Saturday, October 10, 2009
Dealing With Controlling Women
While men are often guilty of being controlling in a relationship, their are a great deal of men who feel controlled by their overpowering women. Controlling Women believe that men and relationships should run no way but their way and will even convince their men that it's for their own good. Many men find themselves at the complete mercy of their women -- and do nothing about it!
So, how do you know if you have a controlling woman? Some of the traits of a controlling woman are controlling conversations, attempting to prove you wrong and constantly attempting to rewrite past events to make their point. These dictators break down a man's confidence in himself little by little until the man begins to believe he is nothing without her. They must be right at all times and use a great deal of coercion and intimidation to force you into agreeing with them, i.e. threatening to leave you if you don't do as she says.
With these drama queens, you will constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words. Controlling women will take full control of how you furnish and decorate your home. She will demand that you drop your hobbies and participate in her activities. They will make you wait, but will not wait for you.
A controlling woman will tell you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. These bossy women are manipulative and intimidating. They are often so good at this that they can make the man feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset. Controlling women believe that they know what's best for their men and will begin selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat.
These women are never wrong, and everything is always the man's fault. These women control men by shaming them for their thoughts, actions, every time you voice an opinion and will never try to understand your views. They will tell you that you're spending too much money and will eventually become in complete control of your pay check. These women will encourage you to not work as much and will even go as far as to encourage you to quit your job so you can spend more time with them.
Controlling women are in a much larger power struggle within themselves than they are with the men they boss around. Often, men will allow these controlling behaviors to "keep the peace" in their relationships. But, you must remember--love does not mean that you have to give up your opinions, values and friends for her. Love also doesn't mean that you have to let manipulative women make every decision in your life.
Do you have a hard time remembering the last time you had an opinion? Do you recall your last decision? If you're in this situation, it may be time to for you to reconsider your relationship and regain control of your life unless you like having your life ran for you and your opinions made by someone else.