Letting Go of a Bad Relationship

One of the hardest things for any man is letting go of a relationship that’s not meant to be. Men in bad relationships are often attached to the illusion that this particular woman is “the One” for us, and that if we don’t have him or her, we’ll never find somebody new or no other woman will ever want us.

Many men remain in disappointing, hurtful relationships for months, even years with the false beliefs that "all women act like this"or "this is as good as it's going to get." If you ever expect to have real happiness and experience true love, you first have to learn to love yourself, stop expecting other people to give you the love and acceptance you deserve and let go of unhealthy attachments to bad women and bad situations. Wasting precious time with the wrong woman will only leave you bitter, and that bitterness will poison relationships with your family, children and any potential relationships you may have with actual good women in the future.

It is not selfish to meet your own needs--in fact, when you finally build up the courage to let go of painful relationships with the manipulative women, you will begin to feel freedom and contentment and begin taking better care of yourself. Having an optimistic outlook, positive attitude and belief that the best is yet to come can help you bounce back from the worst of relationships.

If you just got out of a relationship but are harboring a lot of resentment against your ex or against women in general, NOW is not the time to start dating again! If you're in this situation you first have to examine what patterns you keep repeating in your relationships and why you have tendencies to be with life sucking women with a ton of emotional baggage who mean you no good. Learn to identify your patterns, and the unhealthy beliefs that are causing them.

Don't beat yourself up over all the time you “wasted” with the wrong woman and realize that it didn't work because it was not meant to be. Learning from the bad experiences and moving on from a relationship will allow you to progress to the next level in your new relationships as you find the right woman. Remember, you have to lighten your load and heal your pain before you can begin meeting new women.

The Right Woman for the Single Dad

Any woman you choose to date as a single father will impact your child in some way, so when you make the jump back into the dating scene as a single father, you have to carefully consider the qualities to look for in the woman who may one day be part of your child’s life.

Any woman that wants to be a part of your life has to understand that when you are an active single father, your kids have to be your priority. When dating as a single dad, the best woman for you has to have the ability to be a sufficient female role model for your children. She should also be fun to be with, flexible and child-friendly. Remember, you are looking for a woman who is caring and treats your kids with a lot of love, so finding out early on how a woman feels about kids will help you weed out the ones who have very little interest and/ or dislike children altogether.

The woman you're dating should be patient and understand that as a single dad, you always have to be prepared for the unexpected regardless of your child’s age, like those nights when you'll have to cancel that intimate date and rush your little one to the emergency room. A good woman will automatically understand that you have enough love in you to share with her as well. If she isn't flexible and throws tantrums when your kids dare to take your time away from her, you should stop seeing her.

Juggling between drama-queen girlfriends and your kids just does not work out. As stated earlier, any woman you choose to date as a single father will impact your child in some way, so trust your instincts and avoid any woman who gives you any wrong vibes. Chances are if your gut says no, this woman probably isn’t right for you or your children.

What She Tells Her Girlfriends

It’s not a big secret that women talk, but you need to understand the role of your woman's friends in her life and the life of your relationship. A woman's friends play the roles of sister, therapist and sometimes even a mother. What women tell or don’t tell their friends depends on their mood and how much they are into you. Among her girlfriends, happiness is shared jubilantly; however, dissatisfaction will be dissected.

A lack of communication in a relationship can be a source of frustration and women will turn to their friends when they need an outlet. When girl talk turns bawdy, many guys fall under immense scrutiny because unlike men, women talk about their problems, normally disclose intimate details and get relationship ideas from one another. The more you make your woman feel special, the more positive her conversations about you will be with her girlfriends. As long as you treat your woman good, you won’t have to worry about any possible embarrassment down the road.

Choosing A Date Venue

So you've got that first date with a hot girl. You pick up your date, hand her a dozen red roses and you’ve even offered to pick the restaurant--but which one do you choose?

Certain types of venues are just not appropriate for dates. When considering good dating ideas, the key here is to be a little imaginative and thoughtful. When it comes to a dinner date, women want something that’s not too cheap, but also not too expensive--a place that falls in between fancy and cheap, so that it doesn’t look like you’re trying too hard or that you’re not trying hard enough.

Taking your date out to a fast food joint tells her that you’re cheap and that you really don't care to impress her. On the other hand, taking her to the most expensive restaurant in town could make her think that you’re just a show off and a fake. Find a place to dine that’s not too cheap and not too expensive, but just right.

If your goal is to have a more fun and casual date, venues such as amusement parks, sports events, and picnics are great for first dates. Don't give your date the wrong impression by bringing her to a place where there are very little to no people. You do want to scare her by doing that, so stay in public places so your date will feel safe.

Follow these tips when choosing a venue for your dates and you will be glad when your dating partner wants to see you for many more.

Top Reasons Why Women Cheat

You have a hot girlfriend, a solid relationship and she would never cheat on you... right? Wrong. You should never underestimate a woman's willingness to stray because women can be just as unfaithful as men in relationships--especially if you're not taking care of your business at home. Here are some reasons why women cheat.

1. Lack of intimacy

The one thing women want most in a relationship is intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship--it’s things like touching, kissing and communicating. Women crave intimacy it, and they could seek it elsewhere if they're not getting it at home. To achieve better intimacy and give your woman a sense of closeness, spend quality time with her and do special things like massaging her feet, preparing a romantic dinner for two, etc... Routine sex in the same position and the same setting can become very boring, but an affair could add adventure and get her adrenalin flowing. Doing unexpected things like surprising her with a weekend getaway and having date nights can add that same kind of excitement to your relationship.

2. She Feels neglected and ignored

Women want to feel wanted; however, if they feel more like servants instead of your girlfriend, they could stray. Also, spending all your time at work or out with the fellas when you are off gives her even more reason to seek attention elsewhere. Women are emotional beings and they need their men to be present in the relationship and provide emotional support to them. Once you start neglecting and ignoring your relationship-- cheating is inevitable.

3. Revenge for your cheating

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, you broke her trust (and, possibly her heart) and she wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. You can’t undo your indiscretions, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and suggest relationship counseling to help the two of you. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry--you'll have to show her with actions.

How to Listen to a Woman

Women love to communicate, and you will always find them encouraging their men to do the same. Unfortunately, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her as well as relating to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice.

It's no secret--men and women have very different communication styles. Women primarily talk to explore their feelings, while men primarily talk to find solutions. But if you want your relationship to work, you need to learn how to listen to her properly and learn what not to say to your girlfriend.

For women, talking and sharing are bonding experiences which help them build relationships. They learn how and who to trust by communicating and paying attention to the smallest of details. Whenever your partner speaks, listen carefully, make eye contact and ask questions about her feelings. Tell her you see how the situation could be upsetting, difficult or frustrating to her and encourage her to open up without offering any solutions or trying to change her feelings.

Try not to be sarcastic as doing such will insult her intelligence. Give her your undivided attention and remember--you don't have to agree with your partner, just listen and try to understand. Make sure that you're not watching the game while she's trying to discuss your one-year anniversary together. Most importantly, listen for clues in her speech, e.g., she tells you that there isn't enough sex in the relationship. Translate that as she's really telling you that she wants more of you. Better intimacy is a good thing, right?

When you learn how to properly listen to a woman, she will feel understood, respected and reassured and it will lead to fewer communication problems in the relationship. If you value your relationship, you should listen to her. Otherwise, you run the risk of having her find another man who will!

When She Acts Like Your Mom

During casual dating in some relationships, a woman may be independent, flexible, go out of her way to comfort you when your sick and listen to your problems. However, as soon as you’re in a committed relationship with her, she switches from care-taking to becoming a controlling woman--being over-bearing, constantly nagging and lecturing you like you're still a child.

Not all women want to be mothers; however, most women tend to carry on the traits they learn from their mothers (whether good or bad) and focus all their nurturing instincts toward the closest person to them--which in this case would be you! Although this nurturing may seem great at first, having your relationship change from a loving and equal partnership to parent-child roles can be the end of any romance between the two of you. Some guys tend to bring the nagging and lecturing on themselves by procrastinating on things or having outlandish spending habits, etc...It’s no secret that women mature faster than men, so the two of you may not be on the same maturity levels.

In most cases, the nurturing or nagging comes out of genuine affection and concern for you. A potential reason for her to treat you like a child is because you’re acting like one. The more you act like you’re ten years old, the greater the chance she’s going to keep giving you that mom stare. When she treats you like a child, you can stop the negative results of her maternal instinct and motherly behavior by acting like a man. Calmly and rationally explain your behaviors and/or desires and point out to her that you are an adult and fully capable of making your own decisions. If you regularly demonstrate that you are a strong, independent and self-sufficient man, she will be less likely to think of you as a child and you both can get back to a loving, equal partnership.