Friday, October 9, 2009
Dating Women With Emotional Baggage
Women with emotional baggage are those who have been repeatedly hurt and stomped on by men. No matter what the cause, the romantic lives of the these women are dictated by their damaged psychology. They live in worlds of chaotic emotion where logic has no place and they carry that psychological damage and unresolved anger into new relationships.
These women are angry at men in general and their entire mental stability rests on the guy being totally normal, which we aren’t. Sometimes they are still feeling the effects of a nasty break-up, a recent negative experience with a man or sometimes the aftermath of being physically abused.
Some of the signs of emotional baggage include women getting paranoid about every aspect of a new relationship, i.e. every night you don’t call or you saying something a little off beat is received as threatening to her sanity. Everything must be in perfect line to not upset her delicate emotional balance. If another woman calls you on the phone, even if it’s your boss or a relative, she loses it, and goes into the grand questioning.
With women like this, it's always one step forward and 20 steps back. One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. She'll tell you she loves you and wants to do everything in her power to make sure the relationship lasts.
She will show interest and then suddenly and inexplicably become unavailable and you won't see her again for weeks or even months. When you do see her again, she'll start treating you like crap for no apparent reason. They are used to being around emotionally and physically abusive men--this is why many of these women who date jerks seek out emotionally unavailable men and avoid quality men. The nicer you are, the faster she'll run.
If you decide that she's worth the time and trouble, give her some space and emotional breathing room. These are women in dire need of professional therapy, so remember to be patient, be a good listener and learn to reach her at an emotional level and be the good man that she needs so she will learn to trust men again.