Wednesday, March 30, 2011
So you finally landed a date with a hot girl you thought you'd never have a chance with; however, you didn't notice that by her backing away from you, using her hand as a subtle barrier to keep you at bay, and fanning the air with her "goodbye" message, her body contradicted every kind word her lips said to you.
Still, you were excited about all the "possibilities" -- until two days later, when you made the promised phone call to her and you heard, "You know, I don't think we really have enough in common to see each other again." Where did that come from? Didn't she say it would be great if you called?
When it comes to understanding a woman, what she's doing is just as important as what she's saying -- sometimes more so. Maybe she didn't consciously know she had reservations about seeing you until much later, but her body knew from the get-go and was letting you know with key rejection signals. And since you weren't reading her completely, you wound up getting blindsided.
Understanding a woman's body language will give you a better idea of what she's really thinking and feeling along with saving you a lot of unnecessary heartache. So, the next time you meet a woman you're interested in, watch for the following 3 physical signs that she's not into you so you'll know when you need to change your approach and move on to someone else.
If your date smiles with her mouth but not her eyes and keeps looking away while you speak to her, she's probably not interested and is just trying to be polite and not lead you on. Other signs of disinterest may include her tapping or drumming her fingers, slapping a fake smile on her face without laughing, leaning away from you and just flat out making excuses to leave as soon as possible.
2. She avoids physical proximity
If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you. However, if a woman keeps you at arm's length at all times, she's defensive, guarded and may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close.
3. Anger If she flays her hands instantaneously when demonstrating a point or makes sudden motions when emphasizing some matters, your presence is agitating her--in a bad way. If her hands are placed on her hips or she's swinging her foot in your direction, consider that she's actually making a kicking motion towards you--which are both very, very bad signs.
If a woman is displaying these 3 signs, she's just not feeling it and there's really little point in pursuing this cold fish.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Does your girlfriend control conversations, attempt to prove you wrong and constantly rewrite past events to make her point? Does she force you into agreeing with her and threaten to leave you if you don't do as she says? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? Does she break down your self-confidence little by little until you begin to believe you're nothing without her? If so, you might be dating a controlling woman.
These over-dominant women believe that men and relationships should run no way but their way and will even convince their men that it's for their own good. If your girlfriend exhibits any of these 4 tell-tale signs below, you may very well be in the hands of an overbearing, emotional bully and unless you like having your life steered for you and your opinions made by someone else, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
1. She makes your decisions for you
Controlling women will define you by telling you what you think and feel. They'll tell you when you can go out and when you can invite the guys over to watch the game. These manipulative women believe that they should be able to make every decision in your life and will explode into long tirades when you do not behave in line with their plans. They believe that they know what's best for their men and will even go as far as selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat.
2. She always has to be right
Controlling women must be right at all times. These women are never wrong, and everything is always your fault. They constantly use lines such as "I didn’t do that," "I didn’t say that," "I don't know what you’re talking about," and "It wasn’t that bad." These women control men by shaming them for their thoughts, actions and every time they voice an opinion. They never try to understand your views and will constantly threaten to abandon you, end the relationship or give you the cold shoulder if you don’t play by their rules.
3. She tells you how to spend your money
A controlling woman will tell you that you're spending way too much money on things you enjoy, like drinks and eats with your pals, and suggests you save up for more important things, like her new wardrobe. Before you know it, she'll eventually become in complete control of your credit cards and your pay check.
4. She keeps constant tabs on you
A controlling woman will call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. She also expects you to call her multiple times a day and demands to be by your side as often as possible.
Monday, March 28, 2011
Although we like to think of women as gentle and kind beings, there are some that do nothing but breed chaos, misunderstanding and insanity in relationships--especially when things don't go their way. Whether these behaviors originate from a chemical imbalance or from the environment in which they were raised, one thing is for sure--dating a nutjob can negatively affect all areas of your life; therefore, your goal should be to spot these gals before things get out of control. Here are 8 signs that the woman you're dating is a psycho.
1. She's extremely jealous
This type of psycho will go to any length to force unreasonable faithfulness on you because of her fear of losing you. Regardless of your constant assurances that you only care about her, she feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, gets angry and even has rages when you talk with female relatives, hates the idea of meeting your female friends and refers to all of them as skanks.
2. She's controlling your life
Do you have a hard time remembering the last time you had an opinion? Do you recall your last decision? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? If so, it's because you're being completely controlled. This type of psycho is often good at manipulating and intimidating men, making a guy feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset.
Controlling women like this believe they know what's best for their men and will begin selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat. They will tell you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. They must be right at all times and will use a great deal of coercion and intimidation to force you into agreeing with them, i.e. shaming you for your thoughts, actions, every time you voice an opinion and will never try to understand your views.
3. She makes paranoid assumptions
If another woman calls you on the phone, even if it’s your boss or a female relative, she loses it, and goes into the grand questioning. Even if your 2 or 3 minutes late getting home, she asks what took you so long, or says "You were suppose to be home 3 minutes ago?". She gets angry every time you come within 20 feet of another attractive woman and demands: "What are you looking at?" She also blows up at you anytime you mention an attractive female celebrity and she asks, "So would you do her? Huh? Would you do her, you bastard?" If your girlfriend is displaying any of these behaviors, you might be in bigger trouble than you think.
4. She threatens to hurt or kill herself
When a psycho is on to the fact that you aren’t happy and might be looking for a way out, she will take drastic measures will keep you around such as making crazy statements in the middle of arguments, like,“If you leave, I’ll probably kill myself” and other threats of bodily harm. Even if she really wouldn’t kill herself and is just using these threats as a ploy to keep you around, it’s a serious issue that that leaves only one course of action: You have to break up.
5. She gets physical during arguments
Women like this feel it’s perfectly fine to slap, push, throw objects, force or slam doors and even use weapons against their man when he says or does something they don't like. These women make unrealistic demands of men and feel like they can inflict any kind physical pain on their men without fear of repercussion due to the man's fear of criminal charges, losing his job, etc...
6. She stalks you
A psycho will do things like call repeatedly or call late at night, leave notes at your home or send unwanted text messages and e-mails. When you just want to hang with your friends or even just be alone, she shows up at the bar, at your work, at the gym and at the bookstore. Check your pockets -- she may even be having you tracked.
7. She's emotionally unstable
With this type of psycho, her emotions are like night and day and you can't tell the difference between her being happy, mad or sad--even by looking at her facial expressions. One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. One moment, she is full of laughter and vitality. The next second, she is weeping her eyes out and overcome by misery. Any little bit of change in the day can cause her to react (or overreact) with a tornado of unnecessary emotions.
Women like this have the emotional age of a young child and their emotions ricochet from wild, joyous passion to utmost sorrow. This type of psycho will often exhibit temper tantrums such as getting loud and rude when you’re having a disagreement in public and screaming at the top of her lungs and even approaching you as if she’s going to get physical. She will make you feel like you're walking on eggshells or can't communicate with her without suffering her wrath every single time.
8. She needs constant attention
She cannot spend a moment without speaking to you. She'll send you unwanted text messages and e-mails and will call and page you repeatedly, leaving you voice messages like "I know you're home, pick up the phone." You’re out on lunch with co-workers and she happens to bump into you and just when you're about to go out with your buddies to watch the big game, she'll suddenly develop a mysterious illness, fall to the ground in a pretend faint so that you have to stay home and take care of her. She will encourage you to not work as much and will even go as far as to encourage you to quit your job so you can spend more time with her.
It's no secret that women need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth in a relationship; however, this type of psycho has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. It's this same insecurity that makes this type of psycho want to constantly be around you so she can reassure herself that you are still there and haven't dumped her. This behavior is annoying and, in some relationships, can be exhausting.
All of these signs show a lack of self control, which in time can be unsafe to her as well as you. Whatever the psychosis, a woman who behaves like this is not someone you need to stay with no matter how good she is when she’s happy or in the bedroom. If you're experiencing any of these relationship landmines, it's time to cut ties as soon as possible.
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Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Jealousy causes women to do crazy things and feel very powerful emotions that range from love to hate. When it comes to dating, jealousy can make a woman buckle up, fight more and give more.
For a guy, knowing how to provoke this powerful emotion out of a beautiful woman can give you the upper hand in the dating game. The only aim of getting a woman jealous is to give her the impression that you are the prize and that there are others who would readily grab you if she messes up even the slightest bit. Women are very competitive and if they sense you are in high demand with other women, more than likely they’ll compete to win your attention.
So, how exactly do you use jealousy to attract women? Let's say you're in a bar and there are two women there. One is attractive and you like her; however, the other one is not so attractive. You approach both women, but the entire time you converse and flirt with the less attractive woman much more than with the attractive woman. Most of the time in this scenario, the more attractive woman will try and work harder for your attention.
In a similar scenario, let's say you're flirting with just one woman and she won't give you the time of day. Simply turn around and go chat up another girl in her vicinity, acting like you've forgotten she even exists. At this point, the first girl who paid no attention to you will definitely be observing your behavior, and the second girl's camaraderie with you can easily induce a fit of jealousy. In this situation, don't be surprised if the first girl (who didn't have any feelings for you until she saw you with the second one) makes her way toward your direction in a hurry.
Let's give you a third scenario. Say there's a girl that you like in your social circle. It's a good idea to start hanging out with her close female friend. This way, you have a greater chance of producing jealousy in her, which can lead to attraction. Also, you can try strategies like ignoring the girl you like the most when you are with a group of female friends. This way, she will wonder why are you talking with the other women more than with her.
Now that you've got the idea, you should be on your way to making women want you. While this is not a fool proof strategy, remember--women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows that you don't have any trouble meeting other women, it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction for you--whether she realizes it or not.
They say that some of the best relationships start out as friendships, and while that it is true, not every friendship is meant to blossom into something romantic. In order for a woman to commit to a serious relationship, or even think about dating a man, a natural attraction and chemistry between her and the guy must exist. If these two conditions are not met, the woman will not pursue the romantic relationship and will place the guy into the "Friend Zone" instead. So before you make the mistake of chasing her, use these 5 signs she just wants to be friends as a guide.
1. She tells you what a good friend you are
Many men believe that by acting as a woman's best friend or love counselor, they can somehow become her knight in shining armor and work their way into her heart. This may work well in Hollywood, but in real life, you’re just kidding yourself. If she has mentioned that you are the "perfect friend," that is her subtle way of letting you know that that is ALL you are to her.
2. She talks about other guys in front of you
Instead of giving you signs that she'd like to take your relationship to another level, she lets you know which guys she thinks is hot, asks you for advice about different men she’s attracted to and constantly tells you about all her problems with them.
3. She tries to set you up with her friends
If she's always trying to set you up with her friends or talks about the kind of girl that would be perfect for you, she just wants to be friends. Remember, if she was physically attracted to you, she'd be hugging you, kissing you and jumping your bones--not trying to pass you off on another girl.
4. She always insists on paying her half
When a guy pays for dinner, it's a date; however, if the two of you are just friends, she won't let you pay for her meal because she doesn't want to owe you anything.
5. She constantly tells you how much she appreciates you
She says things like: “I feel like I can talk to you about anything, "You‘re really a nice guy," "You‘re just like a brother to me," "You understand me," and last but not least "What would I do without you?" Remember, you may understand her while the bad boy she's making out with doesn't.
Remember, guys: Men do the picking, but women do the choosing. Be able to see the signs a woman is not interested in you and make the choice to either stay as her friend or move on to a woman who is romantically interested.
The types of gifts a woman will remember most are those that show you made an effort to please her and show her how you feel, and the more time, effort and consideration you put into her gift, the gushier she’ll get. The following is a list of five possible gifts that are sure to please the woman in your life and can make her see you in a whole new light. This is a great idea for the woman in your life who seems to have it all or if you want to avoid buying a material gift just for the sake of it. Nothing can impress a woman more than a guy who can make them feel special and treat them like the ultimate queen, so consider spoiling her with a spa package with the full works including a manicure, pedicure, a hair styling session, a facial and a massage.
Lingerie is an all time favorite gift with the majority of women, but you are walking a fine line with this one. When it comes to buying lingerie for your woman, you have to think sensuous and you need to know what sort of lingerie she would like. Lingerie can also be a very unromantic gift if not properly chosen. For example, something like, say, crotchless panties and baby doll tops could be seen as slutty and could take the romance right out of the gift. Buy something she will feel good in and don’t make it so provocative that it seems more like a gift for you than for her. There are hardly any women who can resist jewelry; however, because jewelry is often expensive and can be easily shown off, it's usually reserved for serious relationships. When you give jewelry, make sure it's not fake and pick an item that would have special meaning for your girlfriend. Whether the item is gold, sliver or platinum, locket with a picture of the two of you, charm bracelets are all thoughtful gifts.
Perfumes or fragrances are always sure to make her happy; however, you really need to know a woman well to head to the perfume counter and successfully choose a winner on your own. If you are not sure what type of scent to get her, during a casual conversation find out what kind of perfume she wears or do a little snooping on your own.
A purse is every woman's best friend. It is the most useful and personal accessory a girl could possess, so if you plan to purchase a purse for the lady in your life, you should know her personal preferences. You can figure that out by paying attention to what she’s carrying now. If you're still not sure, take your mom, sister or female friend with you shopping and pick out a handbag that you think she will like.
Monday, March 7, 2011
There are times in all romantic relationships when things don't run smoothly and can be difficult to understand--even in the most ideal of circumstances. Although relationships have their ups and downs, there are things you can both do that can minimize problems. Below are five of the most common relationship problems along with solutions that can help you have a better relationship.
The foundation and relative success of every relationship you maintain in life is built on communication; however, it is also the most common relationship problem. All relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, but if you want your relationship to work, you need to learn how to talk and listen properly to your partner.
It's no secret--men and women have very different communication styles; however, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. So, block off an hour or two for quality time with her and make the effort after a long day to discuss work, friends, your relationship, etc..
Their comes a time in any sexual relationship when you may feel you are not getting what you want or that you are not satisfying your woman. Even couples who love each other can be incompatible sexually. Compounding these problems is the fact that men and women alike are sorely lacking in sex education and sexual self-awareness.
If sitting down together and having a talk session about improving your sex life is too difficult, you may find that it is easier for you to show your partner what you want done differently or guide your partner during lovemaking. You may even find that your partner might have suggestions of her own. If you keep an open mind and attitude, you can avoid offending her and actually improve both of your styles and skills in the bedroom.
3. Not prioritizing your relationship
You can schedule time for sports, eating and going out with the fellas, don't you? So why should scheduling quality time with your woman be any different? Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life and keep her interested in the relationship by doing things like making gestures of appreciation, compliment her, contacting her throughout the day, and showing genuine interest in her.
Trust is an essential part of any relationship. Ask yourself if there are certain behaviors or unresolved issues that are causing you and your partner not to trust each other? You and your partner can resolve trust issues by making a sincere effort to be open and truthful with each other, letting go of past grievances and doing simple things like being consistent, calling when you say you will, respecting each others boundaries and not overreacting when things go wrong.
5. Moving too fast
Some couples can go from casual to serious very quickly because they have so much in common or because of great sex. Some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love or they're simply tired of being alone and would rather be with anyone to feel loved.
Whatever the reason, some relationships get way too serious way too fast and if you find yourself in such a situation, you might start looking for ways to take it down a notch. Doing things like group dating, avoiding spending the night at her place or inviting her to spend the night at yours and making post-date plans will keep you from spending all of your free time with her will make things feel a little less serious--at least for the time being.
Every woman has Alpha Female traits inside of them; some are just better at showing it than others. While most women are passive and wait for or use silent flirting to get men to approach them, the Alpha Female calls all the shots in her world and makes things happen. Inside of the true Alpha Female lies an inner security that is lacking in many other women. So, how do you know if you're dealing with an Alpha Female? Below are the top five Alpha Female characteristics.
The Alpha Female is fiercely independent, can take care of herself and doesn't need a man in her life. She will want to be the one to set up dates and will often tell you she is busy when you ask. She will also insist on paying her part for movie tickets, getting into clubs, and for meals. She doesn't want to be in a position where she feels that she owes you in some way. She does not want to be tied down to any man and won’t rely on you for everything.
The Alpha Female asserts influence and control and won’t be pushed around. She stands up for herself and quickly puts people in their place if they try to disrespect her. The Alpha Female is articulate and speaks with her mouth as well as with her eyes. She is a strong woman who knows what she wants, feels and needs and easily expresses these things. The Alpha Female is used to having men pursue her and give in to her every whim; therefore, she is selective about who she invites into her life and will quickly let you know she's not into you.
The Alpha Female truly loves herself and is comfortable in her own skin. She loves her body and her brain and she works them out regularly. She knows her own value and sees that she’s beautiful from the inside out. She is playful, yet determined and you will find that an Alpha Female is extremely sure of herself. She won’t settle for less than the absolute BEST in everything from men to her career. She's on top of her dating game and doesn't doubt for a moment that she has the ability to get any man she wants. She gives you a run for your money and doesn't make it easy to pick her up.
4. Sex Appeal
You will find that the Alpha Female isn't always the most beautiful woman out there; however, she always practices making herself look good, knows the hottest parties and gets into every club without waiting. She flirts with you and moves her body in ways that make you think of sex. She's a fashion leader who is able to wear a varied wardrobe with elegance, flair and style. She doesn't blend in with the crowd and you immediately know when she walks in the room because of her charisma and dynamic presence.
The Alpha Female is actively pursuing dreams or goals and is not concerned with a man making enough money to provide for her. She manages to rise to the top in her career because of her style and intellect and is not afraid to use, and sometimes, exploit her femininity to get her way with men or seal business deals. Simply put, she is a woman who is completely in control of her destiny.
Friday, March 4, 2011
When it comes to dating, women often go against their better judgment and overlook quirky things men do to cut them some slack. Although the women you're dating are trying their best to see your better qualities, there are definitely near-universal red flags they look for when sizing you up.
Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the first date.
1. Constantly talking about your ex
Constantly talking about your ex with your dates can make a very bad first impression and run a new woman off in a hurry! Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness.
2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will skip over men in this situation because it's clear that these guys don't like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious commitment issues.
3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe--but they don't want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to or what to wear. Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to run from you very quickly.
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves; therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.
5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions.
6. Bad-mouthing others
A woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on coworkers, family or friends, or criticize those close to you. Not only that, but she will question your loyalty to her and begin to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can really trust you. Women like to date men whom they can move forward with and see a bright future. They don't want to be with men who have no ambition or drive, are stagnant and are going nowhere fast. Women want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable lifestyle and showing no signs of maturity can make a woman flee from you.
8. Lack of chivalry
Being a gentleman when you are on a date means showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. We should all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. While just about every woman is enjoying the benefits that come with equality, at the end of the day, she wants to be treated like a lady and if you can’t deliver, there’s a good chance she won’t stick around for long.
9. Still living at home
10. Moving too quickly
Moving too fast in a relationship is usually a sign that you're uncomfortable being by yourself or you are looking for a woman to help solve your problems. Talking about what your children will look like after the first date, asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or even spilling loads of very personal information too quickly all point to desperation.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags To Look For In Women.