5 Signs She Wants to be "Just Friends"

They say that some of the best relationships start out as friendships, and while that it is true, not every friendship is meant to blossom into something romantic. In order for a woman to commit to a serious relationship, or even think about dating a man, a natural attraction and chemistry between her and the guy must exist. If these two conditions are not met, the woman will not pursue the romantic relationship and will place the guy into the "Friend Zone" instead. So before you make the mistake of chasing her, use these 5 signs she just wants to be friends as a guide.


1. She tells you what a good friend you are
Many men believe that by acting as a woman's best friend or love counselor, they can somehow become her knight in shining armor and work their way into her heart. This may work well in Hollywood, but in real life, you’re just kidding yourself. If she has mentioned that you are the "perfect friend," that is her subtle way of letting you know that that is ALL you are to her.


2. She talks about other guys in front of you
Instead of giving you signs that she'd like to take your relationship to another level, she lets you know which guys she thinks is hot, asks you for advice about different men she’s attracted to and constantly tells you about all her problems with them.


3. She tries to set you up with her friends
If she's always trying to set you up with her friends or talks about the kind of girl that would be perfect for you, she just wants to be friends. Remember, if she was physically attracted to you, she'd be hugging you, kissing you and jumping your bones--not trying to pass you off on another girl.


4. She always insists on paying her half
When a guy pays for dinner, it's a date; however, if the two of you are just friends, she won't let you pay for her meal because she doesn't want to owe you anything.


5. She constantly tells you how much she appreciates you
She says things like: “I feel like I can talk to you about anything, "You‘re really a nice guy," "You‘re just like a brother to me," "You understand me," and last but not least "What would I do without you?" Remember, you may understand her while the bad boy she's making out with doesn't.

Remember, guys: Men do the picking, but women do the choosing. Be able to see the signs a woman is not interested in you and make the choice to either stay as her friend or move on to a woman who is romantically interested.

5 Gift Ideas for Her

The types of gifts a woman will remember most are those that show you made an effort to please her and show her how you feel, and the more time, effort and consideration you put into her gift, the gushier she’ll get. The following is a list of five possible gifts that are sure to please the woman in your life and can make her see you in a whole new light.

1. Spa Treatments

This is a great idea for the woman in your life who seems to have it all or if you want to avoid buying a material gift just for the sake of it. Nothing can impress a woman more than a guy who can make them feel special and treat them like the ultimate queen, so consider spoiling her with a spa package with the full works including a manicure, pedicure, a hair styling session, a facial and a massage.


2. Lingerie
Lingerie is an all time favorite gift with the majority of women, but you are walking a fine line with this one. When it comes to buying lingerie for your woman, you have to think sensuous and you need to know what sort of lingerie she would like. Lingerie can also be a very unromantic gift if not properly chosen. For example, something like, say, crotchless panties and baby doll tops could be seen as slutty and could take the romance right out of the gift. Buy something she will feel good in and don’t make it so provocative that it seems more like a gift for you than for her.

3. Jewelry

There are hardly any women who can resist jewelry; however, because jewelry is often expensive and can be easily shown off, it's usually reserved for serious relationships. When you give jewelry, make sure it's not fake and pick an item that would have special meaning for your girlfriend. Whether the item is gold, sliver or platinum, locket with a picture of the two of you, charm bracelets are all thoughtful gifts.


4. Perfume
Perfumes or fragrances are always sure to make her happy; however, you really need to know a woman well to head to the perfume counter and successfully choose a winner on your own. If you are not sure what type of scent to get her, during a casual conversation find out what kind of perfume she wears or do a little snooping on your own.

5. Purses
A purse is every woman's best friend. It is the most useful and personal accessory a girl could possess, so if you plan to purchase a purse for the lady in your life, you should know her personal preferences. You can figure that out by paying attention to what she’s carrying now. If you're still not sure, take your mom, sister or female friend with you shopping and pick out a handbag that you think she will like.

5 Common Relationship Problems

There are times in all romantic relationships when things don't run smoothly and can be difficult to understand--even in the most ideal of circumstances. Although relationships have their ups and downs, there are things you can both do that can minimize problems. Below are five of the most common relationship problems along with solutions that can help you have a better relationship.


1. Communication
The foundation and relative success of every relationship you maintain in life is built on communication; however, it is also the most common relationship problem. All relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, but if you want your relationship to work, you need to learn how to talk and listen properly to your partner.

It's no secret--men and women have very different communication styles; however, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. So, block off an hour or two for quality time with her and make the effort after a long day to discuss work, friends, your relationship, etc..


2. Sex
Their comes a time in any sexual relationship when you may feel you are not getting what you want or that you are not satisfying your woman. Even couples who love each other can be incompatible sexually. Compounding these problems is the fact that men and women alike are sorely lacking in sex education and sexual self-awareness.

If sitting down together and having a talk session about improving your sex life is too difficult, you may find that it is easier for you to show your partner what you want done differently or guide your partner during lovemaking. You may even find that your partner might have suggestions of her own. If you keep an open mind and attitude, you can avoid offending her and actually improve both of your styles and skills in the bedroom.


3. Not prioritizing your relationship
You can schedule time for sports, eating and going out with the fellas, don't you? So why should scheduling quality time with your woman be any different? Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life and keep her interested in the relationship by doing things like making gestures of appreciation, compliment her, contacting her throughout the day, and showing genuine interest in her.


4. Trust
Trust is an essential part of any relationship. Ask yourself if there are certain behaviors or unresolved issues that are causing you and your partner not to trust each other? You and your partner can resolve trust issues by making a sincere effort to be open and truthful with each other, letting go of past grievances and doing simple things like being consistent, calling when you say you will, respecting each others boundaries and not overreacting when things go wrong.


5. Moving too fast
Some couples can go from casual to serious very quickly because they have so much in common or because of great sex. Some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love or they're simply tired of being alone and would rather be with anyone to feel loved.

Whatever the reason, some relationships get way too serious way too fast and if you find yourself in such a situation, you might start looking for ways to take it down a notch. Doing things like group dating, avoiding spending the night at her place or inviting her to spend the night at yours and making post-date plans will keep you from spending all of your free time with her will make things feel a little less serious--at least for the time being.

Alpha Female Characteristics

Every woman has Alpha Female traits inside of them; some are just better at showing it than others. While most women are passive and wait for or use silent flirting to get men to approach them, the Alpha Female calls all the shots in her world and makes things happen. Inside of the true Alpha Female lies an inner security that is lacking in many other women. So, how do you know if you're dealing with an Alpha Female? Below are the top five Alpha Female characteristics.


1. Independence
The Alpha Female is fiercely independent, can take care of herself and doesn't need a man in her life. She will want to be the one to set up dates and will often tell you she is busy when you ask. She will also insist on paying her part for movie tickets, getting into clubs, and for meals. She doesn't want to be in a position where she feels that she owes you in some way. She does not want to be tied down to any man and won’t rely on you for everything.


2. Assertiveness
The Alpha Female asserts influence and control and won’t be pushed around. She stands up for herself and quickly puts people in their place if they try to disrespect her. The Alpha Female is articulate and speaks with her mouth as well as with her eyes. She is a strong woman who knows what she wants, feels and needs and easily expresses these things. The Alpha Female is used to having men pursue her and give in to her every whim; therefore, she is selective about who she invites into her life and will quickly let you know she's not into you.


3. Confidence
The Alpha Female truly loves herself and is comfortable in her own skin. She loves her body and her brain and she works them out regularly. She knows her own value and sees that she’s beautiful from the inside out. She is playful, yet determined and you will find that an Alpha Female is extremely sure of herself. She won’t settle for less than the absolute BEST in everything from men to her career. She's on top of her dating game and doesn't doubt for a moment that she has the ability to get any man she wants. She gives you a run for your money and doesn't make it easy to pick her up.


4. Sex Appeal
You will find that the Alpha Female isn't always the most beautiful woman out there; however, she always practices making herself look good, knows the hottest parties and gets into every club without waiting. She flirts with you and moves her body in ways that make you think of sex. She's a fashion leader who is able to wear a varied wardrobe with elegance, flair and style. She doesn't blend in with the crowd and you immediately know when she walks in the room because of her charisma and dynamic presence.


5. Ambition
The Alpha Female is actively pursuing dreams or goals and is not concerned with a man making enough money to provide for her. She manages to rise to the top in her career because of her style and intellect and is not afraid to use, and sometimes, exploit her femininity to get her way with men or seal business deals. Simply put, she is a woman who is completely in control of her destiny.

Top 10: Red Flags Women Look For

When it comes to dating, women often go against their better judgment and overlook quirky things men do to cut them some slack. Although the women you're dating are trying their best to see your better qualities, there are definitely near-universal red flags they look for when sizing you up.

Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the first date.


1. Constantly talking about your ex
Constantly talking about your ex with your dates can make a very bad first impression and run a new woman off in a hurry! Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness.


2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will skip over men in this situation because it's clear that these guys don't like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious commitment issues.


3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe--but they don't want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to or what to wear. Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to run from you very quickly.


4. Negativity
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves; therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.


5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions.


6. Bad-mouthing others
A woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on coworkers, family or friends, or criticize those close to you. Not only that, but she will question your loyalty to her and begin to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can really trust you.

7. Lack of ambition

Women like to date men whom they can move forward with and see a bright future. They don't want to be with men who have no ambition or drive, are stagnant and are going nowhere fast. Women want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable lifestyle and showing no signs of maturity can make a woman flee from you.


8. Lack of chivalry
Being a gentleman when you are on a date means showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. We should all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. While just about every woman is enjoying the benefits that come with equality, at the end of the day, she wants to be treated like a lady and if you can’t deliver, there’s a good chance she won’t stick around for long.


9. Still living at home

Although it may sound harsh, most women want to date men who have evolved enough to have made it out of their parents house! Men who still live at home are usually in no hurry to grow up, become independent or financially responsible. The only time it might be acceptable for a man to still be living at home is if he has temporarily fallen on hard times or is taking care of aging parents.

10. Moving too quickly
Moving too fast in a relationship is usually a sign that you're uncomfortable being by yourself or you are looking for a woman to help solve your problems. Talking about what your children will look like after the first date, asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or even spilling loads of very personal information too quickly all point to desperation.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags To Look For In Women.

Top 10: Signs You're With The Wrong Woman

Romantic relationships can be wonderful with the right person; however, a relationship with the wrong individual can lead to years of heartache, emotional damage and even physical damage. If you're wondering if your girlfriend is really the one you should be with, here are 10 signs that will definitely help you decipher if you're possibly dating the wrong woman.


1. She doesn't show affection
If you're in a situation where your woman just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you're always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, something is definitely wrong. Dating is all about give and take and relationships are a constant compromise, BUT you shouldn't always have to be the one to initiate everything and generally, being able to show affection should come naturally and not be a forced thing for a person.


2. She is reluctant to make future plans with you
You try to arrange vacation plans, but are met with a hesitant response. She is not willing to do anything that would require lasting commitment. She stops planning to go to events together a few weeks in advance… the list is endless. These are all signs that she doesn’t plan on being with you in the future.


3. She destroys your self-confidence
She repeatedly puts you down, constantly corrects your slight mistakes, making you feel "on guard", unintelligent, and leaving you with the feeling that you are always doing something wrong.


4. She discounts your feelings
She tells you that your feelings and opinions don't make sense, they're silly, and that you are emotionally disturbed to even think of such things. Women who behave like this often become extremely hostile toward criticism and often react with anger or even rage when their behavior is questioned.


5. She displays psychotic behaviors
She displays behaviors such as constant temper tantrums, snooping and emotional blackmail. Women like this carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and take actions with no thought about consequences.


6. She uses sex as a weapon
Some women tend to use sex as a way to coerce their men into getting their way. If they want something to happen then they know that this would be the perfect opportunity to get their man to do it. They figure that if the guy wants it bad enough then he will do exactly what it is they want, and if he doesn't, they threaten or punish him by depriving him of his sexual needs. Women who display this behavior only give men an excuse to look for alternative sources.


7. She is not trustworthy
She's dishonest with you and you're constantly catching her telling you lies and withholding information from you to keep you at a disadvantage.


8. She cuts you off from loved ones
When it's time to spend quality time with your family, she suddenly becomes sick, stuck in traffic or experiences something major at work. She resents your family for taking up your time and even forbids you from associating with them at all.


9. She's too insecure
She secretly checks your email, internet history and your cell phone. She feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, hates the idea of meeting your female friends and constantly attempts to trap you with questions like, "Do you think I'm pretty?" and gets upset no matter what you answer.


10. She's too controlling
She tells you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call and you allow these controlling behaviors to "keep the peace" in the relationship.

4 Types of Women You Should Date

Finding a good woman is not an easy task, especially in an era where lots of women are master manipulators who abuse their female sexual power and exploit male vulnerabilities. Still, there are a lot of good women out there with traits that would make any guy happy.

In a previous article, you learned about the types of women to avoid dating. Now, here's a list of the good types of women you should be dating:


1. The Independent Woman
The independent woman has a real life of her own and is happily going in her own positive direction. She's the type who wants a man in her life, but doesn't need a man in her life. An upside of dating this Alpha Female is knowing that she is confident, she won’t rely on you for everything and she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems.


2. The Loyal Woman
This type of woman is ready to go to war with you and take on whatever obstacle life presents. She's not the type that will be checking out other guys, but will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life. Whether or not she's up for first prize in a beauty contest, this type of woman will lift you up when you need it, provide constructive criticism to make you a better man and be on your side no matter what.


3. The Sweetheart
The sweetheart is a woman who's positive, compassionate and gentle. She's a genuine person who considers you in every situation. She's always truly happy to see you and you find yourself looking forward to spending time with her. This type of woman is pretty rare, but if you can find one, you've got a real treasure on your hands.


4. The Low Maintenance Woman
The low maintenance woman is rational, not emotionally clingy, is comfortable doing things on her own and does not require constant reassurances. She really doesn't care about how much money you have -- she just likes you for you and not for what she can take from you. Unlike the high maintenance woman, she accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good points, as well as her bad ones. And she feels the same about you.