Monday, May 28, 2012
So after a night of hanging out with one of your female friends, you started getting this nagging feeling that something's different. Has she started looking at and treating you differently, as if she's sizing you up? Have the things you both used to joke about, such as her physical flaws, become a sensitive subject for her? Has she started wearing a backless blouse and pulling out the 4-inch stilettos just to meet you for coffee?
The reason why she is now treating you less as a friend is because she is starting to see you more as a potential mate. Here are 5 signs that she wants to be more than just friends with you.
1. She's jealous of other women you talk to
If you are dating other women, most of the time she is cool with it, but suddenly she is being critical of them and sees them as some type of competition. So if you notice her getting an upset look on her face or steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants to become more than a friend.
2. She hangs on your every word
No matter what you are talking about, she'll be sitting at the edge of her seat, looking into your eyes longer and will be interested in what you have to say, even if it is about a topic she has no interest in. If she hangs on your every word that's a good indication she wants more attention from you and to give you more.
3. She no longer talks about other guys in front of you
If she suddenly stops talking about the guys she meets and dates, there's a good chance she's keeping herself available for you.
4. She makes excuses to hang out alone with you
If a woman is interested in you, she'll make an effort to have alone time with you. She will ask you to hang out and will isolate both of you from other people. For example, if you are at a party, she may suggest sitting out front where there are less people around.
5. She starts wearing more makeup and dresses better around you
If you come over to watch a movie and you notice that her appearance is getting sexier by the minute and you're wondering what's the occasion, the truth is she wants you to take notice of her beauty and see her in a different light.
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Relationships can be very complex. They tend to start off fun and exciting; however, as time passes, your differences might become more serious and the relationship could take a turn for the worse. If you have the slightest doubt that your relationship is in trouble, these 8 signs should help you figure out if it's time to cut your losses and avoid wasting any more time in a dead-end relationship.
1. You often think about your life without her
If you find yourself constantly daydreaming about a bachelor's life, romanticizing past relationships, and thinking about meeting new women, these are all signs that your current relationship is doomed.
2. Neither of you can leave the past in the past
It's a common deal-breaker in relationships to keep bringing up past issues during arguments to use as ammunition against your other half. If you can't learn to forgive and forget – or your partner can't learn to forgive and forget a mistake that you have made – then it might be time to cut all ties and start fresh.
3. You don't communicate anymore
When you first started dating, the two of you talked about everything. Now, however, you can’t even be bothered to text, let alone call her and you've even started ignoring her attempts to contact you.
4. Sexual relations have stopped
Does your woman have no interest in having sex with you anymore? Does she always tell you that she's not in the mood or that she's tired or had a long day? If you can't remember the last time you got busy between the sheets, it’s usually an indication that the spark has gone and it’s time to move on to greener pastures.
5. You argue all the time
Sure, some amount of arguing is normal in relationships, but if you are constantly picking fights with one another and arguing and has become the only interaction the two of you have, it's time to move on.
6. There's a lack of effort
When you first met, you pulled out all the romantic stops. You loved to surprise her with cute love notes all the time, home-cooked dinner nights and picnics on the beach. Now, all you see are her bad qualities, you can’t even be bothered to arrange a date to keep the passion alive and you're actually happier just sitting at home watching TV by yourself.
7. The two of you spend more time with friends than each other
In a relationship, it's normal to spend time with your friends, but, if you see your friends more than you see each other, your relationship is in danger.
8. There's no more talk about the future
The two of you have started using “I” instead of “we” and neither of you are willing to talk about future plans together.
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Although almost everyone brings some emotional baggage to a new relationship; however, one of the most common though least talked-about issues is a woman's fear of intimacy. If you believe despite having an otherwise satisfying relationship, your girlfriend is somewhat apprehensive about coming close to you, here are four reasons why women fear of intimacy.
1. She has a poor body image
Every woman has an issue with some part of her body, such as her stomach, butt, wide hips or breasts; however, she may feel victimized by her own body and think that you will judge her imperfect body as harshly as she does. If she is self-conscious about certain body parts, and you happen to love them, tell her so often. Eventually, she'll feel less self-conscious and will let you take a closer look.
2. She's inexperienced in the bedroom
Although many of today's women have enough experience to hold their own in the bedroom, there are still some women who don't have much or any experience when it comes to lovemaking. Even if she's not a virgin (yes, they do still exist), she may have only had one partner or a couple of short-lived relationships and the thought of being with someone completely new may scare her. Whatever the case, awaken her sexuality slowly and do all the sensual things way before you even think about engaging in the ultimate act of love.
3. She suffers from a broken heart
A woman could also be hesitant to give her heart away if it has recently been broken. Intimacy is synonymous with pain, and if her last boyfriend didn't treat her properly or cheated on her, she's probably in self-protect mode and only a great guy who she feels is trustworthy and not out to hurt her will be able to snap her out of it.
4. She has a traumatic past
Past dysfunctional relationships and romantic disasters may have also contributed to her lack of confidence and intimacy. An inability to open up may also stem from deeper, more serious wounds. For instance, a victim of domestic violence or sexual abuse may experience an aversion to closeness with men that is difficult to overcome. Under such circumstances, you need to check your sexual advances and wait for girlfriend to heal herself before she can be comfortable with you in an intimate setting.
A needy woman can be among the most frustrating aspects of a man’s romantic life. The problem is, a lot of chicks have no clue when they're acting like the human version of Velcro. Whether her needy behavior is subtle or overtly obvious, it can cause a lot of unnecessary and exhausting drama and put a major strain on your relationship. Below are five signs that will help you recognize whether or not your dating a needy woman.
1. She wants to stay in touch all the time
A needy woman will blow up your phone with a gazillion calls and text messages along with excessive emails. She also expects you to call and text her multiple times a day. She needs to know where you're going at all times and will begin to feel restless and angry if you are late contacting her.
2. She wants your attention all the time
A needy woman feels like she deserves your attention at all times, even if your busy talking to someone else, working on something or just relaxing by yourself. She demands to be by your side as often as possible and hand-holding and nonstop body contact is mandatory. She's a controlling woman who feels as if she owns you and discourages you from spending time with your friends.
3. She thinks you don't love her as much as she loves you
A needy woman demands to analyze everything about your relationship and thinks that constantly bringing up problems in the relationship will make you a better man. She'll tell you that she feels like she's the only one trying to hold the relationship together, and if she doesn't see you wearing the shirt she bought you three months ago, she thinks that you don't care about her anymore.
4. She's constantly worried about being dumped
If you forget to say "I love you" at the end of a conversation, she thinks the relationship is coming to an end. Due to previous disappointments and painful experiences with men, she is a psychologically unstable individual who needs constant reassurance that you are still there and haven't dumped her.
5. She has no life of her own
She's afraid to have her own interests, always glues herself to you and follows you around all the time instead of doing her own thing. She wants to spend every bit of her free time with you and wears out her welcome rather quickly.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs You're Being Needy.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Make no mistake about it, gentlemen; all women lie in certain situations and your girlfriend is no exception. Sometimes she's only telling half-truths to keep the peace. Sometimes her motives are to protect her own feelings or to cover her tracks. Whatever the case, certain lies occur much more frequently than others. Here are five lies women commonly tell men.
1. "It doesn't matter how much you make."
It does matter how much you make. People do have to make a living, and they need to have some sort of means of support. Women love the feeling of being taken care of, and they want a guy who is financially stable and independent.
2. "I'm not mad at you."
This lie is one of the most frequently used in relationships, and even if she pretends that she doesn't care, her eye rolling and passive-aggressive behavior are dead giveaways that she's angry with you. A woman expects you to magically predict when she doesn’t like something you've done, even if she’s hiding it. So, unless you’re a mind reader, you’ll have to listen to your woman and get her to actually talk about what’s bothering her.
3. "I wouldn't change anything about you."
Although she puts up with you day in and day out, do you really think there is nothing about you that she wouldn't change? Soon enough the truth will come out and she'll be re-sketching better versions of you.
4. “I’ve slept with X number of guys.”
The reason a woman will omit a few escapades from her history is because she is ever fearful of being seen as “easy.” She wants you to make her feel confident that your opinion of her doesn’t lie with her sexual history—and that no matter how many guys she has been with in the past, she's still pure in your eyes.
5. "I love sports too."
Granted, some women do actually enjoy sports, but more than likely, she's making a desperate attempt to gain your attention and connect on with you on a “guy level. Chances are if you ask her any details about stats or players, she'll come up short.