Saturday, April 24, 2010
5 First Date Conversation Starters
The conversation on a first date can be difficult to start, and when meeting a woman for the first time, there is nothing worse than that awkward silence after the initial greeting. The object of a first date is to get a sense of the person to determine whether or not you have enough in common to continue dating. Even if you’re quiet and shy, talking with your date can be much easier with these 5 first date conversation starters.
1.Talking about careers and goals
A person’s career can say a lot about their personality, and discovering what your date does for a living is a great way to learn about her and help you understand her better. Also, when you’re making small talk, remember to let your date questions, give her enough time to answer yours and follow up on what she is saying. Your date wants to get to know you as much as you want to get to know her, and if you only talk about your interests all night, you may appear boring and self-centered.
2. Discuss current events
Making small talk about the news, sports or your community can help you understand her knowledge and interests in a variety of topics; however, do exercise caution and keep the conversation positive. Never bring up negative things like death and try to avoid highly controversial issues like politics and religion until you get to know your date better unless you know that your faith is something the two of you share in common.
3. Recall your past conversations
If you find yourself at a loss for words, talking about what you discussed on the phone, email or text prior to the date can actually carry you into a second and third date. Talking about what she likes to do--and being genuinely interested--is bound to get her to open up and allow both of you relax.
4. Ask open-ended questions that require an explanation
Asking questions is a great way to learn more about another person and what their aim is in life. Generic questions like “How are you?” are not. First date questions like "What do you do in your free time?" or "If you could live anywhere, where would it be?" are very good and can allow the two of you to find a common bond.
5. Ask about her family
If there is one subject that invokes a passionate response from people it is their families. Ask your date about their friends and if they have any siblings, etc... You don't need to know her entire family history, but by asking general questions about them, you're bound to learn about her and find other details that have influenced her behaviors and habits.