Saturday, March 27, 2010

5 Signs She's Not Trustworthy

Why Women Lie
Getting involved with a woman you can't trust can cause some serious problems in your relationship. Here are 5 of the warning signs that the woman you're dating may not be trustworthy.

1. She's dishonest with you and you catch her telling lies, or, she might just keep things from you to keep you at a disadvantage; that way, she can pick and choose what to tell you. She might withhold information from you and lie outright in order to maintain a sense power over you and to control the way you think or feel.

2. She constantly gossips about other people. When dealing with a woman like this, if you tell her your deepest secrets, she's going to tell everyone she knows.

3. Whenever you try to make plans with her to meet your family or get together with your friends, she makes up excuses to avoid meeting them. Also, she never brings up the subject of meeting her family or friends. A manipulative woman who tries this kind of trick likely has control issues and will continue to dominate you.

4. You would think that after a few dates, any normal woman that was sincerely interested in you wouldn't mind you calling her at home, but with this type of woman, most of the time you can't get in touch with her and she offers no explanation. You keep asking for her phone number at home and she refuses to give it to you.

5. She's always late for dates and offers no apology or explanation or makes up lousy excuses.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Dating a Beautiful Criminal

dating red flags
Have you ever suspected that there was a hidden side in your relationship... and it wasn't you? The late nights, the secretiveness, the days away from home... she could be having an affair, OR, she could be a highly developed criminal mastermind!

Women like this have the innate gift to fool the average person. These manipulative women seem to always be in the midst of trouble and are very good at perfecting their personality so that you would never guess this person is the criminal. They fail to consider possible consequences of their actions. They lie, cheat and have yet to develop a sense of what is right or wrong, nor do they have any respect for the possessions of others. These female law breakers often place themselves at the center of the universe and fail to consider the impact of their behavior on others. They continuously make excuses why they do not want to invite you to their home and when you ask them questions about themselves, they seem to get short, defensive, or change the subject.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Authority figures are challenged and boundaries are defined during adolescence, but when grown women break the law, it shows that they are irresponsible in their character and behavior. Acknowledge patterns of behavior, and recognize that problems you face early on in terms of personality and conflict are not likely things you can change about a person.

When meeting new women, you need to learn about your their criminal and mental history in addition to their relationship history. It's perfectly normal to date a woman who's only had a few parking tickets; however, if she's still shoplifting or piling up DUI convictions, that's reckless behavior and getting involved with women like this could seriously endanger you emotionally, physically and financially.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Catching a Cougar

younger men dating older women
So what should men know about the realities of dating older women? First off, realize that a woman has as much right as a man to date someone younger. Men often refer to older women dating younger men as “cougars,” with the meaning of cougar being a sexy older woman who is typically over age 40; intelligent, financially independent, has a powerful career and knows what she wants and allows herself the freedom to seek out younger men. These sexy alpha females have heard all the lines and know all the moves.

A cougar will dress quite suggestively to make guys notice her, often wearing low-cut or tight outfits to appear younger than her age. From afar she might look like a young hottie, which gets guys to approach her; but by the time you get close enough to her and her true age becomes apparent, she's already been flirtatious with you and has lured you into her lair.

Most cougars look for the hottest-looking guys they can get and for the most part, they think like men in that they seem to want what men want--sex with no strings attached. So with this in mind coupled with the fact that women hit their sexual peak later in life, it could put you in perfect sync with one another. On the other hand, some cougars come on strong and appear to be looking for easy sex, but right around the time things start to get intimate they'll reveal themselves to be seeking a relationship.

As you meet these sexy cougars, make sure you establish what you’re looking for before you get romantically involved. You must be willing to accept the fact that most cougars have a significant amount of baggage e.g., ex-boyfriends, husbands, children, pending divorces, financial obligations, and debts.

You must also understand that a cougar is likely to have had her fill of men telling her what to do, so
if you’re used to dating less-experienced younger women, be prepared for a cougar telling you what she wants and how she wants it, especially in the bedroom. You may not be in the driver’s seat, but that could turn out to be a good thing!

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Breakup Survival

Sometimes break ups are welcome. But when they're not, it can definitely feel like the end of the world. Whatever the reason for the split, the breakup of a long-term, committed relationship can trigger lots of painful feelings and mixed emotions. Although it may seem impossible, there are some things you can do to get through this difficult time.

When your relationship falls apart, it presents an opportunity to look and see what things happened. You’ll need to be honest with yourself as you begin the healing process after a breakup, examine where you went wrong and think about how you can make better choices the next time around. This opportunity also gives you the chance to look at the ways in which the relationship was holding you back, how you contributed to the problems of the relationship and whether you tend to repeat the same mistakes or choose the wrong women in relationship after relationship.

After a breakup, don't underestimate the importance of taking the time to get to know yourself. Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward after a breakup. You can help yourself heal while dealing with a breakup by scheduling daily time for activities you find calming and soothing. Instead of having a pity party, see your period of healing after a breakup as an opportunity to learn more about yourself, how to recognize bad relationship signs, how you relate to others, and the problems you need to work on.

Although your routine, home and relationships with extended family and friends may be disrupted after a breakup, try not to beat yourself up over your mistakes. It’s normal to want to talk with your family and friends about what happened, and sharing your feelings with them can actually help you get through this period of grief. Surrounding yourself with loved ones who value you for who you are and knowing that others are aware of your feelings will make you feel less alone with your pain and rebuild your self-esteem. As you share your issues with people who genuinely care about you, ask them to really listen to you and be willing to accept any advice from them that will help you in your future relationships.

Remember, a breakup is a beginning as well as an end. Take the opportunity after a breakup to explore new interests and activities as you begin looking forward to finding the woman of your dreams. Make the choice to move on and find happiness, and you will.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Top 10: Signs She's Interested In You

If you ever wonder whether you are just imagining a woman's flirtatious ways, here are 10 signs that she is indeed interested in you:

1. She will act differently around you depending on how confident she is, e.g., acting nervous around you.

2. If you happen to glance at her and you catch her staring back at you, she probably wants you.

3. Look for her eyes to light up when she sees you or hears your name.

4. She seems to go out of her way to be around you and plays with her hair when she talks to you, throws in a comment here or there and she asks you lots of questions about yourself.

5. If she playfully hits you on the shoulder, she definitely likes you. This also includes touching you more often than what friends do, e.g., she's constantly trying to touch your hand.

6. If you see most of her girlfriends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, she's probably telling her friends about you. Make no mistake about it--what she tells her girlfriends about you is very important.

7. If she trusts you enough to let you in on a couple of personal things about herself, she probably likes you.

8. If she constantly asks about your relationship status and asks your preference in types of women, she's likely fishing to see if she might meet your interests.

9. If she likes you, she will probably laugh at all your jokes-- even if they're not funny!

10. If she asks you to go out and do something only with her, she's trying to send you the message that she wants to be more than just friends.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Younger Women Dating Older Men

It is a known fact that women, in general, are attracted to older men and will date men that are a few years older than themselves. If a woman is thirty, she'll probably date a man in his forties and so on. So what is it that draws women to these older guys?

Most women will admit that they want a strong man who can stand his own ground and be confident; and generally speaking, many women appreciate the maturity of an older man. It's no secret that the qualities that women are looking for in their future husbands are the same qualities that men slightly older than them display. Most women assume that older men are well trained at being a gentleman, are more civilized and more capable of providing for and supporting whoever they are with. They also feel older men have probably been married or at least have gone through a lot of different relationships, have learned how to treat a woman and how to give her what she wants and/or needs.

When it comes to dating younger men, many women feel that these guys still have a sense of immaturity about them and that they don't know what it means to really treat a woman. It’s a well-known fact that women mature faster than men, and if a woman wants to date an older guy, it's probably because she's had her fill of the 23-year-old party animal who still believes he’s invincible and can't even remember her name. Mature, younger women, who are no longer interested in dealing with the games and attitudes of younger guys appreciate an older man's life experiences and the fact that they're over many of the games they may have played in their younger years. Also, if a younger woman is ready to start a family, she feels older men might settle down sooner.

In the discussion of older men younger women dating, there are some women who will argue that older men only ask them out because they take longer to grow up and mature or only want a trophy girlfriend on their arm to boost their ego. Another argument to dating younger women is that older men miss out on meeting a mature, wise and appreciative woman their own age. While this may be true in some cases, in reality, most older men who date younger women do so because they feel that women younger than them have more energy, spontaneity and less dating baggage. They simply want to feel rejuvenated and youthful again and make their sex life more adventurous.

The real disadvantages to this type of relationship for an older man dating a younger woman is that there may be a difference in the energy levels between the two of them. The age difference can cause a big difference in interests such as music, social activities and morals. If an older man doesn't keep up with the younger woman or perhaps loses his financial stability and/or health, a gold digger might lose interest in him and leave him rather quickly.

Ultimately, older men dating younger women must be able to deal with the attitudes of others who stare, those who comment about the age difference, the negative attitudes of those who just disapprove, and the many other challenges they may be faced with. Older men younger women dating can be wonderful as long as both of you know what you are looking for and where you want to go with it before you get too involved.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Traits of a Good Wingman

A wingman is more than just your dating coach and motivator. He's the one guy you can trust that will do anything for the good of the mission, which is to get you hooked up with a hot girl. Here are 3 traits a good wingman should possess.

1. He keeps you at your best

A good wingman will not be afraid to let you know if your breath is bad or if your cologne is too strong. He'll also make sure that you're looking sharp and help you improve things like your posture. A good wingman can read your body language and act accordingly to help you score your target. He'll also make sure that you don't start talking too much or start acting obnoxious around women--behaviors which will make the ladies avoid you altogether.

2. He runs interference for you

A good wingman will run interference and engage anybody who's trying to move in on your target, whether it's another guy or a girl. If it's a guy, a good wingman will get in his way and box him out so you can continue working on the hot girl. If it's another woman, he'll start a conversation with her and distract her long enough for you to move in on your target.

3. He understands his mission and keeps you motivated
If you approach two attractive ladies, a good wingman will give you first dibs on the hot one and keep the less attractive girl distracted, sustaining the other girl's interest so you can move in on the target. The good wingman will boost your confidence and will put you in the best possible light, talking you up at the right times to keep you looking good. He'll gather info on the desired girl from her friends. He'll let you know if she has a boyfriend and will find out what her turn-ons and her turn-offs are. He can also sense whether you're on the right track or just wasting time with the wrong woman.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

5 Dating Mistakes Women Make

There are women out there who will unknowingly sabotage a potentially great relationship that could have gone somewhere by scaring a man off right at the beginning. Although your perfect match may not come exactly as you envisioned, beware of the signs of emotional baggage and the following 5 undesirable dating behaviors women do.

1. Pushing their friends on you

Avoid women who push their friends on you too soon. Try getting to know a woman for a month or two and learn what she's all about before you meet all of her friends and be put on display as her boyfriend.

2. Being clingy and possessive

A clingy and possessive woman can’t go anywhere or do anything without you. This type of woman will adopt your interests, call you twenty times a day and lose control anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. If she sees you speaking with another woman, she'll immediately run over and start grabbing your hand. She will smother you and destroy any chance of you missing her because because the two of you are never apart.

3. Trash talking other women in front of men

A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. You say, "Look how slutty that woman looks!" Women who make comments like this to guys are telling you that they're not confident in the way they look and that they are very insecure.

4. Always talking about themselves

There are some women out there who are only concerned about what is going on in their own life and sharing their insights. Avoid women are full of themselves and come off with a stuck up attitude. Although most women are more verbal than men, it takes two to have a conversation. If she's not interested in anything about you or what you have to say, it's time to move on.

5. Going back to bad boyfriends

How many times have we seen a woman who finds the courage to break free from a terrible relationship where the guy didn't love her, slapped her around and didn't appreciate her unceremoniously go right back to him only months later. Avoid women like this at all costs.