Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Why Women Ask "Do I Look Fat in These?"

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Dating is exciting. You’re getting to know each other and all seems well, then out of nowhere she asks you the most dangerous relationship question of all--Do I look fat in these honey? Now the trap is laid and you have to answer. Talk about frustrating.

Make no mistake about it --this question is notorious for a reason: it's very difficult to answer without getting yourself into trouble. This is a test, and your chances of getting laid again depend entirely on how you perform. A quick "no" means you didn't even look and she'll have a reason to feel annoyed. Giving a slow "no" will inevitably prompt a response like, "You had to think about it?" which is then accompanied by crying, yelling, heated discussion of arguments you had long forgotten about, etc. Say "yes" and you're as good as single.

Answering women's questions can always be difficult, but exactly what is the right answer to this question? There is really no good answer to the “do I look fat?” question. The reason is that the wrong answer (and to be honest, that could be any answer or, no answer at all) can bring the wrath of the cast iron skillet across your head. However, if you hope to stand a chance, you have to be able to decode the message sent when she asks you and know what she wants to hear, even if it means seriously stretching the truth.

Most of the time, women ask this question to test their mate to make sure they give the right answer and are usually seeking reassurance that they look as hot as they feel and not real honesty. However, there are some women who honestly want to know if they look a little plump or fat in a particular outfit so they can change into something else that their man would be attracted to. A good portion of ladies think about their looks all the time and are self-conscious about their bodies in the same way that men are self-conscious about sex and they want to feel better about themselves.

One good trick to handling this question the right way is to give the slightest pause, as if you're checking her out for the first time with a quick head-to-toe followed by a crisp "no!" If you're not sure where she's coming from or how to respond right away, you're free answer this difficult question by asking another question right back. For example, say something like "No, I don't think that you look fat, but why do you ask?" Then look utterly shocked and follow that with a loud 'can you be serious?' kind of tone: DON'T BE CRAZY! Whether she shares more with you or not, take her hands, look deep into her eyes with all the supreme male confidence you can muster and tell her she's the most desirable, beautiful woman you've ever seen.

Another way the question could be answered is with a joke. For example, if she asks you "do I look fat in these jeans?", you could attack it with "I'd like them better crumpled on the floor" or "you're the type of woman who looks better naked". If you feel you have to say something negative, comment on the clothes, rather than on your girlfriend. You don't want to lie to her and watch her go out in something that is truly unflattering, so to avoid hurting her feelings (and keep you out of the doghouse) simply saying "Honey, you know I love your body, but those jeans are awful" is a lot better than "yes, those jeans make your ass look huge."

Remember, it is important to have a relationship where you tell the truth, but sometimes it is critical that you tell a little white lie. The general rule is, women ask a question and men search for the “right” answer, or at least for one that will result in as little trouble as possible.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

8 Ways to Become Irresistible to Women

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It's no secret that certain guys have been proven over and over to be completely irresistible to women -- and it's not simply because of their good looks or six-pack abs or the type of car they drive. The truth is that women tend to be attracted to certain personality traits and so, naturally, they flock to the men who possess them. Here are some tips that you need to know to become irresistible to women.


1. Smell great

The scent of a man is really important to women, and they are very repelled by men who smell not so good. Wear cologne that smells really good--just make sure that you do not use too much. A little bit is good but over-applying it will make a girl want to run away holding her nose.


2. Be unpredictable

Women are drawn to men they can’t control or predict. In fact, they absolutely obsess over guys who tease and mess with them in ways they didn't expect or haven't seen before. Avoid predictable routines and above all, never act like every other guy.


3. Be funny

Humor is the fastest, most powerful way to become irresistible to women--even the ones you might consider "out of your league." Make a woman laugh with a clever sense of humor, and I don't care how hot or unattainable she seems, you'll trigger positive feelings in her that she just can't ignore.


4. Be romantic

A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. Using romantic gestures to show her that you're thinking about her will allow her to feel free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.


5. Be confident

Nobody wants a guy who acts unsure of himself. A confident man is totally secure and sure of himself and doesn't seek approval from women--and this makes them want him even more. Women find adventurous, exciting, and spontaneous men irresistible. Having male confidence is great--just don't become so full of yourself that you come across as cocky or arrogant.


6. Be attentive to her

A very powerful way to become irresistible to women is to show genuine interest in her likes, hobbies or interest. Doing this will allow you to create a connection with her.


7. Maintain eye contact

The importance of eye contact cannot be underestimated as this is one of the most effective ways to get a connection with a woman. Men can become irresistible to women just on the way he looks at her. Establishing eye contact with her gives a signal that you're interested in her.


8. Unleash your smile

Women are irresistibly drawn to smiling guys because smiling says that you’re a positive, optimistic person who has fun and enjoys life. Most importantly, smiling makes you more physically attractive to women and reveals your positive personality.

Monday, August 9, 2010

Top 10: Worst Pickup Lines


The only purpose of a pickup line should be to initiate a conversation with a girl, and while most guys have the best intentions in mind when using them, most women don't like them and the only things you can be assured of using these bad one-offs is making a bad first impression, a slap in the face and a drink on your shirt. Here are the 10 worst pickup lines you absolutely want to avoid using.


1. " I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package!"

The general reaction to this line is a swift kick to the groin.



2. "I hope you know CPR, because you just took my breath away."

A quick jab to the stomach after delivering this pick up line may take your breath away.



3. "Your daddy must have been a baker, 'cause you've got a nice set of buns."

A girl will most likely call you a pervert and tell you to get away.



4. "I seem to have lost my phone number, can I have yours?"

Nine times out of ten, the girl will dismiss you as an unoriginal creep and leave you standing there--alone.



5. “Baby, you've got great legs, what time do they open?”

This bad pickup line is just insulting. Anytime you imply that a good-looking girl is easy, you’re certainly not going to get anywhere her. Yes, women want to feel sexy and attractive, but they don't want to feel like a hooker.



6. “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk past again?”

This type of bad pickup line crosses the line into arrogance and almost guarantees that you won’t be having much luck with the ladies. Arrogance is good--to a certain extent. Besides, you never invite a girl to tell you to leave as doing this will be just setting yourself up for failure.


7. "Your legs must be tired 'cause you’ve been running th
rough my mind all day."

Not near as tired as when she gets through running away from you. This one has been around for longer than most of us would like to remember and is just plain terrible.


8.
"What's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?"
This classic line is time-tested, but you could run the risk of being the tenth person to use it that evening. Plus, you're telling her that she has bad taste.


9.
"Do you have a license? Because you’re driving me crazy."
Using this line will surely drive her away
in the opposite direction you were heading with her eyes rolling.


10. "Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?"

No, but it will probably hurt when she punches you in the face for being lame. Most women take this as just another meaningless compliment.

For this article, feel free to post on our Facebook page what you think is the worst pickup line and maybe include a little story behind it.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

How to Escape a Bad Date



Most of us have been on a date that hasn't gone well, and some of us have even been on dates where part of you wanted to escape through the back door of the restaurant or out the bathroom window. Maybe the girl you were with didn't exactly fit the picture on her profile, maybe she was self-obsessed, or maybe the two of you simply were not compatible. Whatever the reason may be, this guide will help you get out of any bad date the right way and allow you put an end to your nightmare.



There is no reason you should remain in an uncomfortable situation for the sake of someone you barely know, so if the date is not working out, use the direct approach and simply tell her. If the date isn't going well for you, she may not exactly be having a blast either; however, just because you think it's a bad date, don’t just automatically assume that she feels the same way.



It's a good idea to be honest about your feelings in such a way that your date doesn't feel offended or hurt and tell her something like "We don't seem to have much in common and I don't feel the date is going well" or "I just don't see this as a good match and I don't want to waste anymore of your time, so I'm going to cut this short." Mention to her that you appreciate her time and company to soften the blow.




If you're simply not interested in taking the relationship to the next level, never make the mistake of sending out mixed signals to your date. If you don't want to see her again, make this very clear and make sure that you don’t give her any reason to assume that you’ll be happy to go on another date with her.



Don’t make mistakes like telling her that you had a great time if you really didn’t or letting her hold your hand, and definitely avoid kissing her or telling her that you want to be friends if you have no intentions of dating her again because all of these things send out signals that you are interested. Never give away any personal or contact information to avoid follow up calls or requests for second dates from
desperate women.



Sure, you can always escape a bad date by taking the coward's way out and doing things like arranging the "fake emergency phone call" or faking an illness and disappearing. Although these tactics would definitely end the date, it would occur in a manner that was neither graceful nor very tactful.



No matter how bad the date may be, it is important to remember that the girl you're with is human and has feelings as well. Be very confident and sure of what you’re doing and simply tell her thank you and good-night and leave before she has a chance to start pressuring you into promising another date.




Avoid trying to analyze a bad date and realize that sometimes the people who seem like a good match are not. Knowing this will allow you to ensure that you have more in common with the woman you're going to go out with next time.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

The 5 Best Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend

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So, when was the last time you communicated with your girlfriend on a deeper level? Sure, many guys find communication intimidating, but have you ever thought about the level of understanding you share with her? To understand a woman, you would need to know her completely, and emotional attachment is as important as being physically involved with a person.

Your comfort level with your girlfriend should reach a level where both of you can talk about anything without any inhibitions, and when both partners understand each other completely, a beautiful relationship can sustain. Here’s a list of the 5 best questions to ask your girlfriend which will reveal many details about her personality and help strengthen your relationship.


1. What is your favorite activity to do with me?

Asking your girlfriend this question will help you identify whether you share the same interests and hobbies. If you like bowling and she likes cycling, you may have to rethink your plans the next time you are together. Learning her answer to this question will help you find compromise in your relationship when it comes to planning things together.


2. How far do you want our relationship to go?

Both of you need to be aware of how the other feels about where the relationship is headed. If the two of you have different expectations then you are better off knowing now rather than finding out later and getting hurt.


3. Do you trust me on every level?

Trust is absolutely the biggest part of any relationship. If she doesn't trust you, then there is within your relationship that needs to be discussed and worked out immediately. Find out whether or not her mistrust is justified or if it stems from her own insecurities.


4. Do you feel comfortable coming to me about anything?

For women, talking and sharing are bonding experiences which help them build solid relationships, but if she says that she doesn't feel comfortable, you should reflect on whether or not you make yourself open and available to her. Encourage her to open up without offering any solutions or trying to change her feelings. If you have done this technique, it may be a personal problem or emotional baggage that keeps her from opening up.


5. When are you the happiest with our relationship?

This question forces her to think of positives about the relationship, and her answer will also give you some ideas about what you can focus on that will make the relationship even stronger. Be sure that you have thought of an answer yourself, because she is likely to turn the question back on you!

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Why Women Compete for Men


Most women are highly competitive by nature, and it seems that men have an innate ability to bring out their most competitive streak--without even trying to. Although some women will gracefully bow out if they see that the guy they've had their eye on is already involved with another woman, others will see this as a challenge that they can't help but take on.

So, why do women compete for men? Quite simply, they want what they cannot have. Some women fight for a man's attention because they believe all the good guys are taken and that any man that is involved with a woman must have it going on. If a guy is single, women assume there must be a good reason.

The longing for someone who is off-limits is what draws other women to compete for a man, and a lot of women find a taken man intriguing and something that they just cannot pass up. The simple fact that they can't have a certain man is precisely what makes women want what's off limits.

If a competitive woman of this nature truly believes that a certain guy is the one for them and they are meant to be together, she may very well stop at nothing to ensure that they end up together.

The fact that he is involved with another woman means absolutely nothing to some women because, in their minds, he is with the wrong girl-- he just doesn't know it yet! She may try to seek out the other woman's flaws and weaknesses and exploit them to her advantage by bringing them to the man's attention, thinking that this will help her cause and make herself look good in the man's eyes.

Unfortunately, another side of female competition is dealing with power-hungry women who would actually get joy and satisfaction from taking away another woman's man. This type of power-hungry woman probably never displayed the least amount of interest in a man while he was single, but was all over him once she discovered that he had a girlfriend.

In this situation, a guy may interpret the power-hungry woman's intense flirting as a sign of genuine interest when in reality she may not even like him at all and is simply being used to satisfy her unhealthy need for power over another woman. A lot of women only date married men for this exact reason.

Remember, women want what other women have, and the more out of reach you are, the more appealing you are to them. So use this warped female reasoning to your advantage by surrounding yourself with as many quality women as possible when you go out, as this will make you virtually irresistible.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Top 10: Signs She's Extremely Jealous

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Every man will deal with a jealous girlfriend at some point in his life. Although a little bit of jealousy is essential for a healthy relationship, extreme jealousy arises in a relationship because of high levels of insecurity.

Here are ten of the most obvious signs that your girlfriend is extremely jealous:


1. She feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships.


2. She refuses to accept that you have female friends. She hates the idea of meeting your female friends and refers to all of them as skanks.


3. She constantly calls and sends you text messages on your guy's night out to tell you "I love you," but in reality, it's just to check up on you.


4. She keeps track of where you are, whom you are with and what you are doing. She might even blame you often times of flirting with other women.


5. She feels envious when you're having fun with someone else other than her. She simply doesn't want you to go anywhere without her.


6. She doesn't like it when other women find you attractive. She also gets angry every time you come within 20 feet of another attractive woman and demands: "What are you looking at?"


7. She blows up at you anytime you mention an attractive female celebrity.


8. She constantly questions you about your female coworkers and tries to isolate you from them by using pressure.


9. She gets extremely angry or does not appear comfortable when you talk with female relatives and will try to get you away from them by making excuses.


10. She attempts to trap you with questions like, "Do you think I'm pretty?" and gets upset no matter what you answer.