Thursday, April 7, 2011
7 Tips For Getting Over Your Ex
Getting over your ex is rarely a quick and easy process, and it’s often complicated by all the things that the two of you still have in common, like friends, favorite hangouts, etc.. One of the toughest parts about trying to get over an ex is that your mind will hardly let you think about anything else...especially if you really liked the girl. It’s never easy, but if you follow these 7 tips for getting over your ex, you can forget the past, focus on your future and be back in the saddle in no time.
1. Avoid the places she hangs out at
Don't go to all your old favorite places or where she hangs out at. The whole point right now is getting over her, so visiting old places where you used to go will only remind you of her, not to mention her friends might be there and could certainly make you feel unwelcome. It’s a small price to pay for peace of mind.
2. Exercise and stay active
Exercising and staying active can create a better self-image, lead to more confidence and is scientifically proven to make people happier. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem, improve your mood and alleviate depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your recent breakup. And don’t forget: The gym is also a great place to meet new women.
3. Get rid of items that remind you of her
After a break up, it's important that you get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex as soon as possible because these little reminders can keep you trapped in the clutches of heartbreak. Throw away all of the Christmas and birthday gifts she gave you, photos of the two of you and love letters that she wrote you. The sooner you get all that junk out of your home the sooner you’ll get over her emotionally.
4. Hang out with your friends
Now that you’re single, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the buddies you left behind while you were in that committed relationship with a girlfriend who was always greedy for all of your attention. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic because interacting with your people who care about you is one of the most effective forms of therapy. This is probably the most important thing you should do when getting over an ex, and as hard is may be go to without seeing and hearing from her, you're going to need to grit your teeth and struggle through it. Even if she gave you the old line about trying to stay friends, forget it. Don't call her, email her, text her or contact her in any way. If you work or go to school with her, try to avoid her whenever possible. Furthermore, avoid people who you know would share personal details of your conversations with them with your ex.
6. Remember the bad times with her
When you find yourself missing your ex in a weak moment, one of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons she was not the one for you. Write down what happened and how it made you feel, being clear about the things you never want to feel again. Then tell yourself, "This is the reality of what it was like with her, so why would I want to go back and torture myself again with this woman?"
7. Enjoy your newfound freedom
After a breakup, don't underestimate the importance of taking the time to learn more about yourself, how to recognize bad relationship signs, how you relate to others and the problems you need to work on. A breakup can signify a new beginning, so keep yourself busy and treat your breakup as if you just got out of jail. Exercise this newfound freedom by meeting new people or doing things that your ex didn't approve of (within reason).
Stay out until three in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your best friend, or just sit on your couch and watch football all day. Take pleasure in all of those things that you couldn’t do as a boyfriend. Take the opportunity after a breakup to explore new interests and activities as you begin looking forward to finding the woman of your dreams.