8 Things Women Don't Want To Hear In Bed

  
While it’s easy to say all the right things in the bedroom, there are also some utterances that will bring the action to a serious halt make a woman put her pants back on--fast. Whether it’s a first-time hookup or long-term relationship, here are just 8 things to never, ever, ever say to a woman in bed.


1. “Who’s your daddy?”
When a woman is getting it on with you,  it's a total turnoff to hear a creepy cliché that instantly makes her think of her dear old dad.


2. Another woman’s name
Yes, she knows you have had intimate moments with other women, but every woman wants to think she is the only one. If you make this huge mistake, be extremely apologetic and be prepared to do whatever it takes to prove to her that she's the most beautiful, intelligent and sexiest woman you have ever met.


3. “Shh! Can you be quiet?”
Do you really want her to quiet down after she's turned up the volume to let you know how good it feels or that you’re just totally blowing her mind?


4. “My ex used to love it when I...”
Talking about your prior sexual encounters is a deal breaker for a lot of of women. She doesn’t need to hear about it, and if you bring it up, she’ll feel threatened and jealous.


5. “We’d better hurry, I have to be out of here by 9:00.”
Telling a woman that you’re in a rush and that you don’t have much time to work with is a major mood-killer. Furthermore, making a such a flippant comment followed by a mad scramble for your boxer shorts is sure to freak women out.   


6.  “Well, that was fun.” 
When a woman sleeps with you for the first time, she can’t help but wonder if she's just another notch on your bedpost. Making deflating comments such as, "thank you," or "that was fun" means that you just had a sexual transaction (a hookup) and not an emotional connection.


7.  “You're almost as good as my last girlfriend.”
Every woman wants to think she is great in bed. Making a statement like this will blow her mind out of control and bring up certain questions, like, “Do you think about her while you are having sex with me?” and “Do you wish you were with her?”


8.  “Do you smell something funny?”
All girls have a distinct odor, and unless she has some sort of infection the smell is probably not a 'bad' smell. Women tend to be very self-conscious about their 'smell' and the only thing you will accomplish by telling her that she stinks is destroy her self esteem.

 Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Things Women Love To Hear.

Top 10: Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Understanding what constitutes healthy relationships can help you make changes that lead to new heights of intimacy, happiness and fulfillment. No relationship is perfect, but here are 10 standard elements that should exist in all healthy relationships.


1. There is mutual respect between partners
A true sign of a good relationship is mutual respect between partners. It means that you respect each others’ individuality and make the most of your differences.


2. You trust each other
Each partner has faith in the other to be emotionally available when needed and you feel a genuine sense of safety and security in the relationship.


3. You appreciate each other
Both of you feel appreciated in the relationship and neither you or your partner feel unappreciated or taken for granted. You praise each other, offer compliments and use creative ways to show you care.


4. You can be honest with each other
In a healthy relationship, both partners display honesty and integrity from the start and maintain it throughout the course of the relationship. This means being honest in everything, and not telling those little white lies that can lead on to bigger, and more defining lies.


5. You support each other
In a healthy relationship, each person is interested in what the other is doing and there is a balance between giving and taking. Both partners are available for each other in a time of need.


6. You can spend quality time apart
In a healthy relationship, you shouldn't feel suffocated or controlled by your partner. Healthy individuals have their own friends, family members, interests and opinions outside the relationship. This also means letting her have a girls' night or her letting you hang out with your friends.


7. You have a good sex life
You're both okay with how often you have sex, how you have sex, where you have sex...and there's mutual participation. Sex is not withheld as a punishment and both partners feel safe enough to express their sexual desires without worrying that their partner will force them to do things they're uncomfortable with.


8. You manage conflict well
Contrary to what some may think, a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're happy 100 percent of the time. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to resolve your differences without blaming or belittling the other person. Instead of just avoiding arguments, healthy couples know how to handle them when they inevitably do come up.


9. There is good communication
If you are in a healthy balanced relationship, you should be able to listen to your partner and be able to support them without letting your own feelings get in the way. Both partners share details of their daily lives to strengthen their emotional bond and spend time together and learn about each other’s thoughts and ideas.


10. You truly feel happy
In a good relationship, both the partners are happy to be with each other and enjoy the relationship. You laugh with your partner and have fun together. You don’t feel like you are pretending, or that you should be someone other than who you are.

Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Unhealthy Relationship Signs.

Top 10: Ways To Keep Your Girlfriend Happy

When it comes to relationships, most guys work too hard at trying to keep themselves happy rather than their girlfriends. There are certain elements of dating that guys should never overlook. Being a good boyfriend is a lot of work, but what it all boils down to is appreciating your woman and making her feel good about herself. With that, here are 10 steps to keeping the lady in your life happy:


1. Listen to her
Most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her as well as relating to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. Listen and understand your girlfriend's deep inward emotion and spirit.


2. Always make her feel beautiful
Don't just tell her you think she's beautiful, or she'll stop believing you. You need to continually show her that you think she is beautiful with your actions. Buy her sexy clothes, take her dancing and ignore everybody else, woo her with sweet gestures and brag about her to others. Do whatever you can do show her that she's the most gorgeous creature you've ever laid eyes on.


3. Know how to please her in bed
A good boyfriend must satisfy his woman's every romantic need not by making love just for the sake of it, but by being passionate about it. Show your partner the emotional intimacy she craves. Communicate with her on every level and anticipate her desires and needs.


4. Make her feel important
You have to understand that she's an equal part of the relationship, so appreciate her company and remember what is important to her. Look her in the eye and tell her what she means to you. Point out all the ways she is different from your past girlfriends and let her know there can be no substitute for her.


5. Challenge her to be better
You can naturally gain a special place in your woman's life by helping her find what she wants in life and make her understand and believe how important her happiness is to you. Help change the way she sees the world and help her stand out and live a happier life. The fact that you care that much about her well-being will make her want to keep you around longer.


6. Pay attention to details
Did she suddenly change her hair color, shed a few pounds, or buy a new outfit? These are all things you need to take note of; most women instinctively flock to attentive guys with keen eyes.


7. Be spontaneous
Once things become predictable in a relationship, things become boring--and once things become boring, the relationship is essentially over. Mix things up a little and surprise her with flowers or hidden love notes, whisk her away to an unplanned romantic weekend and call her for no other reason than to simply say "I love you."


8. Make her laugh
Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together. A sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on.


9. Don't take her for granted
Women want a man to be someone that makes them feel happy, secure and loved and don't want to deal with insensitive remarks, little hurts and frustration in a relationship. Let her know that you do appreciate her doing things for you.


10. Be chivalrous
Show respect for your girlfriend by being a gentleman. Even if you have been together for a while and chivalry has fallen by the wayside, revive it by opening doors for her, pulling out her chair at the restaurant, helping her with heavy bags, etc...

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the 5 Traits of a Great Girlfriend.

5 Signs You're Her Backup Guy

We define the "backup guy" as a guy who is more than a friend, but less than a boyfriend. He's the safe, terrifically nice guy who’s always surrounded by women that complain to him about the cold-hearted losers they're dating. He's the boyfriend substitute women call upon when all other options vanish. He's always surrounded by women who want to date someone just like him-- except they won’t date him, for whatever reason.

The following 5 signs are all giveaways that you’ve fallen into the “backup guy” trap. With a quick perusal of the list below, you should be in a good position to decipher when to continue your pursuit and when to walk away with your dignity intact.


1. She rarely return your calls
If a girl is attracted to you, she should be calling you at least once for every three times you call her. However, if you don’t hear from her for weeks or months at a time, and all of a sudden she wants to hang out, take it as she’s just bored or is between boyfriends and there’s no one else to call.


2. She regularly cancels at the last minute
It is certainly fair to cancel plans occasionally for a legitimate reason, but if she flakes on you consistently and doesn’t try to be flexible with her schedule to free up time for you, it shows that she holds little respect for you at and that she doesn't want to commit in case something better comes up.


3. She teases you along with the simple intention of keeping you around
She romantically teases you along with things like "accidental" kisses with the simple intention of keeping you around so you'll always be there to rescue her. She even allows you to sleep in her bed so she can talk to you all night long about her feelings.


4. She tells you what a great boyfriend you'd be... for some lucky girl
This is basically like saying "you have all the qualities I'm supposed to want in a guy, but for some reason I find you sexually repulsive."


5. She talks about other guys while you are with her
She asks you for advice about different men she’s attracted to and constantly tells you about all her problems with them. When a woman you're interested in becomes comfortable enough to openly talk to you about all her problems with other men and asks you for advice about the guys she’s attracted to, she doesn't see you as a potential lover--You're in the FRIEND ZONE.

4 Signs She'll Break Your Heart

At the start of a new relationship, it's easy to overlook the clear cut signs that she’ll break your heart because of genuine attraction, excitement or just the fact you’re getting some action. However, with the majority of relationships destined for failure, you need to be selective and end a sour one before too much of your time and energy has been invested. For your benefit, here are 4 signs that she’ll break your heart.


1. She was already involved when she met you
The two of you hooked up when she was dating another guy or even worse--you're dating a married woman. While it can be easy to discount logic and naysayers when you're head-over-heels in love, but sooner or later you'll realize that you'll never be able to fully trust her. After all, how do you know she wouldn't start dating someone else? A cheat is always a cheat.


2. She's close with her exes
If you meet a girl that is able to stay good friends with her exes and gets a lot of calls from a lot of guys who all seem very close to her, she'll damage you. She may have some "friends with benefits" things going on with her exes, and the fact that she finds men so disposable means that she never really builds up strong relationships anyway. If you're looking for a serious relationship, never get involved with a girl who easily switches from viewing as lovers to treating them as friends.


3. She has deep-rooted issues
Whether it's problems with alcohol, drugs, or psychological issues, if there's something in her life that you’re always second place to, this relationship is not going to last long.


4. She's very secretive and lies a lot
If your girl isn't big on telling the truth, doesn't feel guilt over her constant lies, does whatever is "easiest" to get by rather than dealing with the truth and simply tells you what you want to hear, you should end it sooner rather than later.

5 Reasons You're Just Friends

So you've been trying hard to get close to a girl, and the more time the two of you spend together, the more you realize how much you actually like her. You've gotten really close to her with all the hopes of piquing her sexual interest, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone. So why have you ended up as friends instead of her boyfriend? Here’s why.


1. You've never asked for a date
You secretly lust for her, but instead of asking her out, you behave like a friend and never let the girl know that you have more than friendly intentions on your mind. If you like a girl, you have to make it subtly obvious that you're romantically interested in her. If your "friend" does not know you want more, then she cannot give more. Put it on the table and see what happens.


2. You voluntarily became her best friend
You became her romantic counselor, listened to every cry and pity party moment about how her last boyfriend did her wrong. You began doing things her girlfriends do with her to the point she's lost all realization of the fact that you have a package down there. You've become another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend. You chose to be her shoulder to lean on, knowing you wanted to be her boyfriend all along.


3. You're way too nice and accommodating
You may be a good catch, but you can give a woman too much of yourself too soon. If you're always available for a woman at the drop of a dime, and offer zero challenge to her, you will not spark that base desire within her.


4. She's afraid to take it to the next level
It is sometimes a risk to go from being friends to being "lovers". A woman could value the friendship so much that she fears losing what the two of you have. Your friend will have to work through her fear to change this.

5. She's just not attracted to you
This is the most common scenario. She may find you funny, charming and fun to be with --but she just doesn't feel any sexual chemistry with you. Sometimes it’s just the way it is -- you don’t want to hit the sheets with every woman you meet, do you? If she‘s just not into you, you have a choice to make: Either stay her friend or move on completely.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs She Wants To Be More Than Friends.

Top 5 Relationship Killers

Once you've found a great girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is lose her through a bad misstep. No one can list all the potential things that can destroy a relationship, but we can give you a heads up on the most likely causes of a breakup with these 5 relationship killers.


1. Cheating
Cheating is the ultimate relationship killer because once someone has cheated, regaining full trust is next to impossible. The initial betrayal of finding out that a partner has strayed is often enough to leave a relationship dead, and even if a couple does try to work past the cheating, the majority of couples won't survive.


2. Always placing your career before her
Your girlfriend is likely very proud of your career success and appreciates being with an ambitious man; however, she also expects you to make time for her. If you stay late at work every night, cancel dates for last-minute business meetings, or if you choose to constantly spend time with your co-workers after work, she will come to her own conclusions about your priorities.


3. Letting Yourself Go
If your girlfriend was attracted to you when you were wearing Italian suits, chances are that's what she likes, and she may not be attracted to you if you begin wearing nothing but holey sweatpants and football jerseys. Letting yourself go tells your girlfriend that she's not important enough for you to maintain your appearance and you were just putting on a facade to attract her.


4. Not making enough time for her
If you want to keep your girlfriend around, you have to find ways to make her feel special and important. You're not a bachelor anymore, so you will have to give up time watching the game with your pals in order to spend time with together with the lady in your life. Remember, if you don't pay attention to her, a lot of other men will.


5. Being controlling
People hate to have their freedoms limited by another person or persons. Controlling behavior such as blaming, anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule almost always results in resentment and emotional distance.