apologize to Her

How to apologize to a woman

So you've screwed up pretty bad, and whether you think you're right or wrong, you know that you have to apologize to your girlfriend so you can get your relationship back on track. So how do you apologize to your girlfriend the right way? Here's some tips on how to apologize in a way that will bring a peaceful and lasting resolution:

1. Accept responsibility for your actions

Apologizing doesn't just mean saying you're sorry and forgetting it ever happened, so make sure you know what you did wrong, be willing to accept responsibility and remember that saying sorry means acting sorry. There’s no way a woman will believe you’re sorry if you still act like the situation is her fault--even when it’s clearly yours, so say you're sorry with as much sincerity as possible. And keep in mind that it's always better to apologize in person as apologies over the phone, e-mail or text aren't nearly as effective.

2. Reach out to her

In the heat of an argument, you're liable to say things you don't necessarily mean. So after the her that it was just a disagreement and that you're there to listen to her. Even if she criticizes you, try and show understanding, as you would want her to express the same thing while you're speaking. Express to her that although certain things about her bother or irritate you, you still love her and ensure her that your feelings for her could never change just because of a simple disagreement.

3. Make plans for the evening

Most women will be more likely to forgive you if at least some nice flowers are in front of them to soften the mood when you confess your transgression. Once everything has settled down, take the time to plan a quick activity to get your minds off the argument and to reassure your partner that you still care about her and that it's okay to move on.

Top 10: Unhealthy Relationship Signs

Many people have been in a relationship that was unhealthy at some point in their life. Being trapped in cycles of pleasure, pain, blaming, and reconnection is not healthy in any way; but, when it's all said and done, only you can decide if your relationship is healthy and whether or not you are happy in it. Here are 10 of the most common signs of an unhealthy relationship.

1. When it's time to spend quality time with your family, she suddenly becomes sick, stuck in traffic or experiences something major at work. She resents your family for taking up your time and may even forbid you from associating with them at all.

2. She wants you to be responsible for her happiness, childhood, moods or feelings.

3. She insists on talking about problems for hours (and even days) and just won't let things go.

4. She's overly critical of how you act. She can do no wrong, therefore everything is your fault. Thinking differently is normally discouraged and pressure to agree with her occurs regularly.

5. You feel as if you have to walk on eggshells around her. You can't speak your opinion because she always freaks out when you disagree. In these relationships, you probably will not get to have any input at all or you may be treated badly if you do attempt to contribute to any decisions.

6. You must let her know where you are at all times and justify where you've been and who you've been with. You have to call her and "check in" multiple times a day.

7. She restricts you from hanging out with your friends and you aren't allowed to have platonic female friends.

8. You've discovered that she secretly checks your email, internet history and your cell phone. When you confront her about these behaviors, she attempts to make you feel responsible for her suspicions.

9. When you try to break up, she threatens to harm herself. This type of woman may actually be in more need of a parent then a partner.

10. Communication with her is absent and could lead to continuing verbal abuse and even ridiculing. She loves to highlight your mistakes and simply ignores your success. She is never happy for you and deep down, you feel like you’ve lost yourself.

Friday, April 2, 2010

5 Signs She Has Emotional Baggage

Most men have run into women who've been hurt by men in the past and carry psychological damage and unresolved anger into their new relationships. Sometimes these women are still reeling from a bad break-up, a negative experience with a man and even physical abuse. Here are some signs that you're dealing with women with emotional baggage.

1. She avoids you for no reason
With women like this, it's always one step forward and 20 steps back. She will show interest in you and then suddenly become unavailable. You won't hear from her again for weeks, then out of nowhere, she'll reappear with a big smile on her face, ready to take up where you both left off like nothing ever happened.

2. The nicer you are, the faster she'll run

She reacts emotionally to the hurt in her past. She has all the normal urges to be with a good man, and truly wants to have a successful relationship, but as soon as her emotions are aroused, she gets scared of your niceness and runs away --usually right back into the arms of yet another emotionally-unavailable man who will only cause her more pain and heartache.

3. She says one thing and does another

A woman with emotional baggage will tell you that she loves you and that she has so much respect for you. Then she'll start treating you like crap, starting fights with you and screaming at you for no apparent reason. She'll tell you she's wants a commitment and wants the two of you to be together forever, then she'll cheat on you out of nowhere. If she gives off mixed signals like these, you can't take a woman like this
at her at her word; You can only judge her on her actions.

4. She's a man hater
May women with emotional baggage are extremely angry at men and blame guys for all of their problems. They unfairly label all men as "cheaters", "abusers" and "dogs." Although many of these types of men do exist, women with emotional baggage won't admit that the real reason that they feel this way is because of the poor choices in men they have made in the past.

5. She has a history of being abused
Women who are victims of any kind of abuse are often emotionally unstable and withhold lots of inner pain, which shows itself in their romantic lives. Women who display emotional baggage in relationships are very erratic and are often on an emotional roller coaster. One day they'll enjoy lovemaking and the next day, they're not sexual at all. They may even freak out during lovemaking due to certain situations reminding them of bad memories.

8 Signs You're Moving Too Fast

Although finding love is based on each individual relationship and some people move quicker than others, some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love. Here are some ways of determining if you're moving too fast in a relationship.

1. You call her before you give her a chance to return the FIRST call.

2. You're thinking about what your children will look like.

3. You stop dating other women and you're not interested in meeting anyone else although you've only been dating this woman for one month.

4. Your family and friends tell you their concern about how fast the relationship is going and how your life is changing.

5. When you show her all the signs that you're too needy and the woman you're dating tells you that she needs more down time for herself.

6. You forget about your friends. If you haven't spoken to, text, or even called any of your close friends, you might be falling too hard, too fast.

7. You to want to spend just about every waking moment with your new love to the point you totally neglect your own life and interests.

8. You've spent every single day with her for weeks, yet you don't know basic information about her that normally should have been covered in the first few dates.