Saturday, January 23, 2010
5 Signs Your Woman Is Abusive
There is a vast "silent" majority of men who suffer in silence in the face of emotional abusand are subjected to routine attacks on their confidence, self-esteem, pride, and identity. These same men feel shame, fear, and choose to ignore the abuse and live with it.
Have you ever wondered why it is so difficult for men who are being controlled by women with abusive personalities to break free of them and end the relationship? Here are some of the most common hooks that these emotionally abusive women use to keep their men seemingly at their mercy.
1. She threatens you with abandonment
Threatening to leave you for another man is the most common threat this type of woman will make. This statement often goes along with her constantly telling you that you're not good enough, criticizing every thing you do and demeaning you privately and publicly. Even if you were to do everything perfectly, these women are never satisfied and in their eyes, nothing you do will ever be good enough.
2. She threatens to keep your children from you if you leave her
How many times have you heard the line "If you don't do what I say, you'll never see your kids again?" Many of these women trap men into pregnancy for the sole reason of keeping you around and in their minds, "Keeping you attached. "
Although it would be tough not seeing your kids for awhile if you ended the relationship, realize that in this day and time, there are quite a few men who win full custody of their children, especially when the mother is proven dysfunctional and you're deemed the stronger and healthy parent.
3. She threatens to destroy your career
Threats to damage your reputation are often made in retaliation for the man standing up for himself or not doing things "her way." These threats are often in the form of statements like "If you don't do it, I'll call your boss and tell him you beat me."
4. She threatens to take all of your money
Statements like "You owe me" are often made along with threats of "taking you for everything you've got" if she senses that you've had enough and are ready to leave her.
5. She tells you that no other woman will put up with you
This statement is often made to instill the fear in you that no other woman will ever want you or find you attractive, which is just not true.
Believe it or not, you have the power to release yourself from these distorted, self-limiting beliefs that have been sown by this type of psychotic woman if you will begin challenging your fears with your intellect and not the same emotions that have kept you with her for far too long.
And as you begin to step out of this dysfunctional emotional way of life, she’ll increase her borderline, histrionic and manic behaviors as she frantically tries to maintain control and bully you back into place--and she’ll be dumb founded when her tried and true control methods no longer work!