Monday, May 18, 2009
When it comes to love, and particularly women, men can experience difficulties in deciding if a woman loves them or not. There are ways to tell if a woman loves you by the way she moves, the way she speaks, and other actions she takes even when she is not with you. If you are in a new relationship, and don’t know how to interpret the signals you’re getting from the woman you are dating, here are ten signs she loves you:
1. You notice a change in her appearance
When it comes to a woman who are in love, you will notice a sudden makeover in the way she looks. Her makeup, hairstyle, clothes and accessories will change as she will do anything to try and impress you.
2. She shows genuine concern for you
When a woman falls in love, she will worry about you and won’t be able to stay away if she notices you’re having troubles. She will let you know that she's there for you in case you need her, and she will be deeply concerned and interested in any problems you're having.
3. She shows you off to family and friends
A woman who really loves a man is proud to be with him and can't wait to show him off to her friends and family. She will constantly talk about you with others and will be deeply interested in wanting to know your parents and your friends.
4. She makes sacrifices for you
Another sign that she really loves you is when she takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do. It is easy for her when you do the things she likes to do, but if you've noticed that she's given up these normal activities to be with you, it's an indication that she cares about you a great deal.
5. She talks about the future with you
A woman in love will talk very excitedly about the future, making plans regarding it and telling you about the things she wants the two of you to do together. She will make subtle hints while imagining building a future with you in it.
6. She does unexpected, yet pleasant things to surprise you
It's in a woman's nature to want to give to the people she cares about. If she begins doing things like showing up at your workplace with lunch, buying you meaningful gifts, straightening up around your apartment, cooking you dinner, or helping with your laundry, she is very likely in love with you.
7. She touches you frequently
A woman in love enjoys being physically close to the person she appreciates so much, so you should guess her feelings from reading her body language. She will touch you often, rest her hand on your arm, massage your back when you're together and she might even have goose bumps when she’s near you.
8. You are the only guy she's focused on
If she’s in love with you, she won’t be bothered with dealing with other guys, as you’re now the only one she focuses her attention on.
9. She wants to be around you as much as possible
A woman in love won’t think twice about clearing up her busy schedule for you. She will postpone her appointments, be late for meetings, and skip classes at a moments notice to spend as much time with you as possible.
10. She wants to know intimate details about you
A woman in love will show a lot of interest in the life of a particular guy, so if she starts being extremely curious, sincerely and profoundly interested in every aspect of your life, asking about your day, wanting to know everything about your childhood, your family, and things that happened in your life that made you the man you are today, it's a very good indication that she loves you.
Some women aren’t content just to be happy. Their brains are wired differently than ours and they crave conflict, drama and instability. They like to start fights over nothing. Because they need and want to be constantly reassured, they thrive on insecurity. They are emotionally-driven creatures and this is why they test men by constructing damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t traps to put a man's commitment, loyalty and motives on trial.
Most of these traps come across as innocent questions or offhand remarks when in fact, they’re designed to make you fail. This trapping may be a ridiculous and childish game that lots of manipulative women force men to play, but there’s no way you can avoid it, so the trick is to learn how to effectively side step them. Here are some of the most common questions women use to trap men, along with some good responses you should give.
1. "What are you thinking?"
The classic trap. Women believe that the sun and universe revolve around them. So when she asks this question, what she really means is, “Are you thinking about me right now?“ Her female psychology drives her to imagine that she dominates your thoughts twenty-four hours a day.
• ”I was just thinking how pretty you look today.”
• “I was just thinking what a lucky guy I am to even know you.”
2. "Do I look fat?"
What she’s really asking is, “Do you still think I’m sexually attractive, This is a tough one especially if she knows she’s fat and hasn't been to the gym in a while.
• Look at her in utter amazement that she could even ask such a question.
• Don’t answer directly. Instead, say something like, “You’re the sexiest woman I’ve ever seen.”
3. "Are you attracted to my brains or my body?"
This is female talk for ”Did you hook up with me just because I have a big butt?” It’s the perfect female trap. If you answer that it was her intelligence and great personality that initially got you interested, then she’ll come back with, “Oh, so you think I’m ugly?”
“You know what’s so great about you, honey? You’re the perfect combination of beauty and brains. Everything about you turns me on.”
4. "Do you love me?"
What she’s really asking is, “Is this relationship going to end up in marriage or is this just temporary and I'm just wasting my time with you?” Never forget that women look at dating and marriage as businesses, and if she’s not going to realize a future profit, then she will have no further use for you.
This is another time to cleverly sidestep a direct answer, so say something like, ”You are the perfect woman. I love being around you.”
5. "How many women have you had sex with?”
What’s really going through her mind are questions like, “How could you possibly have had sex with anyone other than me?”, “Do you still think about these women?”, and “Were they better sexual partners than I am?”
“I can’t remember, honey. Since I met you, no other woman matters.”
Remember, what she’s really after is psychological reassurance. These are just a few of the traps women use. They have plenty more traps in their arsenal, so make sure that you’re constantly on your toes or you just might fall in.
Monday, May 11, 2009
In the early stages of a relationship there are few people, if anyone, that you need to worry about impressing more than her mother. When push comes to shove, her mother doesn't care about the amount of gifts, flowers or compliments you have to offer--your girlfriend's mom is really only concerned with how you treat her daughter.
The best way to impress your girlfriend’s mother is to act natural. Be yourself. There is nothing worse than trying to hard to be someone you are not and then totally “blowing it” and having to explain yourself later. Moms have X-ray vision, especially when it comes to telling whether a man is being fake and if they don’t like you, you’re not going to get very far.
On the other hand, “being yourself” does not mean being rude and obnoxious and looking unkempt. If you show up looking unshaven and dressed like you're jobless, chances are that her mother will not be impressed and may even become upset and disappointed about your lack of etiquette. Moms don’t want their daughters dating losers, so show her you’re not one. Be a gentleman, dress accordingly when you’re in her presence, leave your faded jeans and holey t-shirts at home and throw on something a little more sophisticated. Simple and classy, bringing her mother flowers is also a sophisticated and gentlemanly way to get in her good graces.
Early on, her mom will likely try to determine whether or not you’re marriage material or just a short-term fling. When you first meet her, she’s probably going to ask you about where you went to school and what you do for a living so she can determine whether or not her daughter's possible future mate has his life together.
Take this time to give her a mini-resume, tell her positive things about yourself, your goals and your career and engage in interesting conversation with her. You can also ask her questions about her family and careers without being too intrusive. Spend a few minutes exchanging pleasantries with her mom; in fact, it will do wonders for your relationship -- with both mother and daughter. Who knows, she may drop some hints that could help you win her daughter over.
Remember, good manners are a must when you’re in her mother's company, and you surely know it’s good to be extra affectionate and supportive of your partner when her mom is around. Let her mom know how much you appreciate her daughter all the time and never disrespect your girlfriend in front of her mother and definitely not during the early stages of your relationship. Teasing your woman down the road in a friendly manner can be acceptable, especially if you've built a good rapport with the mother. But at first, the mother may be inclined to think that you might cross the line and do worse things.
Every mother prays for the happiness of her daughter, and hopes that she will have a better life than her own. So make her dreams come true by being extra affectionate and supportive of your partner when her mom is around along with all of the other little things to show her mom what a great guy you are.