Monday, January 18, 2010
Men Who Stare at Cleavage
We've all been caught staring at women. It's natural and understandable to look at an attractive woman and notice her beauty; however, if you just stare at her chest and talk to her like she is an object instead of a person, don't expect to get very many dates.
Women have been complaining that men talk to their boobs instead of looking at their face for ages. Not only are breasts often the first thing men look at, they also glance at them longer than any other body part simply because they are aesthetically pleasing, regardless of the size. While you may like to think you’re slick when you try to grab a quick glance, you will always get caught.
Women can always tell when a guy "glances" at their chest, and while some may be flattered, it makes the majority of them feel uncomfortable. Some will make their disgust quite obvious, while others just ignore it because they’ve become immune to it.
Many will argue that women who wear push-up bras and low-cut blouses have no right to complain about men staring at their chests. Although some women like to wear as little clothing as possible and bring this problem on themselves by dressing provocatively, they still have the right to wear anything they want without having feeling harassed or degraded by men. Most women will admit that a man who has tendencies to seek immediate gratification at her expense is not a good choice in a mate and is generally just labeled as a pervert. They also feel that such men are obviously more concerned with their own pleasure than the comfort and happiness of the women they are intrigued with.
Guys who can't seem to stop themselves from publicly lusting over a woman's body not only make a bad first impression, but are also very unlikely to be able to stop themselves from doing "other things" at inappropriate times. So are you supposed to turn away and fight the natural instinct to look the next time you see a woman with great cleavage? The best advice would be to admire her from afar. When you're up close and personal, staring directly into a woman's eyes as you're talking to her will get you a lot farther than just staring at her chest in a rude, obvious and perverted fashion. Remember, subtlety is key.
While there is nothing wrong with "checking out" a woman's body, keep in mind that just because she's wearing something sexy doesn't mean that she wants you. A guy who can control his urges enough to check out a woman without offending her is also likely to have the patience and finesse to please that same woman in the bedroom.