Tuesday, April 13, 2010
5 Things You Shouldn't Reveal on the First Date
Everyone has a past and eventually, a new girl is going to start asking questions about your history. Although trust and honesty is important for any relationship, the first date is not show and tell time. Some of your past is straightforward and can be discussed right there and then; however, you'll have to be selective about which details to reveal and which should stay in the closet because anything you say can and will be used against you -- at a future date! Here are some things you shouldn't disclose on the first date.
1. The number of women you've been with
The one question most women will push is how many other women you've slept with. It's also one question you should avoid answering . If you’ve slept with too few, she'll think you're inexperienced; however, if you’ve slept with too many, she’ll assume you're just a player just looking to add some notches to your bedpost. You can give her a rough estimate, but she doesn’t need to know about one-night stands or booty calls. Similarly, don't express any interest in her number.
2. Your past relationships
Many women ask questions about a man’s past relationships to try and figure out what kind of future boyfriend he'll be. Talking about your ex with your dates is never a good move. You don’t need to go into details about each and every past relationship you’ve ever had. She also doesn’t need to know exact names, dates or all the gross details about you and your ex's sex life.
3. Your emotional problems
At some point in the past, you may have cracked and suffered from a breakdown, depression or some sort of anxiety; however, there are many misconceptions about mental and emotional conditions and you don't need to reveal this information on the first date unless you want her to assume that you're crazy and run. On the other hand, if the two of you hit it off, tell her before it gets too serious, that way it is not such a big deal if she can't handle it.
4. Your friends' shortcomings
Do you think that your date will be OK with you going out to the bar for drinks with your pal who is cheating on his wife? Don’t let her examine the skeletons in your friends’ closets. It will just cause her to not like them, not trust them, and will make hanging out with them an impossible task if you form a relationship with her.
5. How you spend your money
If you end up getting married you'll probably share a bank account together; however, until that time comes, your finances are separate. It's fine if she knows your approximate salary and a few of your monthly bills but she doesn’t need to know where your extra funds go every month.