Thursday, June 28, 2012
In the early stages of a relationship, it's surprisingly easy to give out a creepy vibe to women without even noticing. What can be perceived as regular behavior for anyone with whom you have an established relationship can range from obnoxious to downright frightening when displayed to a new woman you barely know. Here's a list of 5 behaviors that might trip the creep-meter for women who are just getting to know you.
1. Being unable to read her signs
You see an attractive woman across the room, so you try to catch her eye. You walk past her. You look at her. You even sit next to her and try to make eye contact. No luck. Your next move should be to take the hint that she noticed you and isn't interested. A man who refuses to accept this and continues engaging in a staring contest with a disinterested woman will make himself appear as as a potential stalker.
2. Aggressively trying to contact her
Many men seem to believe that they can prove their interest in a woman by chasing her down-- calling, texting, emailing, and following up on each unanswered message with more. While it's understandable that you want to get to know her better and you have many reasons for getting in touch with her, this behavior will only make you appear as a desperate man who is socially inept, insecure, and impatient. It's probably best if you initiate contact no more than two times without any initiative on her part to return the gesture.
3. Dropping by unexpectedly
If a woman tells you what time she gets off work or class, that is one thing, but paying attention to and noting her schedule without her being aware of it will only scare her off. No one wants to feel like they’re being watched like a hawk. A woman you've just met won't think it's very cute when you are always waiting for her at the same time outside her work or dropping off surprises on her doorstep. She will quickly realize how closely you pay attention to where she is and what she's doing, and will determine that you are a weirdo.
4. Mentioning sex at any point during the initial conversations
Most single women who've been dating for awhile want to filter out guys who are only after sex, so if you mention anything overtly sexual in your first few text messages, phone calls, or dates, you're going to be seen as a "typical" guy who is only fixated on sex and creep her out.
5. Invading her personal space
There's something about a guy assuming that he can move in close that women find so unappealing and creepy. It's probably not a good idea to move into a new woman's personal space until you understand her body language and get some signs that she is interested in that.
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
When it comes to choosing a potential mate, no one should ever settle for mediocrity, yet so often the women we date either hold us back, bring us down, or simply hurt us in one way or another down the road, in every sense of the word. That being said, here are 8 signs that your current love interest isn't worth dating.
1. She has a lack of intelligence
While many men have been conditioned to have an affinity for less intelligent women who are less challenging and opinionated, there are more pitfalls than you may think when dealing with a woman you can't have an intellectual conversation with.
2. She's all about drama and mind games
There’s a certain kind of woman who believes that acting out, extreme selfishness, entitlement, throwing tantrums, pathological jealousy and having narcissistic rages are normal and acceptable female behavior. They’re not. Do yourself a favor and drop her.
3. She can't hold down a job
A woman that can't hold down a job or always seems to have problems at work is usually lazy and just looking for a sugar daddy to meet all of her needs.
4. She's dishonest
Lying is a big red flag. We're not saying you should definitely call it quits if she has lied to you, but you should take this very seriously, especially if she has lied about her background, age, her health situation, etc..
5. She has drug and alcohol problems
You cannot have a healthy relationship with a woman who has obvious drug and alcohol problems. Do you really want someone who is a drunk or uses drugs to be the mother of your children? Think about it.
6. She's self-centered
If she spends more time talking about herself than getting to know you and the only feelings worth considering are hers, cut ties with her as soon as possible.
7. You have nothing in common with her
You don’t need to have everything in common with her, but you do need something that connects the two of you. If you guys can’t seem to come together on anything, you need to part ways with her.
8. She's flaky
The flaky girl isn’t worth your time either. One day she loves you. The next day she's not sure. The third day she wants to have your children. The fourth day she needs some space. Give her as much space as she needs, and never come back.
Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags Women Look For.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Do you sometimes find yourself struggling to find the right things to say to the lady in your life? If there's one thing that has always kept men wondering about women, it has to be figuring out what they love to hear. Whether you are in a committed relationship or wanting to take your relationship to the next level, here are 10 phrases that women never get sick of hearing.
1. "You're very smart."
Women want to be appreciated for their intelligence. By acknowledging her intelligence, you're communicating that you recognize her brains and not just her figure.
2. "You are the most beautiful woman I know."
Aside from making her feel aesthetically superior to other women, this remark will put her on a pedestal among her peers and give her an ego boost. She'll feel good about herself and will also feel less threatened by other women when they are around you. This phrase is particularly effective in long-term relationships, as you're assuring your woman that she's still hot.
3. "You're my best friend."
Want to assure her that you are the kind of man who's not just with her for her looks? All you need to do is to tell her that she is not just the love of your life, but also your best friend. Telling her how you feel above and beyond a sexual context will make her feel overpoweringly connected to you.
4. "I am so proud of you."
Telling your woman how proud you are of her for working hard to achieve her goals and showing your loving support will make her heart melt.
5. "You're perfect just the way you are."
This statement says that you've accepted her completely. Giving her an ego boost like that makes her feel cognizant about how much you openly and willingly accept her flaws.
6. "I don't want to be with anyone else."
This expression of enduring commitment says that she has become an essential, indispensable ingredient in your life and that you couldn't live without her. This is a heavy line; it's not many degrees away from proposing to her, so only say this if you truly mean it.
7. "What do you feel/think about [anything]?"
Women love to express their feelings on every topic imaginable. Asking this question tells your lady that you respect her views and that you're genuinely concerned about her feelings and opinions.
8. "How was your day?"
Asking about her day assures that you're willing to lend her your pair of ears and focus on what she has to say.
9. "You're great in bed."
Praising her performance in bed makes her feel like she really knows how to satisfy you and indicates that you appreciate her performance between the sheets.
10. "I love you."
Few men realize or appreciate the power of saying "I love you." By saying those three magic words (when you really mean it), you're acknowledging an attachment to your woman and satisfying her most basic emotional need--to know how her man feels about her and to hear it. abuse the words. Remember--saying this just to smooth over mistakes or as a precursor to every word out of your mouth won't fill her with delight.
Sometimes it's not just about the words from a man's mouth, it is also about showing your love through your actions. Check out our article on The Top 10 Ways to Make Her feel Special.
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Have you ever made plans with a woman and then 30 minutes before your date, she sends you a text saying “I totally forgot I have plans to meet my brother and can’t make it” or “I've been called in to work at the last minute. Maybe some other time?” This woman did not just "remember" she had plans. She used a lame excuse to get out of a meeting with you. Face it, you just got flaked on!
Although flaking is a fact of life for any guy who is putting himself out there in the dating world, women don't realize the frustration, annoyance and hurt men experience when they have a woman flake on them. So why do women agree to go out on a date, then never show up? Why do women give you their phone number, then never pick up when you call? Here are five main reasons why women flake on dates.
1. Someone or something else better came along
Women get hit on all the time and basically have an unlimited number of options, and there’s always the chance that she met another guy she was more attracted to. Or maybe it’s not even a guy, but something came up that's more appealing than going on a date with someone she doesn’t really know.
2. She's already involved with someone
Sometimes women will flake because they’re already in a relationship. Maybe she got caught up in the moment and cheating seemed like a good idea at the time, but after thinking about it, she started having second thoughts.
3. She didn't feel enough attraction to you
Sometimes a woman still won’t come out to meet you because she was never all that interested in you and therefore has no incentive to see you again.
4. She thinks you're creepy
For a woman, it may be a safety concern. If she feels an unexplainable feeling of discomfort and awkwardness toward you, she'll simply keep away from you altogether.
5. She was just a tease
Some women intentionally go out and give guys their numbers because they WANT guys they never plan to sleep with chasing them around. Some of the reasons these manipulative women engage in this ‘teasing‘ behavior is because it gives them wanted attention, an ego boost by impressing other women and assurance that they could in fact have certain men if they wanted.
Monday, June 11, 2012
At some point in every man's life, there comes a time when it’s time to find a good woman and settle down with her. It can often be hard to know if a girl is "right" for you, so here’s a list of 5 things to look for in a girl that could mean she’s the one to hang on to.
1. She's trustworthy
You don't have to think twice about opening up about personal matters and telling her intimate details about your life. She does what she says she's going to do, doesn't flake out, and she's proven that she will always be there for you through good and bad times, no matter what.
2. She makes you feel special
She makes you feel special and cared for by doing thoughtful, little things like holding your hand when you are out in public, telling you she loves you, hugging you, and listening to you, especially when you need her support. She also does special things for you like leaving you sweet love notes when you least expect it and taking you for impromptu dates to places you enjoy.
3. She makes you a better man
She knows you inside out and helps you bring out the best version of yourself. She's a great girlfriend who motivates you to achieve your dreams, talks about your potential, and inspires you to become the best man you can ever be.
4. You have great chemistry together
She is on your mind at all times and you can stare at one another and not say anything for hours. The two of you can laugh together and you share basic interests. You find yourself talking about her a lot and you feel alive and yet content when she is with you.
5. She loves you for who you are
Although there may be things about you that irritates her in everyday life, she loves you, plain and simple and doesn't want to change the essence of who you are. You can talk with her and feel like she isn’t judging you and you never have to try to impress her because you’ve already done that by just being you.
Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Signs You're With the Wrong Woman.